I am a 36 year old woman who is attractive. I am 5'4" and I strive to keep my weight at 115 lbs. I do exercises to keep tone and eat healthy foods to maintain my weight. Overall, I consider myself a sweet and nice person. Why do other women shut me out?
2007-05-03 13:28:59 · 53 answers · asked by Blue Eyed Angel 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not saying this to try and be demeaning because men are just as bad as women when it comes to this. These women are competitive as most are.
Men do the same thing. They strive to be more muscular, better hair cut, better clothes, better cars, etc.
You will find some women that aren't that way though just as not all men are. It takes getting to know the right ones. Try a different social circle. I've found church people can be different. It may take getting away from the area you are in to find the right ones. Again this is not a problem with you as much as an insecurity on their part in the way they look. Don't take it to heart girl and you will find that there are many insecure people out there that will lay blame at your feet for the unhappiness in themselves. Be proud of yourself and the fact that you take care of yourself. Look at it as setting an example for what they could do if they choose to. Hope this helps.
2007-05-03 13:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its just jelousy and nothing more. I was that woman. Last year I was 5ft3 and weighed 130. After three kids, I was really wanting to be that skinny girl I hated so much. So, I made a few simple changes and now Im 108 and no longer jelouse of other thin girls. But I can see how other bigger women shut me out in a sense,too, especially when they know I have 3 kids under 5. For a long time I felt guilty for losing weight but then I remind myself, I worked hard, I deserve it and I deserve to feel good about it. So do you.
2007-05-03 13:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok let us look at the first statement:"I'm pretty and that's why I don't understand why no boys like me" Being pretty is not always going to attract guys, some guys prefer a girl with a good personality and isn't so pompous unlike you. And just because you hang out with white kids, that does not mean that you are not ghetto. You have been watching a bit too much T.V.
2016-04-01 07:32:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I have been wondering about the same thing. I consider myself as kind/sweet and attractive (so I've been told) person. I work out and I'm thin and healthy.
I know that if I think someone else is more attractive than I am...I feel the insecurity but, I try to become a better person. I try to befriend that person.....not shut that person out!
2007-05-03 13:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had the same problem & most of my friends are of another race, or at least 10 years older. Ironically, I am also 36, 5'4" & a little heavier than you (125#). I never really had any female friends til after I had my daughter (now 3).
They're probably jealous & don't want any competition.
2007-05-03 13:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women aren't supposed to ackgnowledge the fact that we're pretty, even if we think we are. We're supposed to be modest and insecure about our looks, no matter what we actually look like. It's a stupid stereotype but it's true. It's a competitive world out there in the hunt for a partner and alot of women are threatened and made aware of their own isecurities by women who are obviously comfortable with who they are. I'm guessing you're not married or women would be less threatened. Women don't like otehr women who are too perfect. It's stupid, it's a fact of life and I know it's true.
2007-05-03 13:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well by the sounds of it, it sounds like your a nice sweet sensitive woman who knows what shes doing, the other ladies are probably jealous because the want to be u
don't worry some day you'll find a forever friend!!
2007-05-03 13:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,Im sure they are jealous, but I think they dont like you because they feel threatened. When someone more attractive than themselves is in the same place that they are - the more attractive woman is going to get more male attention. Why dont you try complimenting them on something? They might have nice eyes or great hair. If you make people around you feel good about themselves it can only help them to like you more.
2007-05-03 13:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by Lauren J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy
2007-05-03 13:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would u think 5'4'' and 115 lbs is attractive? Just from the way you asked that question i could tell that your full of your self, You might be a pretty girl but a empty brain is very ugly.
2007-05-03 13:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by ruckert12000 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋