i had a girlfriend and i was her first and she was mine i recently broke up with her because i felt we werent vibing the way a couple should vibe, so we broke up she cried a lil but was understanding and we decided to remain good friends but she started trippin on me the other day and said if she cant be my girl she wont be my friend i said im not going to be with her out of pitty and she said she wants me to be with her because i want to but that aint going to happen can anyone of you females out there help me understand what she is feeling please!! thank every answer appreciated :)
2007-05-03 13:00:20 · 9 answers · asked by andrew s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
would you want to be buddy buddy with a chick that gave you the "let's just be friends" speech? she's been rejected and her ego is hurt (yes, women have ego's too :)... give her space, and try to be a bit more sensitive...
2007-05-03 13:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say if you felt that all you all should be is friends, then that's telling you something right there!! A woman has lots of emotions. Since you all were each others first she is going to take it a lot more serious than you. That's just how we are. If she says that she doesn't want to be your friend anymore just tell her ok. She is feeling more than a friendship right now that's why she doesn't want to be your friend either. Is obvious she still has feelings for you relationship wise. If you feel that's not what you want, you need to let her know softly. Good luck and let her know that your there for her if she ever needs you in other type of way. You have to set the limits!!!
2007-05-03 13:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sexy Seductive T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, she can't handle that ya'll broke up. She is breaking off the edge. She can't be your friend because being around you is just breaking her more. She needs time. A lot of girls take the heartbreak better by getting back with them or leaving them for a while. All you can do is think about if you loved her enough to take her back. Then you go back out with her or you let her shut you out. When she is ready to come back to you as a friend, she WILL come. Just give her time. Tell me how it works, but be a friend when she wants it.
2007-05-03 13:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kim p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have waited until the 'vibe' was right .
She apparently thought it was , but you have shown yourself to be fickle .
Having your first turn out to be a low life traitor can be painful .
You're actually lucky she didn't slash your throat after that BS .
You may want to get your head out your buttt , because the next one might not be so 'loving' about getting jacked around , she might terminate you .
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2007-05-03 13:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by kate 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Don't keep up the argument you've already chosen you weren't right for her. She's chosen she wants to be more than friends. It isn't a comfortable situation for either. Move on to a healthier relation, and the more you two go at this, the less likely you will ever be friends.
2007-05-03 14:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a female, but I have learned a few things about them. The best thing to do is break complete ties with her and move on with your life. It may be cruel, but it is ABSOLUTELY the best idea. You can not try to fix the problem. She has been hurt and will need to move on with her life and can not do that with you continuing to be involved with her.
2007-05-03 13:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Smith 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wait is this andrew schultz?!?!?!1?!?! 1?!?! !?1? if not then sorry for all reasons but then that just means that she really loves u and that she doesnt have to strengh to leave to and forget about u, talk to her and explain to her that u still love her but maybe u guys werent meant to be but u would never forget about her
2007-05-03 13:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by heartbrokenandconfuse 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't help you understand but I will tell you what to do.Staying friends with her is only making things worse.
2007-05-03 13:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you do not have feeling for her than leave her alone
2007-05-03 13:14:30 · answer #9 · answered by nanat 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋