Should a woman with a great body dress provocatively and then bemoan the fact that men stare at her?

Question

For that matter, a lot of women with average or even below average bodies do this. Just being witness to this gets old after awhile.

Answer 1

And why does it concern you darling is it any
of your business how I dress
or how any woman dresses, and if men stare at me
they are men and how it goes my dear

Men can stare at me all they want to until their eyes fall out

Answer 2

Of course she shouldn't! If she doesn't like men staring at her then she could just dress less provocatively. Dressing provocatively and then complaining when men stare at her is like bringing a hundred ice cream cones into a kindergarten and then complaining when the kids want some.

miss_cass_3: I think the "admiring glance" you're talking about is really just a "checking out glance". If it's just a glance, then the glancer most likely doesn't think she's hot.

For some guys, especially those more visually oriented, if a girl is really hot, she's just like a magnet for stares. She can't do a thing about the guys staring at her. She's gotta do something about herself. Complaining is not only useless, but who wants to listen to it? The only way that she can get less stares is by trying to look less attractive.

Answer 3

Very amusing question. :-) My answer is, in most cases, yes it should be an appropriate choice for women (of all shapes), for sexual reasons.

It basically says "I want good sex...love is nice when I can get it, but I want sex" and, often also "and you'd better send me signals you are good b/c I don't have time for novice lovers".



In short, my best take on this is that women do this at least in part as a "test" to see experienced men are (and how good potential lovers). An experienced man will glance confidently, almost critically, then look away...an unexperienced man will either not look at all in fear of looking bad in front of the woman or stare as if it's something better than he deserves.

As for women who dress that way and don't have the bodies...they show their expectations of men beat their dedication to their own shape...and they will most likely get shunned most of the time by men who do put in the effort. Then they will likely get a wake up call and get in shape, rather then stop wearing the crazy clothes, and become "on the same level"...or simply give up.

And many smarter men who want only more mature women for a true relationship will dismiss a woman who plays around with how she dresses like that...no matter how pretty her build is...and either use her for a one night stand (knowing a long-term relationship is near out of the question) or ignore her entirely.

So it all works out fairly most of the time and people get what they deserve...amazingly.

Answer 4

Some women just like to have something to complain about.They love the old it is my right to wear what I want.I tell them and it is my right to stare if I want.There is no law against staring.On the same token women are just as bad as men when it comes to another women's attire.I am after all a man if you are a 34 year old women flaunting yourself there is a high probability I am going to take notice and make it a point to stare.If you don't wish to gain my attention cover it up.Personally I could care less.A true lady never needs to over compensate herself to make her presence known.For women who choose to present them self and look like a carnival ride well don't be surprised about those wondering about how good the ride is how fast it will go and what the ticket price may be.

Answer 5

I've been to a few places (including my share of Frat Houses/Parties/Streets), and have not once heard anyone say "Nice ****!" or "I'de like to hit that!", even from the drunks. for what "is" appropriate to say: Hi Hello How are you? i know, gutsy things to say, but they have always worked for me as pick up lines Provocative to me would mean anything where, if you jumped, i would see something that you probably dont normally want someone to see. Oh, also if you have anything written on your butt, i think you deserve anything people say to you. An extreme mini-skirt is meant to be provocative and i cant imagine its amazingly comfortable, or makes a woman "feel sexy", or is a normal thing to wear, same goes for any tight shorts that only (i mean only) fit around your butt. As for shirts, anything where you could cover up almost as much skin with a bra as you do with your shirt, counts as provocative.

Answer 6

There's a limit.

If you are dressing in that way and men notice you and acknowledge it, no. That woman knew what she was doing subconciously.

BUT if the men are acting out of pocket (howling, cat calls, and such), yes.

I actually like it. My husband likes it too. He knows he has a great catch. I try not to make a habit of it though because how you dress could say a lot about a person.

Answer 7

No. Women of all ages can and should dress appropriately and they can look attractive, classy, cute and sexy without dressing provocatively and exposing too much of their bodies. I honestly feel the media is responsible for brainwashing allot of women in this regard.

But, what continually amazes me is how parents allow their young daughters dress in this fashion. I'm talking about girls as young as eight.

Answer 8

I'm probably going to be in the minority here, especially with my fellow women but.....If a woman chooses to dress provocatively, she shouldn't complain that she gets stared it. Men are going to stare. They are men for goodness sake. They are visual creatures. It's in their nature, God bless them. Now don't get me wrong. Just because a women dresses provocatively doesn't mean she deserves to be treated like a whore. But when your boobs are hanging out intentionally, don't get upset when men stare.

Answer 9

Women should dress in a manner that respects her body and unfortunately many women feel a "need" (if you will) to put them self out as a display for sexuality and yes some do fuss when men treat them with "less than" respect but if they were taught as a young child to respect their body and how to dress then hey wouldn't be feeling this way and we can also thank media for this decay in morality ! women see it as necessary( in some cases) to flaunt it in order to keep some of the "male attention" they crave. But the truth is simply this"IF WE ALL TRUSTED IN THE LORD TO SEND THE RIGHT MAN IN THE RIGHT TIME WE WOULD NEVER FEEL IT NECESSARY TO ""HUNT"" A MAN OR TO PUT OUR SELF OUT AS A FLESH BUFFET" **GREAT QUESTION**

Answer 10

Eyes were made for seeing.. therefore since their kind of dressing invites men to stare, then a that woman should not complain.

Answer 11

did you know, most women dress to impress other women..or maybe to make them jealous..yeah, it gets old after awhile, i have young friends that do the same and if a guy makes a pass they get all bent out of shape..one girl i work with tries to ''show'' all her God given assets and when one of the guys made a off colored comment about her body, reported him for sexual harrassment and got him fired..that really made me mad and I told her about it..she acted so offended and even conjured up a few tears..it didnt help tho, she was ''all hanging out'' again the next day..go figure???