I'm just too...unrefined.I want a girl that I can be honest with and not have to filter what I say with.Of course It doesn't help that I swear an enormous amount, and am brutally honest.(if a dress makes you look fat I'm gonna tell you that).Am I hopeless?Destined for loneliness?
2007-05-03 17:35:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People who are that brutally honest can be funny sometimes, although I guess that's not what you're going for. But as long as you find someone who appreciates brutal honesty and also you don't mind hearing it back from them sometimes.
2007-05-03 17:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your unabashed honesty is the only thing worrying you, have no fear. Honesty is an admirable - and increasingly rare - quality. But, as you probably know, there is a difference between being honest and being hurtful.
It's certainly okay to have honest thoughts, but if you know in your mind that what you're about to say can hurt someone's feelings, it's probably best to keep it to yourself. Or, you can pull the old equivocation trick - tell some of the truth, without telling the complete truth. ie "How do these jeans make me look?" response: [thinking to yourself: "Good God, you're huge] "Well, that color really matches your eyes." The point is to avoid saying hurtful things while satisfying your need to tell some extent of truth.
Really though, it just depends on the person. Some people are extraordinarily sensitive and don't appreciate any sort of criticism. You're not likely to be compatible with that type of person. But believe it or not, there are girls out there who appreciate unrestrained honesty.
The one thing you should never do, though, is have the "it's hopeless" attitude, because that projects insecurity - who is going to be attracted to that? Girls love confidence. If you appear self-assured, you'll find that you have an easier time meeting people, and your unrefined qualities will seem more forgivable.
2007-05-04 00:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by Taryn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love someone who can be brutally honest. Though, if I don't ask for your opinion on whether the dress looks good on me, I don't expect you to say anything unless you're going to compliment how I look.
I'm in a complicated relationship with a Marine right now, so I think I can handle swearing. Only immature or prissy girls have a problem with swearing. It's cute that he tries to curb his swearing around me, though.
Of course, these things aren't all that makes a person "dateable." There's a certain degree of shallowness in every girl. And there are other aspects to your personality too. I like to believe that no one is hopeless or "destined for lonliness."
And, if it makes you feel any better, there are more girls on the planet than guys, so the odds are in your favor. Speaking strictly in terms of population, there's someone out there for you. Good luck!
2007-05-04 00:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love honest guys.
Perhaps I am more "brutally" honest than you...
It's just a matter of chemistry. Look for someone who enjoys being frank and carefree. You two will have a great relationship.
Good Luck!
2007-05-04 00:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its good that you're 100% dead honest with people. but you need to see what situations you are in and decide wheter the truth will hurt them or not. sometimes not everyone can handle those truths, especially if its going to be harsh and mean. when you do want to tell the truth, find a way to add something positive to make your harsh truths less mean, like "i love you, but your dress makes you look fat"
2007-05-04 00:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naw...Im sure every woman wants to hear how fat they look in a dress...find a owman who doesn't wear dresses...haha...ALL IS NOT LOST....you'll find your other half and when you do you will see that your sensitivity will come out and the brashness will go away....maybe...its a thought to ponder anyway......good luck on your hunt
2007-05-04 00:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by Sexah Mamma :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone is wishing for someone who would accept them for who they are and until now nobody can tell the secret formula for getting it, because it just happens, you just meet that person through interacting with others and not trying too hard, and if for the means of changing you change for the better and not for others but for yourself.
2007-05-04 00:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres a difference btwn being honest and being tactful.
learn the difference.
if the girl asks "do these jeans make me look fat?"
you answer"no, your butt just makes the jeans look too small"
2007-05-04 00:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh..i love u=] be happier in life..it will help you<3
2007-05-04 00:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by ♥this girllll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you use your head, you won't be obnoxious.
2007-05-04 00:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by Mattman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋