their son?
2007-05-03 12:58:43 · 14 answers · asked by tinavincent76859 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just continue to be an adult and support your husband and child. Kids are really good at judging who they want to hang out with and why. My mom hated all of my stepmoms (I had a few lol) but I interacted with them as I wanted and got really close to one of them.
2007-05-03 14:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry with her. Treat the child like you would treat your own. You don't have to impress her by no means. I know that this is a hard situation from experience. But when she sees that you treat the child like you would treat your own, she should have the upmost respect for you. If she doesn't, don't let her have any control over you. Just be nice to her no matte how she acts. Being the bigger person always comes out on top. If she thinks that she is getting to you, she is winning at her game, that she is playing. Good luck.
2007-05-03 13:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by Kev & Mandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay in the background and don't confront her. Did you have anything to do with breaking up their marriage? If so, you can understand how she feels. If not, you just need to be nice to the kid when he is over and be sure you don't ever say anything bad about his Mom to him. That will only put him in the middle and make him choose sides. You don't want that. I'm sure she is afraid that he will begin callng you Mom also. It is every mother's fear in a divorce. As everyone gets more comfortable with the situation, it usually gets better. The more you can kind of stand back and understand the ex, the better. Put yourself in her place. How would you feel?
2007-05-03 13:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just leave her be. Dont deal with her. no contact is the best. As far as the little boy is concerned....I am assuming that you have contact with him weekends or so......I hope you have your husbands support in letting you spend time with him. Just be as nice as you can to the little guy. Try not to get into any mud slinging about him mother when he is there. Pretend she doesnt exist and be nice to the kid. It will all be good fro you then.
2007-05-07 11:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two step sons & my husbands ex-wife is affectionally refered to as Satan by all who know her. I treat the boys just like I do my own son. As long as you know you are not doing anything wrong, then there should not be a problem. Respect your husbands wishes as far as his son goes, and pay no attention to her. She has nothing to do with your household.
2007-05-03 13:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by caraangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is Her son & Not yours ,
Best to respect her wishes .
If the father plans an outing that includes you , OK . . .
Take your cues from the father when there is occasion for you 3 to be together ,
But do not push your plans on him as he already has a mother and may not need two .
As far as her , being 'not present' when she is sounds like the best plan .
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2007-05-03 13:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn the other cheek, there is nothing you can do to warm her over. I am in the same situation but on the other end. I wish no good to my ex-wife's new boyfriend. I want nothing he says or does to alter my childrens way of thinking. There is nothing short of being stranded on a desert island together that would make me want to change my opinion of him. As the saying goes "Can't save them all Hasselhof"
2007-05-03 13:09:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing just ignore her...just do your thing and don't mind her .. as long as you know that you are doing the right thing no need for you to be bothered by your husbands exwife. after all, you can't blame her for hating you..
2007-05-03 13:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by marielle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't really your problem, it's hers. She needs to grow up and realize that her ex is with someone new. I'm sure you're not some kind of weirdo or unsafe for the child to be around, which makes her attitude unwarranted and kind of pathetic.
Just be polite, stay out of her business, (make sure she knows to stay out of your business, too!) and treat her son well. Eventually she'll get over herself and learn to accept you as the boy's stepmom.
2007-05-03 13:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by Erin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Treat the child like you would your own, do not allow anyone to put her ( your exs wife) in front of the child and stop anyone else that trys to Respect show it even if you don't get it you will score big with your step child and spouse
2007-05-03 13:03:49 · answer #10 · answered by skeeter195848 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋