My bf of 2 yrs and i recently broke up but are on a break. We broke up because I would flip out if his parents made him change his plans then we couldn't hang out. Also because we wouldnt see each other at all over the summer because of his treveling baseball team. We still talk everyday and love each other alot and our parents also founf out that we had sex. We are just turning 17. The thing is I have to change fo us to get back together cuz i realize that I get mad too easy, but breaking up has been a serious wake up call for me. Any more suggestions on how i can show him i have changed and tips for me to completely change.
P.S. I am not just changing for him I am also doing it for myself.
2007-05-03 16:42:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
ask him how exactly he wants you too change, an then figure it out yourself.
2007-05-03 16:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by Babii-Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember that you are still young and his parents are still in control of his life sometimes. You sound like you have been a bit demanding and obsessive. I suggest that if you both do love eachother as you say, tell him that- but still have a break and if you prefer the little time you see him opposed to being broken up then that may change your outlook on the relationship. Also maybe back off -you both are young and you need your own lifes to. Remember alot of girls make the mistake of letting go of her friends for a male. Friends will be there alot longer than any boyfriend.
2007-05-03 23:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by Kellie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is definately a very good first sign, that you are not only changing for him but yourself.... I can't really think of anything that is really going to prove to him that you have changed except when a situation comes up that you would normally flip out about you just remain calm cool and collected. I am defiantely not saying that high school relationships can't last (I know plenty that have) but I am saying that just be sure you are getting as much out of the relationship that you are putting into it. If in 5 years from now would you look back and think that you had the best time in HS you possibly could have or would you think of how you bent over backwards to see him at every waking moment... Just something to think about. Oh one more thing, (just my opinion) Nothing drives a guy farther away than soemone that tries to control them. For example.... My husbands best bud sneeks out and goes to strip clubs - b/c his wife says that he isn't allowed to go.. However I "let" my husband go and he hasn't been to one for years. YES I am POSITIVE he isn't sneaking out too. Anyway point is the harder you try and control your man on a certain thing the harder he is going to try and do it anyway.
Good Luck to you!!
2007-05-03 23:59:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In other words you are 16. This is most likely why his parents make him change his plans. You are wanting something too serious. You are immature by "flipping out" and you need to grow up and understand he can not always be with you. Learn to deep breath when you get mad and calming tell him what is bothering you. I would have to say though when my son is 16 I would not want him in a serious relationship that sounds controlling.
2007-05-04 06:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most likely if you are on a break at 17, he is probably taking it as a sign you are broken up. i asked my boyfriend my freshman year of college if we could take a break, and he told all of his friends (he was a senior in high school at the time) that he had broken up with me. He then sent me an email saying that he didn't think we should get back together.
I'm sorry things worked out that way. It might be better if you didn't get back together over the summer anyway simply because you won't get to see him.
2007-05-03 23:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by georgiegirl422 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up.
Seriously. You don't need to dump the guy, but put the relationship on a cooler level and live a little without him. Get a job, develop other interests, make other friends, etc.
Live a little, see things, do stuff, mature.
Even if he decides to book over this, you will have ended up better off. You are too young to be this serious with one guy you have had as a bf since you were 15.
2007-05-03 23:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by Madkins007 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to him that you love him and don't want to lose him. You get mad because you want to spend all the time you can with him. Tell him you realize you get mad too easy and you are going to work on that. Tell him you are not perfect (nobody is) but you are willing to work harder to have a better relationship. Good Luck!
2007-05-04 00:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by southerngal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from experience that travel ball players get lots of chick oportunities. They are away from you half the time and they are with some crazy alpha males that use peer pressure to make him do things he may not even want to do.
If you aren;'t a super special type women who can deal with that lifestyle, move on.
2007-05-03 23:51:38 · answer #8 · answered by Father Ted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to realise that you are a separate person to everyone else. Each person has their own point of view, feelings, and agenda. You might want your boyfriends entire life to revolve about you, but the fact is as a separate person he naturally has his own interests (the baseball team), and of course, he wants to see his parents, and they want to see him. Try and see it that way. If you dont I think you will upset him greatly and cause a big problem.
2007-05-03 23:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by pete the pirate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's gone for the summer, that would be a good opportunity to improve yourself. What you really need to do is grow up without him. Learn to be yourself on your own and you will be able to look forward to a rewarding, full life regardless of who else is in it with you.
2007-05-03 23:56:07 · answer #10 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get mad too easily, you should probably go to an anger management class, or speak with someone to find out where that is coming from.
2007-05-04 06:21:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋