(as it is in regards to religious beliefs)...Do you agree with it, or dissagree? Do you think it's immoral? Or legit?
2007-05-03 15:57:25 · 24 answers · asked by redglory 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
"Atum" get off your soapbox!
2007-05-04 01:58:12 · update #1
Sorry "Kait" - your answer was too long...my attention span isn't that good. Should have just given us a link... God bless.
2007-05-04 02:02:11 · update #2
Living together without being married is fornication, period. Fornication is sexual sin and is immoral.
2007-05-03 16:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
My thoughts are that with common law people can keep from making a commitment to their partner. They do all the things a married couple does but without the commitment that a "piece of paper" brings. Say you've been common law for a few years, have a kid, bought alot of things together and all of a sudden your boyfriend gets bored and leaves. You can't do anything about it and he's scot free because no divorce settlement, attorneys, etc. I think it's just another way we teach people it's okay to not to take responsibility for their actions and not care about the feelings of others. I actually think married couple are better than common law couples because they love eachother enough to stand before god and get married as opposed to living together just because. Theres no long term commitment with common law marriage. And it's not just a piece of paper its an agreement to love eachother and be with eachother for always (even if noone takes that seriously any more).
2016-05-20 00:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by myong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not what I or anyone else says which matters: it is what G-d says.
1 Thessalonians 4:
"1 Finally, brothers, we instructed you how to live in order to please God, as in fact you are living. Now we ask you and urge you in the Lord Yeshua (Jesus) to do this more and more. 2 For you know what instructions we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus.
3 It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; 6 and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. 7 For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. 8 Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit."
It is called fornication in the Bible. It is a sin against G-d, against your future spouse, and against yourself.
Was that really your dream for your life when you were growing up-- that one day you would "live with" a person who did not respect you enough to make a public commitment to you?
The best deepest kind of love grows out of respect and trust. When a person invites you to "live with" them, they are putting you in a position of insecurity and danger-- (not to mention that they are also putting any potential child you would have in the same position of illegitimacy). The person did not respect you enough to make a public commitment to stand by you and share life together. The person does not trust you as his wife to make decisions in the event that he could not for some reason.
Fornication is not G-d's best for you.
You are to have no gods-- no idols-- no sources of emotional dependency before the obedience and trust you have for G-d.
If He told you not to play in the street where the cars are, would you listen?
Don't play in the street. You will get hurt.
And don't marry just to have sex.
Your life is so much more valuable than to throw it away for temporal pleasure which refuses to make a public commitment.
There are many other scriptures in the Bible (both the Hebrew Scriptures and the New Covenant) which tell people not to commit fornication.
2007-05-03 16:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by No substitute for privacy online 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion: Shacking up is a gutless way to enjoy the image/pleasures of a married life, without the investment of a committed relationship. The old term for this was CONCUBINAGE; guess who was considered the concubine? Hint: NOT THE MAN!!! This is just another way for people (men especially, but women are guilty of this also) to avoid the responsibility and committment of marriage.
As far as my faith is concerned: God has commanded us to be faithful people. Faithfulness to each other is another way to express faithfulness to God. Marriage, not concubinage, is the highest form of faithfulness humans can know! It takes a serious investment to make a marriage. There is no investment on the part of people who are shacked up together. They avoid faithfulness with their "open borders" policy.
Immoral situation. Very bad.
2007-05-03 16:19:28 · answer #4 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe two people should be married.
What has that meant, and what does it mean in all cultures? I know it is not just living together as many do today. There has to be a lifelong commitment to each other for it to be a true union. The question is--what constitutes a true Biblical union. It can't just be only what we do here.
2007-05-03 16:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by lightperson 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem with it if there are no children. But I feel that children deserve the optimum: a mother and a father or couple that have a commitment with each other and the family and they all share the same last name. I am an atheist, so my thoughts have nothing to do with religion--they're just based on what I have witnessed throughout the years.
2007-05-03 16:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by Petrushka's Ghost 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God says abide by the laws of the land unless it is against our Christian laws. Living together is Adultery.Why are so many afraid of committing legally?? Easy to just up and leave you in a bad place with children
2007-05-03 16:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Mel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These days it's all you can do to try to test drive a relationship to see if you like it. Set a goal of 6 months or whatever and get a commitment set. If it just lingers end it. If it's great, the guy should be saving up for a ring. Don't waste your time on a dead horse :)
Good luck!
2007-05-03 16:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by Tiger Crane Master 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Which is more immoral? People who say they are "of" God who murder and destroy in the name of this God, jump from one marriage to another, criticize and judge others in a delusion of grandeur and purity or two people who in "peace" live together in the sight of God as one? I am common law married for close to 22 years, and the only reason why we haven't married is that we both have had bad experiences in our past with it, PLUS Uncle Sam doesn't give as much money to "married" people as they do "single" ones who are disabled. As for legit, you tell me, as for IMMORAL, I will state it as Jesus did. "First take the speck out of thine own eye....."
2007-05-03 16:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by Theban 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A couple living in a common law relationship is really no difference than a married couple, the difference is one has a legal paper, and the other has a legal oral commitment.
2007-05-03 16:23:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't think there is anything wrong with it. divorce rates would probably go down some if they would live together for at least 2 years before getting married. my fiance and i have been together for 4 1/2 years, we plan on getting married this september. we have lived together the entire time except for the first 2 weeks. my ex husband and i were together for a whole 6 months and we didn't live together till we got married our marriage lasted a whole year.
2007-05-03 16:06:18 · answer #11 · answered by sarah 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋