My dad died a month ago suddenly for a hereditary heart problem. He lived in buffalo and I moved to Syr NY so i have not seen him in a while except for a couple of times I drove out for the day for about and hour. It dont feel like my dad is died. when I start to realize it and cry I stop myself and distract my mind. I know this is wrong but I cant deal with the lose of my father.
2007-05-03 13:59:46 · 9 answers · asked by EVANS HERE YAY!!! WHAT A BIG GUY 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Awh hunnie your NOT crazy!
I went thru the same thing.
My father died when I was a young girl but my mom dies when I was 19 and it was sooooo hard! I really didnt feel like she was gone (and even now 8yrs later I still sometimes think..I should call mom and then it hit's me..she's gone :(
It will take time,I heard that alot after she died...give it time, I thought yea right...but it is true. Also I went to therapy for afew week's (I gained custody of my youngest sister when mom died and it was all to overwelming)
Talk with friend's and other family member's that can relate to what your going thru.
Again I am so sorry for your loss!
2007-05-03 14:06:37 · answer #1 · answered by babyN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey it's gonna take time, I went through the same thing when my mom died. It's been 14 years and sometimes I still feel like she's still here. But for the first 6 months after she died I was in denial. Just give yourself time and seek out counseling it can be helpful. Good luck. Sorry about your dad.
2007-05-03 21:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by ANGELA R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are just doing right, this is a normal face to go trough and is to be expected. You need to mourn and crying is ok, letting go fro a while is ok, cause dealing with the loss of a loved one is hard thing, you just need to talk about it and get support from friends, support groups, family members and GOD.
A good combination of all those factors will help you get back on your feet.
2007-05-03 21:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by wanna_help_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are as sane as can be. I recently lost my sister. I have been losing family members all of my life and it never is easy.
Each time I responded differently. Someone told me that I
should be used to this by now. We all think we should have done this or that or shouldn't have done this or that. Well, just
take one day at a time. You are going to be just fine.
2007-05-03 21:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's normal to feel that way. Sometimes it takes alot longer for the reality to set in. If you need to maybe see a therapist just to have someone to talk to. It's okay to get upset and cry. The more you let it out, the better you'll feel.
2007-05-03 21:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are in denial, which is the first step of the grieving process. This is normal and healthy. Everyone grieves a little differently, so just cope in a way that works for you.
2007-05-03 21:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by smart girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!
>>when I start to realize it and cry I stop myself and distract my mind.
Normal.
>>I know this is wrong but I cant deal with the lose of my father.
It is not wrong.
2007-05-04 02:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by S c a l p e r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is normal. i suggest you find a good counselor and talk about your feelings! you will have to face the reality of the loss of your father sooner or later and its gonna hurt either way ! by the way jesus loves you and he can help the pain go away! and prayer changes thigs really fast! im sorry for your loss and i too will pray for you!i say confront reality as soon as possible
2007-05-03 21:05:51 · answer #8 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe if u think your putting pressure on yourself, try talking to someone close. tell them how u feel, and they will understand
;-)
2007-05-03 21:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by Lamisse F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋