Why does God do this?

Question

Why is it I work so hard for any thing and everything in my life and then it all gets taken away?? The good things in my life never seem to last long, but the bad always does. Is Christ mad at me? Does he hate me? Have I disapointed Him in some way? Is it because I stopped going to church? Just when things are going so good I hit a brick wall, again.

All my friends are getting married. Yet I cant even find a descent guy. I get a job, I lose it. I am a hard worker too. By the way I am in my mid 20's if that helps any.

YOU PEOPLE ARE ALL VILE! I COME ON HERE TO LOOK FOR HELP AND ADVICE. YOU ALL SICKEN ME. I HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO POST HOW I AM FEELING, LOOKING FOR ANSWERS NOT ANSWERS FROM HYPOCRITES. AND YES GOD DOES EXSIST.

To some of you thank you for your honest answers it has really helped me. Thank you.

Answer 1

If you stopped going to church what else did you stop doing?
Do you have a prayer life? Do you read the bible? I am apt to
believe that there are many things not right or where they should be by that statement "Stopped going to church"
Look if your not serving God what is he then obligated to do for you? Do you have a light switch religion where you just want to turn God on when you need him and turn him off when you dont? I think you answered your own question. Humble yourself to God and he will bless you.

Answer 2

I don't think you're wining as some have suggested. I can totally relate. I didn't get married until I was 32. And then it only lasted a year until we got divorced. I've since decided it's beter for me to be alone. Christ isn't mad at you. I was also homeless and slept in Central Park in New York. However I viewed it more like camping. Losing jobs can be a struggle. I've been there. Maybe you are at the point where you expect these bad things to happen to you I don't know that of course. I am sometimes that way. But it can be a dangerous place to be mentally. Just by believing bad things will happen may make them happen. Fight it. I've had marvelous highs and dangerous lows. Try taking it in baby steps. Attack one problem at a time. Find a job that you actually like and pursue it.

Answer 3

Said god doesn't hate any one. He sees and knows all and has a very adult logic in teaching you things. As one of gods children it is natural for you to feel that he is angry and giving you a hard time. I think it's either becaus you did some thimg you probably shouldn't have in the past that you never said sorry for or that this is the time in your life where he is testing you and slowly teaching you the art of humility (a lesson not all people get right away). After a long time of bad, good allways comes after, but you must remember that things allways get worse before they ever get better, so be strong and learn some thing when the worse finally comes and you will be rewarded. Have trust and fait, and have a nice day.

Answer 4

I know how you feel. I am 26 years old and can relate to a lot of what you are saying. Can I encourage you for a minute? LEt me tell you some things that God has been teaching me recently. He loves you because you are you. He loves you more than you can ever fathom. And, although if often doesn't feel like it, He knows what is best for you and what will make you happy. Unfortunately, sometimes you have to go through heartache and sorrow to be molded and shaped into the person God wants you to become. You are just like a diamond...priceless, beautiful, unique, and precious. And, just like a diamond, you will have to be broken, refined, and polished before all of these qualities will shine. PSalm 37:4-5 are my favorite verses. God promises that He will give you the desires of your heart....and I have come to understand that this means He will change my desires to match His perfect will for my life...and for YOURS!! If you are in your mid-twenties, your life story is just starting to unfold. You can't look back yet and see how God's hand has guided you...but one day you will. Don't give up and don't let the Devil get you down!! You are His precious creation and He's not finished!! I have said a prayer for you, and if you would like to talk more, please e-mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 5

Perhaps it is self-fullfilling prophesy. If it's really always that bad you may be depressed and need to go to a professional counselor. Bad things happen to everyone and I think sometimes they begin to pile up to the point we get depressed or develop a defeatist attitude. This is not reality and we need to have a strong support group of friends and family. If that's not possible, we can go to a professional. There are some things you can do to start turning this around. Make an ongoing list of what you have in your life to be thankful for. Begin to look around for people less fortunate than you and use your talents & resources to help them. Visit the shut-ins & you'll begin to feel better about your own problems. Volunteer at some non-profit organization in your community. Stay occupied with these types of things and you will begin to cheer up and pull out of this thing. I hope this has helped and I will pray for you. God bless.

Answer 6

It is God's way of showing his total love for you.

There is no logical answer for why bad things happen to good people especially if there is a God. IMO if there is a God like that, I would rather spend eternity with my friends. At least I will get stabbed in the front... Unlike the treatment I have received form God and Christians in general. I had to leave the church, I was growing scar tissue on scar tissue from the incessant backstabbing.

Your friendly neighborhood Atheist.

Answer 7

Sweetie... I got pregnant at 17, married and had two beautiful babies by 20, divorced by 22, remarried at 26, another beautiful baby, five major surgeries, remarried again at 42, divorced at 44, remarried again today. Mom oldest son had cancer, I've had cancer, my youngest flat-lined two times while overdosed on heroin. I've had an ex who was an abusive husband and a former fiance who was a druggie with a mean streak. I have had more jobs than I can name and I asked the same question as you!!! BUT.... God never punishes us, God is incapable of hate. And he won't punish you because you stopped going to church! After years of crying about the problems in my life I finally realised that those very problems made me stronger. Sometimes we feel brick walls are all around us but in my case, the only walls I had were the ones my mind had built. Today I am a happily married Christian woman and my three sons and I are all happy and healthy. The reason? After a 10 year problem with heroin addiction, my son was saved by grace alone! He simply prayed to Our Lord and admitted his SIN problem, rather than "the disease" of addiction. The miraculous change in my son brought ME to God and looking back I realise that each and every problem I faced drew me closer to God. Hang in there sweetie!

Answer 8

Oh my Miss, how can you blame that on something like that, I in no way shape or form believe in God, but I do not resent, ridicule, or object to anyone who has the faith, I have nothing but the deepest respect for them. My life is quite similar to yours, I'm in my mid 30's and I have been alone for more than 20 years and not by choice, but I don't blame anyone or anything for it, cause there is really nothing to blame, there is no easy answer for why some good people seem to spend a better part of their lives alone, theres many reasons for it, I have been considered by many my whole life to be a gentleman, yet I still wait patiently for the lady I know will truly make me happy, patience is a virtue, don't worry.

Answer 9

I feel for you. And if I do (a perfect stranger), can you imagine how the one who made you cares. When I go through hardships, I draw closer to God. I talk to him more. I always learn from my hard times. But sometimes someone around you needs to learn something from your hard times. Everything happens for a reason. Try to remember that God values you and will not let you be tested beyond you abilities. Just keep trying and praying. And find a church that really helps you with each sermon. Then you'll want to go. Just keep looking until you find it.
Good luck and I'll say a prayer for you.

Answer 10

Have you given your life to Christ? Or are you still living for yourself?
Jesus said "Whoever seeks to save his life will lose it, but whoever will lose it for My sake and the sake of the Gospel will find it."
If you are living a self-centered life, you never will find contentment.
You need to repent, turn around from an ego-centric way of living, and believe the Gospel - the Good News that God valued you so much He sent His eternal Son from heaven to die on a cross so you could be forgiven and come into the favor of God.
A big part of this involves receiving the gift of a new nature - a nature that is essentially unselfish, like the nature of Christ. This is a gift, received by faith alone.
For more teaching along these lines I invite you to check out this free website:
http://www.derekprince.org/site/PageServer

May God lead you into His peace!