there is this guy , he recently broke it off with his fiancee and to my surpise i bumped into him at the college we attend, well we parked by each other, and when we work together,there is nothing to say, he does talk to me ,well he flirts, teases, messes around with me, but nothing serious, so i assume he would n't say anything, but he waited for me and we talked on the way to class, like he was a friend but he is different at work i feel, so is he alright
maybe he would do this to other co-workers as well, some one said he is the type of guy that needs friends
2007-05-03 12:30:01 · 9 answers · asked by ashley h 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I know exactly what you're talking about because I am also that type of a person. Sometimes we may seem mean or seem like we are ignoring people or seem as if we don't care about other people. It just happens that we seem that way. Trust me, I promise you, we really don't mean to be uninterested in other people. We care a lot about the other people but sometimes we are generally shy and it can often get overwhelming for us when we become the center of all attention. We really want the others to give us attention but often can't handle it.
If you say that he flirts with you, it most likely means that he likes you. It is he is most likely too shy to get serious (I would be too). In that case, you have to make the move first.
It does not surprise me that he behaves differently at work because there' s more responsibility at work than in college, so it's logical that work time be taken seriously.
It is very true that we need to have friends because we're shy and don't have many of them.
Hope I gave you the answer you're looking for.
2007-05-03 15:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Ashley, The work place is not the time to be talking and flirting with you. That is why he doesn't talk at work. I think he likes you and would like to see you and take you out if you are interested in him. He sounds like a sweet guy who needs friends and a G.F. that will be there for him and you both can have fun and get closer. I say, Go for it. I sure would. LOL LOL..
A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-05-03 19:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work is not the place for a relationship. He probably feels awkward and uncomfortable. If you are interested, invite him to have coffee together and talk about it. If he is interested he will come around. You should lay down honest ground rules at to how to act at work and when you are around each other friends so you don't embarrass each other. Not because you would, but because it is the right thing to do.
2007-05-03 19:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by Richard W 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with some answerers, keep cool, work normally, great friendship takes time and be alert especially on some in-depth info why he broke off with his fiancee. Don't give him any chance for love easily, it should definitely take years to prove his virtues and everything. Consult your parents too.
2007-05-04 04:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by Arigato ne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try meeting him in a neutral place for a soda etc.If it isn't going anyplace, then just stay friends.
2007-05-03 20:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not a lot to go on. Play it safe and take it slow.
2007-05-03 19:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
give it up to him and that will tell you if he dont talk to you after that then he dont want you. Just give the man some of that!!!
2007-05-03 19:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not enought info.
2007-05-03 19:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorry ... I couldn't understand your question. Could you please re-write this? Maybe using sentences?
2007-05-03 19:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Big Feet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋