my daughter wont cooperate?

Question

my daughter is now 10 and im trying to get her to cross her legs regularly like a woman. i always cross my legs and i find it very comfortable, my husband also often crosses his legs. why wont my daughter cross her legs, and how can i encourage it on her?

Answer 1

Now Now Beth

Aren't you getting tired of asking the same questions about crossing your legs. I just want the people to know and take a look at your profile. You state that you live in a nude community and love to have sex. You continue to post the same wording in other sections like Beauty and Health and Beauty and Style. You also have a post stating that your daughter needs help with crossing her legs. Who are you? Are you the 16 year old that asked this question today or are you the lady with the daughter that needs help with crossing her legs. Make up your mind and stop playing games with people on this site. TO ALL LOOK AT HER PROFILE AND READ THE QUESTIONS THAT SHE POSTED!!! THEY ARE ALL THE SAME. SHE IS SOMETIMES A 16 YEAR OLD AND SOMETIMES SHE HAS A 10 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER AND LIVES IN A NUDE COMMUNITY.

Answer 2

The "proper" way to cross your legs for a lady is to cross them at the ankles. That prevents skirt ride up and too much thigh from showing. It's more appropriate for a young girl to cross her legs that way.

Also, you should know that crossing your legs is VERY bad for your posture and your back. It throws the alignment of your hips and back off and can lead to problem. It also causes constriction of the veins in the back of your legs which some studies say causes varicose veins.
All in all, crossing your legs by putting one over the other isn't really something your 10 year old needs to learn. Have her sit with her ankles crossed, legs to one side. That encourages good posture.

I would worry more about how she holds her knife and fork and her table manners. I can't tell you how many junior high students I have taught that have NO clue how to cut their meat without looking like they are sawing wood!

Answer 3

Actually, a real lady does not cross her legs but rather sits with her legs together and one foot tucked behind the other ankle. Also crossing ones legs continuously can lead to vericose veins in women which can be a painful condition. As long as she doesn't sit like a trucker with her legs spread apart while wearing a skirt, why force the issue. In the grand scheme of things there are far more important lessons to share your wisdom on - drugs, alcohol, sex. Focus on the big issues and don't sweat the small stuff!!!

Answer 4

Honestly. I don't think you should. As long as she's sitting to where she's not flashing anyone, what's the big deal?
You're probably not going to agree with me, but let me explain:
I was once forced to be "ladylike" when I was a kid. Well, I never identified with being a girl. I'm actually a transgender female to male. I see myself as a guy. So it was not a natural feeling for me to wear dresses, cross my legs, or any of that other "feminine" stuff.
Things like this, and other other examples of what is "feminine" and "masculine" are culturally defined. and it's THIS example of having parents tell us how to "act like a lady" or "be a gentleman" is what causes so much mental disturbance in people like myself who are transgender and transsexual. We have the right to dress how we feel comfortable, and live in the gender role of how we define ourselves, not how everyone WANTS us to be.
I think you should ask yourself this question: why do you feel this overwhelming desire to be so controlling over such a petty issue?

Answer 5

If she doesn't wear a lot of dresses, don't worry about it too much. Don't nag her about it because that may make her not do it at all. Also, give her some time. As soon as some of her friends start crossing their legs, she most likely will as well.

Answer 6

Maybe she's a tomboy? Or just not the type to wear heels all the time. Is she always wearing jeans and sneakers? That would be her level of comfort.

Then meet her halfway: tell her it's appropriate at events like weddings or award ceremonies or meetings with people.

Kids are rebellious at that age. But when you're not looking, they end up taking your advice, they just don't want you to know about it.

Answer 7

whilst parenting you should be an occasion to a baby - yet appreciate them and remember they're "persons" i think of your "suggestion" is suited to a element. coaching your youthful daughter to circulate her legs, enable's say..whilst she's donning a gown is merely undemanding experience. i think of in time as she will become a woman and is donning a gown she would be in a position to undertake certainly one of those sitting , it relatively is particularly much a reflex action. exterior of whilst she is donning a gown..it relatively is her decision! once you insist that she take a seat along with her legs crossed "continuously" it relatively is disrespectful to her. She is a individual and her physique is her very own. the way she feels soft jointly as sitting is the way she ought to take a seat down. in case you sense uncomfortable along with her sitting in a organic way it relatively is soft for her...you should look at "why". Why do you should take care of how she take a seat's What are your subject concerns?

Answer 8

I have very short legs, and it is impossible for me to sit that way for more than a few seconds.
Perhaps that is the problem!
Actually, what is truly proper is putting your knees together and crossing at the ANKLES.
Is that what you've taught her?

Answer 9

some people don`t like to cross their legs I know i find it kind of hard to do sometimes. If you get her to tuck one foot behinde the other, that might help!!

Answer 10

She's 10. Wait a bit, she get the message from her peers.