I have responsibilities at church and need to be there, but would also love to be at my close friend's wedding. Unfortunately, she is having her wedding at 10:30 on Sunday morning, and I don't know what to do.
2007-05-03 15:32:58 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Okay, maybe I should have written more. You guys are awsome by the way. Thanks for the advise.
I have no doubt God will forgive me. God forgives all and church is certainly not a requirement of most religious faiths.
It's just that I'm getting baptized on the Saturday before the Sunday that I'll miss, so it seems more important to be there than it would otherwise. See what I mean?
2007-05-03 15:44:12 · update #1
There will always be occasions where you may not be able to attend worship service (work, illness, vacation, previous engagement). Your baptism is definitely an important moment in your life. But as long as you are still able to attend your baptism on Saturday, I don't think it would be inappropriate to miss your first Sunday afterward. No Sunday will be more important than another, especially since your baptism isn't on this day. Missing worship service can be very challenging and emotional to face, but sometimes it's necessary. Your friends wedding is a special occasion that should be shared with close ones and friends. While it is unfortunate that it was scheduled during a time where most Christians attend Sunday service, she does have the right to pick what day and time works best for her. So I would recommend you go to your friends wedding. After all marriage is a sacrament.
2007-05-03 15:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not rude, since not everyone is religious or attends church. Perhaps there is some particular personal or financial reason why she chose this day and time. If the majority of her guests do not attend church, she perhaps overlooked the ones who do. I don't think it's rude, just a lack of insight and perhaps poor planning. But then again, you don't know her reasons. She might have a good one.
However, if you are very close or in the wedding party, then yes, this is inconsiderate. However, not all brides will plan their wedding around one person's schedule. Perhaps she really didn't realize your duties. Or she didn't think it would be a problem to miss one day.
Is it possible to have someone cover for you for this one day? If she does not attend church, perhaps she assumed this would be done easily.
If not, just go to the reception. If she's your friend, she'll understand. If you can't find a replacement, you'll have to decide which you will regret missing more, church, or her wedding.
P.S. If your friend didn't know you were getting baptised that Sat, you can't blame her! :) Perhaps you should ask for another day? You might be able to move it one week forward or backwards. You might even add a cool twist...if her ceremony is in a church, you may even be able to have your priest/minister come and baptize you just before or after her ceremony. If she's OK with it, you could make it a special day for both of you. Some brides may find this cool, others may hate the idea. However, it is something very unique if you are very close.
2007-05-03 22:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go to the wedding. It's suppose to be a once in a life time event. God will understand, and you can just go the next week. Of course, going to church is necessary, and I commend you for trying to do what's right. If this is a catholic church, there should be a service very early in the morning and one on Saturday night. I don't know how other churches do it. That's very unusual for a wedding to be on a Sunday, but still, you should go to it instead. Good luck.
2007-05-07 21:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your friends wedding. You can go to your church many Sundays throughout the year, you'll only be going to your friends wedding once. Also, when you go to a wedding, you are in church, so it's not like you're missing your religious time. I don't think it's rude to plan a wedding on Sunday, that's when most people have off work and will beable to attend & spend time with family, plus you are still going to church. But it would be rude for you not to attend a close friend's wedding just because you can't miss going to your church one time on this rare occasion. Give your church notice & they can find someone to replace your responsibilities.
2007-05-03 22:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most weddings are on a Saturday and that is usually because of Church and well it is God's day. I would see if your friend could change the day of the service. I do believe it would be better for many people who wish to attend her wedding since most people go to church this would be hard for alot of people. I think your friend is a moron for planning her wedding on a Sunday, how are people suppose to enjoy themselves then have to work the next day?.
2007-05-04 00:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. Even though I find it strange that anyone would have their wedding on a Sunday morning, I think the way i would decide is to ask myself,"Who is counting on me to be there the most?" I love to go to church but I don't think it makes God mad if I am not there. I don't have any responsibilities there that will mess anyone else up though. I think you just need to decide where you would be missed the most. Hope that helps.
2007-05-03 22:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by nil_queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the wedding. The people at your church will understand. Most people only get married once and you can go to church every day for the rest of your life if you want!
2007-05-04 09:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by tink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess she isn't getting married in church, since most churches won't marry you on a Sunday. You should go to the wedding, especially since you'll be at church the day before anyways.
2007-05-04 02:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding is a one time occassion... Church happens every Sunday...
When you are baptised in a faith the baptism is usually planned a week or two in advance while a wedding is usually planned several months in advance which leads me to believe you knew about the wedding when ypu planned the baptism... If you really wanted to go to the wedding you would not have planned your baptism to conflict..
Subconsciously you really don't want to go to the wedding and church on sunday is your neat tidy out... Take it as you want to, just don't lie to yourself about it...
2007-05-03 23:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it isnt. There was a couple from our church who married right after Sunday morning services. If she is having it on Sunday at the church then obviously the pastor has approved it.
2007-05-04 00:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋