I'm getting married soon. Danny wants for us to move in w/ his friend and that means I would have to go to a new church and I don't want to.Anyhow Danny doesn't know it yet but I'm holding back my wedding plans now b/c of 2 things. 1 They say divorces run in families and if that's the case, Divorces ran to the finish line in mine.I'm trying to protect myself from getting hurt b/c Mama, sister and my cousin have been through divorces.What's going to say that one day Danny won't decide he doesn't want to be married to me anymore and leave me? How am I going to know he won't leave me? The 2nd reason I'm holding back my plans is b/c I have a crush on Ricky and if I could talk to him in his office I could tell him but I won't say it's him I have a crush on. I'll just describe him and see if he can figure it out.I want to know what you think abt this please.
2007-05-03 19:29:15 · 9 answers · asked by Fancy L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You are SO not ready to get married, marriage is all about compromise, it seems you don't want to make any sacrifices like changing church for example, you'll meet new people and make new friends, what's wrong with that...it's called broadening your horizons. Divorce is not catching, a marriage takes work and effort from both parties, are you willing to work hard to keep things on track? There are no guarantees in a marriage, you say "how do I know he won't leave me" but how do you know he will?? You are being negative about the marriage and thinking it is doomed to fail before it has even started. And lastly you are contemplating a relationship with another man (Ricky), personally I think you should give yourself more time to figure out what you want, but at this stage I would say no way are you ready to marry.
2007-05-03 19:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are going to be the cause of a divorce if you get married and then cheat because you have a "crush" on some other guy. You need to be straight up with your fiance because that isn't fair to him.
It doesn't seem like you are mature enough to be getting married anyways. Divorces don't run in families, although some people learn relationship skills from the couples around them, and if you're not surrounded by healthy relationships you might not know how to be in one your self. (I'm not saying this is the case for everyone because that would be a poor generalization)
2007-05-03 21:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by Julz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T GET MARRIED!!! You are so not ready for this. How can you even think of marrying one person, and have a crush on someone else? Getting married now would be the biggest mistake you ever made. Besides, how fair is it for Danny to go into something not knowing all the facts and how you're feeling? When you're ready to have some open, honest, communication with your special person, then you will be ready to get married.
2007-05-07 14:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have a crush on someone else you shouldnt be thinking about marrying danny. I was in love with another man when I married my husband whom i also cared for and thought I would eventually get over the other man. During the 17 years of my marriage I could not get this other man out of my heart and when problems began to arise in my marriage I would think more about him and wonder what could have been. The time finally came when I was so miserable in my marriage I started looking for the first man and found him. I ended up divorcing my husband and being with the first man for a few years before I realized what I thought was love was only lust. Fortunately for me my ex and I remain best friends to this day. Footnote: My marriage did not end because of the other man, it ended because I didnt love my husband, but the other man was the one who gave me courage to leave an unhappy marriage.
2007-05-03 21:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not fully committed to Danny, don't marry him. You obviously aren't because you have a crush on Ricky and would leave Danny for Ricky. Divorces don't run in families, it's not an inherited disease.
2007-05-03 21:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by curly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have feelings for someone else, whether it be a crush or a misinterpretation of friendship, then you should so not get married. You need to be sure about a commitment like that. So, good luck in making that choice.
2007-05-06 14:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by wrong12ask 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are not ready for marriage.
Moving in with a "friend" is not a good idea for newlyweds on his part.
On your part, you are not ready for commitment (as you have a crush and it seems you are thoughtfully acting on it with Ricky) and you are not confident in yourself to trust him nor in Danny to love you.
It is not fair to Danny to have a crush on someone and act on it (telling him is acting on it) and questioning his commitment to you.
2007-05-03 20:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure. Condoms do not continuously artwork completely, so that you ought to continuously have emergency birth control accessible. you ought to take the morning after pill in case you sense it really is significant. you ought to also evaluate happening birth control to dodge a being pregnant considering that it really is a scary element (being pregnant so youthful).
2016-12-05 08:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by naranjo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very immature. Don't get married. You need to grow up first.
2007-05-03 23:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋