what happens when 2 people really like each other, but they're of different religion?

Question

one is a catholic, the other is a christian.
what do they do?

i heard that it's better to forget about starting a relationship
than to get into a relationship first and argue later over faith...

they're not supposed to be in a relationship in the first place,
but how do you control whom to like and whom not to like?

what happens if both are free thinkers and one of them becomes a christian later...what happens to the spouse?

do you force someone to convert to a particular religion?

is it right to convert, because of love, or just trying to appease or meet the "rules"
and not because you truly believe?

my sis is a christian and the guy that she likes (and likes her) is a catholic
and her cell leader discouraged the relationship (tho the leader wouldn't actually break them up)

well sorry for being ignorant that christians and catholics are the same.
i don't know any better since i'm neither.

and if its the same religion then why is the cell leader making such a big fuss?

Answer 1

Don't let religion get in the way of love. If you really love each other, you can respect each other and their beliefs. You should never force someone to convert. Talk about religion seriously if you want to make the relationship work. There's no reason to argue. Who said you're not supposed to be together? You can be with whomever you want.

Love is all that matters. Don't let anything get in the way of love.

Answer 2

Umm, hon? A Catholic IS a Christian, but a Christian is not necessarily a Catholic. What is the faith of the other person?

Christian means only that they believe that Jesus is the Son of God, and they have accepted Him into their hearts. All else is just religion. Baptist, Protestant, Episcopalian, Catholic, Lutheran ... they are all Christian religions.

But the more important thing is, are these two equally yoked? Are these two people at pretty much the same level of faith, or is one entrenched in the Word and the other only goes to church on Christmas Eve. These are the important questions, not what religion they are.

Answer 3

Okay my husband is Methodist and I was Catholic. There's no reason they can't be together. As long as they respect each other's beliefs and have a basic understanding everything is good. I wasn't confirmed in my church so we couldn't have a catholic mass but I wouldn't want one anyway. So we had his pastor, someone that is just an awesome man, fly down from Kansas to do our wedding in Georgia. We got married outside in the true house of God.

You shouldn't have to change who you are. No more what. In the Catholic faith, I think they might try to convert you but I don't think you have to. IF they love each other then they won't have to fight.

Trust me it'll be fine. If not then maybe they should find someone else.

Answer 4

I think couples find themselves in lots of scenarios like that. I cant tell you how many women Ive met that have husbands that refuse to come or maybe come twice a year.

I think the best thing anybody can do is bear these things in mind when youre thinking about marrying someone. If you are not 1 mind when you are married, then chances are you probably never will.

Pre-marital counseling 101- NEVER MARRY SOMEONE WHEN THEY HAVE THINGS ABOUT THEM THAT YOU EXPECT TO CHANGE. Once you take those vows you are joining yourself with that person under God for life accepting them the way they are now and vowing to stick with them no matter what they believe in the future. Choose wisely or forever hold your peace!

(btw I would get out of the catholic church and both of you go to a non-denom Church, too many goofy doctrines)

Answer 5

Many Many years ago, it was highly frowned upon to date someone of a different faith.... (BTW, Catholics Are Christians.)

I think it has to be a mutal agreement. It is never wise to Force someone to change their church just to appease someone else.

I have known people marry Protestant and Catholic. One couple would get up and take their children to early morning Mass then Protestant church services. Eventually the Catholic spouse decided to just go to the Protestant services. Another couple decided to take their children to both churches then allow the children to decide when they got older. Another family I knew, they were of my parents generation, the wife decided to convert to the Catholic faith and raise five children in the Church.

Answer 6

Let me just say that I did not become a Catholic because they would not recognize my marriage of 18 years because the ceremony was performed in another church. My wife is a cradle Catholic and she left them, too. It just seemed the natural thing to do. It's like we listened to the priest, looked at each other, rolled our eyes and headed out the door. That's what happens when two people really like each other.

Answer 7

I am not sure what catholics believe. But If I remember correctly I dont think they will allow a marriage to a non-catholic. And no its not right to ask them to convert,that is a subject that is gonna take alot of prayer and major decisions.. I am sorry but no man would be worth me giving up my faith and beliefs for they would have to go God comes first....

Answer 8

If you both see yoruselves staying with your religion and church, then you are not compatible.

The only way two religions work is if one person gives up theirs and embraces the other. One or none.

I know of two cases of where the wife found religion after kids and years of marriage. In both cases, the devotion to her church made her look at her husband like he was the devil. Divorce ensued.

It's good to find out about these things early - before any innocent kids are involved - so good that you all are talking about this now!

Answer 9

They normally get married. And Catholocism is a form of Christianity. You must NEVER force ANYBODY to convert. It does not matter what their faiths are, if they love each other it will not matter. What will they do? Will they say, I believe in Christianity now. Defend yourself or leave!

I doubt it.

Have a good day.

Answer 10

My father is Catholic and my mother is Christian. Been married for 30-some years.