I'm a 29 year old female, and wondering (for women AND men) if you have an age limit for relationships. What's too old or too young (obviously above 18, of course!)? I met this guy in the military, and he asked me out. But then I found out he was only 21! I thought he was 2-3 years younger than me and felt ok with that, but I ended up saying no to the date because of the age difference. I've run into him a few times since, and he asked me out again. I really like him but just don't know. His maturity and respectfulness is what initially attracted me, ironically! I know I'll get a lot of grief for dating him, but I don't want that to be the only reason I say no! On the other hand, it seems like men date younger women all the time and it doesn't raise an eyebrow. I know a guy who's 35 and he's dating a 23 year old, and a married guy who's 48, and wife is 30. I'm not in a panic to get married/have kids, that's not on my mind! So should I just say what the hell and go out with him?
2007-05-03 11:23:08 · 35 answers · asked by Jen1943 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love doesn't have a limit, why should you? If you mind things like this then don't try. Its really getting over yourself and your own standards. If you think you can endure all these people talking if they found out, or others making fun, then go for it. Might be a mistake or something you'll never forget, just don't let it go easily. Its a gamble, take the money or keep going.
2007-05-03 11:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by Steven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-24 03:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, right now I am just about 18, and would never even consider dating a 10 year old... that's the same age as my sister... funny how things balance out once you're a little older. I have dated a guy three years younger than me, and I did get flack for it but he was a sweetheart and very mature (which is rare especially in teenage guys). I have also dated guys older than me, but I've already wasted enough time talking about myself so onto you...
I think you should absolutely go out with him... if you make each other happy why not? people will always find something to gripe about no matter what. he sounds like a great guy so far so I would say give it shot! I really hope everything works out for the best for you :)
2007-05-03 11:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 25 male dating a 37 year old woman. It has been pretty good for 5 months now. I don't know if it's going to work out it long run, but 8 years isn't as bad as 13, so don't base your expectations on my relationship.
If everything else between you two is working out really good, don't let the age be the reason for a break up. Likewise,don't let the age become the "problem" and blind you from seeing there are other major problems with the relationship.
2007-05-03 11:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by kevbeer2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would date a younger guy for fun only, but I wouldn't consider a serious relationship with him if he was more than a year (2 max) younger than me. It would be fine with me if he was older (even quite a bit older); my ex-husband was 16 years older than I, and our age difference was never a problem. You are right, it's more common for older men to date younger women, perhaps it has something to do with the fact that guys can have kids later in life, while a woman's biological clock is ticking much faster. But unless you're looking for a long-term relationship, the age difference doesn't have to be a huge consideration; just have fun and do what you're comfortable with.
2007-05-03 11:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If each person is mature and responsible, then age shouldn't matter. Unless like you said an 18 yo, that would just be wrong for you. But.... I was 18 when I meet my future husband and he was 26. I have an 18 yo and if she brought home a man that was 26 I would probably shoot him. I don't know what my parents were thinking but I am glad they let me date him. We have been married for almost 20 years. It has been a wonderful marriage. I say go for it . He could be the one for you. Good Luck!!!
2007-05-03 11:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a younger man wanting to date an older woman thats were it's at no drama she knows what she wants age is just a number as long as you don't go below 18 or over 60
2007-05-03 11:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by keekee69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The limit grows wider with raising age, I believe. At the moment I wouldn't date a guy who's eight years younger or older (I'm 26). Up to three years younger is okay for me right now, or else they are too immature usually.
2007-05-03 11:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by Kerosa S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know him first and see if he is responsible or not.Also a young guy has a habit of hitting on older women your age because they start to feel "desperate" and they can ise that fear to manipulatethem into bed.Not saying he is.Also every woman I have ever met who dates a guy even 2 yrs younger starts freaking out after a while and worries herself sick that he will want someone younger.Think about it.
2007-05-03 11:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,i would.when i was 29 i dated a women that was 45 and got along good.and since your 29 & he's 21 theres nothing wrong with that,if u feel u really like him,go ahead,you's r not that far apart.i don't mind going out with someone between 25-35.i'm 45 now.i use to date a lady when i was 37 i date her and she was only 19yrs.old.go with your heart.thats what i do,ok.
2007-05-05 19:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by chris d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋