Was this normal reaction? Would he understand?

Question

was dating someone right when i found out my close aunt had terminal illness.. i acted real cold towards him and he stayed around 3 monthi guess bc he hoped i'd be how i was at first. he broke up with me bc I basically treated him like crap..i left him alone but when my aunt died i flipped.snapped out and sent him all these crazy texts saying" i wish i would've told you what was wrong..etc.." one probably would've been ok but i sent about 6(crazy as heck i know!!!). a couple weeks later(sounds like a movie, but it's true) another close relatived passed away this time sudden and i flipped out again.. i never experienced losing a close relative b4, let alone 2 back to back.. my girlfriend ran into him and he told my friend that i annoyed the crap out of him with those texts(of course)... it's been a couple months and i'm back to my old self.. do you think if i explained it in person he'd understand?

i'm sorry, i forgot the key detail... the whole relatonship he didn't know that my aunt was sick until i told him on the text messages... stupid i know.. but i was in denial while she was sick

Answer 1

Losing somebody close, especially losing two such people within a short space of time, can play havoc with just about every aspect of life. It sounds as if your partner just did not understand.....I hope you get a chance to talk to him (maybe somewhere neutral like a cafe or bar) and explain that you were badly affected by those two bereavements, but hope you can rebuild your friendship now your feelings have settled down a bit.

I know one of the first questions they asked my husband and me at "Relate" when we went for counselling was whether either or both of us had lost a close relative or friend in recent times, so they must realise how badly the grief process can affect ongoing relationships!

One piece of advice that comes to my mind is to be patient with yourself and give yourself time and permission to grieve....I can feel for you, as my best friend died suddenly abroad at Christmas, and I only heard about it in a roundabout way, and was unable to go to either of her memorial services.....all of which "they say" complicates the grieving process even more!

Bless you and I hope this helps a bit, though of course nothing can bring those two people back. By the way, have you heard of "Cruse" who do bereavement counselling in the UK, perhaps in other countries too?

Answer 2

Sounds like he's a jerk, if under the circumstances he couldn't understand why you were acting the way you were then why would you want him back? You need to be with someone who is compassionate and patient I know you treated him like crap but anyone who has lost a loved one would understand. Let well enough alone, and look for someone else. In the future you will find that being more open and talking to your partner rather than pushing them away would be a better way of dealing with the pain of a lose. You need to have people close to you then. But I do understand the freaking out thing I did it when my mom died, but after time went by I was glad that I had friends that understood my feelings and stuck my be. The ones that will go through the rough times with you and stick by you no matter what are the keepers. Good Luck to you and good luck in the love dept.

Answer 3

i might enable it bypass. it will basically worsen the placement. have confidence me - i've got completed it in the previous and verbal diarrhea isn't a distinctly sight. it will seem such as you're nonetheless working after him. there is fairly no think approximately making amends. If he replaced into nonetheless interested in reconnecting with you, he does not have been aggravated. you're the two out of the different's lives. each and every from time to time, while human beings do no longer stay in our lives, it is because of the fact they are fairly no longer geared up to handle in spite of is going on in it. does not remember in case you acted the way you probably did...if he replaced into good sufficient to stay, he might've stayed.

Answer 4

yes

Answer 5

Probably not!