I am separated with my husband and I think I am falling in love with a coworker who is married. However, I have a feeling that he is interested in me as well. He acts differently around me than others - he looks more vivid in front of me (my best friend told me this). I even caught him staring at me a couple of times and when I looked up, he immediately looked down. He even sometimes makes funny jokes with me. He never talks about his wife and maybe he is just a very private person. Any thoughts on what's going on?
2007-05-03 15:29:35 · 19 answers · asked by Hualan L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
keep a distance from him..perhaps, he was just trying to play around, it will just end you up crying because obviously, he's married..
girL, don't go of how you're feeling this time you have the mind in knowing what's best for you, don't let your heart over ruled your mind..GoodLuck:)
2007-05-03 15:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by JOAN D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, if I were you I WOULD NOT go there! First of all he is a coworker and many employeers do not like that.....and secondly he is married! Do you want to be known as a "homewrecker"? I understand that it might be hard because it seems as though he is flirty with you, but if I were you I would wait until he is divorced, and if he never does got divorced than it was just never meant to be. Imagine if you were his wife and you found out that some other woman liked your husband? Plus, if you have never actually dated this man than you cant be inlove with him....you can have a huge crush on him, but you can't actually love him unless you have been in a relationship with him or been his best friend for a long time! Plus, do you want to date a man who is checking out other women other than his wife..........think about it.....he would probably do the same exact thing to you!
2007-05-03 15:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by mr.t'smom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times when people are together alot for business purposes, emotions do come into play. You both have to make a concerted effort to avoid any "hanky-panky". Right now it's a new relationship, and you both have alot in common - work. You and Larry need to take an emotional step back and do some soul-searching to determine if your both "unhappy" in your marriages or is it an excuse to justify some "hanky-panky". If after some serious soul-searching and about 4-6 months time, you both still feel same, then do the right thing - divorce your respective spouses and go for it. These things do happen, the problems come in when the couple involved feel they are "entitled" to happiness regardless of other people's feelings. I can only advise you from experience - don't jump. Take your time, think about the ramifications - if it's so important to you now - it will be just as important to you in six months' time. After your spouses have had time to disgest the situation (as they may have no idea what may be coming for them), and the initial anger and hurt - if any - it takes two people to be in an unhappy marriage - maybe both your spouses are as unhappy as you. But, first individually you need to think and then communicate to your spouses what is going on with you. After some in depth communications, you may find that you both want to remain with your current spouses and want to maintain a deep friendship and that's fine, too. Just don't hurt anyone in the process of claiming your happiness. Good luck.
2016-04-01 07:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to back off. You are still maried and he is still with his wife. This could be a rebound thing for you and that makes it all wrong. Just because he doesn't talk about his wife doesn't mean his marriage is in crisis. It could be things are just a little rough for all of you right now and the attraction you feel for each other is coming from that and what if his marriage is still saveable? What if there are children involved? Think about all people involved, husbands, wives and children.
2007-05-03 15:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by berydivine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there may be some sort of crushing going on. However tread carefully. Dealing with a married man is a no-no. Especially dealing with a married co-worker. This could cause some rift at work (ie. his wife coming to the job and embarrassing you).
2007-05-03 15:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fall out of it because you have no business falling in love with a married man.
2007-05-03 15:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by LaissezFaire 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you might not want to get involved with this guy. i know i am only 15 but i have expirance cuz my mom. but anyways i dont think u should get involved with him if he is married. that could start a whole bunch of things and could get into legal stuff. like law suts and all. you might want to wait it out and maybe they are getting divorced or somthing just wait and see is my thought
2007-05-03 15:35:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Request a transfer, as you have transferred your affection from husband to co-worker. This can only end in your pain.
2007-05-03 15:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you thinking..dont mess with him..why would u want to break up somebodys family..how selfish are you..just becuse your marrage didnt work out dont mess with sombody elses ,you dont want to go there..what about his wife and famly..stay away.
2007-05-03 15:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're asking for trouble. Just stay away. It'll be messy otherwise and you will get hurt!
2007-05-03 15:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by binemaeuschen22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋