She cheated on me three times that I know of. Once while she lived with me. She also got pregnant while we where trying to get back together and had an abortion. Afterward she told me that it might not have been mine because she was having unprotected sex with someone else too.
2007-05-03 16:17:17 · 27 answers · asked by Consumed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm so sorry this happened to you, it isn't fair when others treat us badly. She doesn't sound like a very good person at all. Don't waste your time being consumed with anger, she isn't worth all of that. Let it go and move on, give your self permission to do so and you will be far better off for having done so. Read on, please....!
Obviously she wasn't some one with very high morals/ values or even standards, she sounds nasty. Some one like that is a nasty person that just uses others to get what they want. Consider your self lucky that you found out who/how she really is. You can consider your self blessed that it is over, you don't want to end up getting AIDS or some other STD as those are the gifts that just keep on giving. Aids is a horrible disease to have to live with. I have a friend who has it and he feels so bad not just because he is sick so much, but because he know relationships are pretty much over for him. He doesn't want another person to get this from him. He is such a great guy and didn't deserve to get that, it hurts my heart every time I think of him having this. But you my friend, should be glad that she is out of your life. She will end up getting some disease for which there is no cure, and she will end up giving it to others.
Don't waste your time being angry, it's not worth it. Remember that in life there is a such a thing as Karma, and Karma will come back to her for all the wrong that she does. Not that I ever wish bad on any one, since it isn't right to do so. But Karma is a funny thing that seem to get people back for all the wrong they do. Let it go and in your heart wish her well, Karma will return to her when it is ready to do so. : )
You need to take some time to heal your heart, so that you can move forward. Keep your self busy, keep your mind off your anger. Go to the gym and work out, not only will you give your self a good workout but it will relieve the stress/anger that your feeling. Get together with your good friends and go places and do things of interest to you. Go jogging, swimming what ever it takes to put all of this behind you and allow your self to move on. Doing these things will not only keep your anger/stress level down but they will also keep you healthy and fit. Plus you'll look great too.
Allow your self time to heal and get past this. In time your going to meet the person that your meant to be, but you need to be whole again before that can happen. When you meet her you will know it, as she will treat you with love and kindness. She will return to you all the love that you give to her, and you will know that she is really right for you. She is out there waiting to meet you, heal your heart so that your heart will know her when you meet her.
Let the anger go. Be at peace with in your self.
2007-05-03 17:17:58 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't grow out of it, sorry to say. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and his ex has tried everything in the book to break us up and make our lives miserable. And when she does act like a normal adult...its usually because she is up to something. Seriously, she's attacked me in front of the kids (we went to court about half a dozen times before she was ordered to pay me restitution for it) shes accused my boyfriend of "touching" their daughter and dragged child services into it ( cased immediately dismissed upon interviewing my BF) shes accused me of hitting their kids (changed her story several times, first it was 2 kids, then it was one kids) these "mothers" think they have some right to the men who fathered their children when its all over, like they should come fist b/c they did come first.....what they need to realize is that we are here now and we aren't gong anywhere and they need to grow up and move on. Your probably headed down a long long crap covered road. Keep your head up, there are groups out there that can help.
2016-05-20 00:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I'm sorry she did this to you, she sounds like a total b***h. You know the only way to move forward and put her behind you for good is to say to yourself the more I think about her it'a like she still has power over me and it feels like she is cheating on me over and over again. She isn't worth 1 min of your thoughts and you should start now.
Make a list of all the things you hate about her and the things she has done to you. Then burn the paper and say I'm free from all the hate that I harbourd within myself and now it's time for me to live my life and I'm a better person for it. It may sound corny but It really helps you release all the hate inside you, cos altamately it's you who is still suffering she probably doesn't even think about you anymore or is she remorseful. Good luck and remeber there is Karma, what goes around comes around, she will get hers. Now let me see you smile :-)
2007-05-03 16:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing the tapes in your head. Each time you relive this, it makes you miserable. When you find yourself reliving the nightmare again, get up and move about and do something else.
Also, when you think of her, yell a word that makes you giggle. In other words, change what you're thinking and feeling.
Stop reacting to her foolishness. That's where the pain lives, in our thoughts, ready to swoop down and make us unhappy if we let it.
When you think of her, watch a comedy or play a game. You can take a class in something you've always been interested.
2007-05-03 16:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly, you want to move on with your life. You don't want to keep have your ex-girlfriend in your life after all the horrible and unfaitful things she has done. Do something that will make you forget about your bad experience and make your life more fun and relaxed. Go to the movies with a group of friends or go to dinner with friends. If you want another girlfriend, you should want someone who is dependable, honest and trustworthy.
2007-05-03 16:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by Alyssa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been told that the opposite of love is indifference. This girl isn't worth all the emotions it takes to hate. Let it go. It's her loss, and she missed out on a great guy like you. Trust me, some other woman would love to be yours and will treat you better. Good luck!
2007-05-03 16:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
can understand you bein more than little pissed.. but just think how much better u gonna be without her!!! sounds like she's a real piece of work that one. put it behind ya, i know is harder said than done, but doin you more damage by keepin it in ur mind .. i was with someone i truly loved at one point too.. but he skipped off when iwas 10 weeks pregnant with our child, livin in Barbados now and i'm here in Canada, our daughter will be 9 yrs old in June.. I KNOW PI$$ED!! just move on, she's someone else's big mess of a problem now. take care,
2007-05-03 16:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by rootzgirl34 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People break our trust. Can't control their actions, but we can control our reactions. Don't give her the time of day. Realize that every minute you're mad, you are giving her the upper hand. She has hurt you enough, no point in hanging on to the pain. DIstract yourself with more activities, new interests, dating, fun, whatever you enjoy. Spend your time getting to know the next person you'll date before you let yourself fall in love.
2007-05-03 16:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by Gist 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why waste ur time hating her. Sounds like in the end ur better off and wiser. Ask yourself was she an asset or a liability? You should be glad u got rid of her and can find someone who equals ur worth.
2007-05-03 16:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by luvlee4liyfe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Channel the hate for a greater cause. There is a love greater than the sexual love... for the good of man-kind. Do something that will truely mark your passing like Einstein!
2007-05-03 16:22:13 · answer #10 · answered by lolitakali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋