ME and my boyfriend get weird and nasty stares !!!?

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Me and my boyfriend get weird to nasty nasty glares !!?

Well we are in a homosexual relationship plus its inner racial im black my boyfriend is white well we are both in high school Im a sophmore im 16 but I look about 14 Im short about 5'7 and have no faicla hair and a cute baby face.My boyfriend which is white looks like he could be my dad hes 18 is a senior is about 6ft very muscular has a full beard that he shaves but has like the 5 oclock shadow thing going on when he buys alchahol hes never carded people really assume hes like 28-30 and the assume im 14-16 .But we are really just 18 monthes apart in age.Sometimes its kinda akward because people realllly stare I can tell not just because were iner racial or homosexual but because my boyfriend is looking like a petofile.They see the white man that looks like hes 31 with some black kid that looks 14 and people sorta freak out and whisper like especially when we are in restaraunts or the mall it can be hell he dosent realise it but I do. What should I do Or say about the people that ..
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20 minutes ago
stare or question us is it m =y fault my own insecurities bothering me should I not worry about it.When we were in a museum even the police officers kept stairing and whispering.This is really getting to me should we end it and should I find someone who looks my age.

20 minutes ago
16 yearold gay sophmore
18 yearold gay senior

THAT LOVE EACH OTHER DEARLY !!

Ive had millions of people say I didnt know you were mixed then when I said Im not then they say welll ... isnt that white dude your dad its so annoying.

Answer 1

You're gay, in an interracial relationship, and he looks older than you, but you don't want people to stare. Answer: wear burkas? Come on! Use this opportunity to get used to the stares, fend off stupid remarks, and toughen up to outside opinion. When you don't fit the "social ideal," you can either hide, or come out swinging. Do your thing, love your man, and that's that; society is still a far cry from being loving and accepting of all...That means, depending on where your live, there are more stares to come, whether you are with the man you love, or some other guy...Good luck.

Answer 2

Okay, Point Blank. Some people are staring at you because you are gay, and they view homosexuals as gross and wished you wouldn't act like a couple in public. Some people are also staring at you because you are an interracial couple, which many people feel is dirtying up their race, they feel that its not enough that you are gay, you are also not even dating other black men. Some people are staring at you because they are concerned for you well being and think that he may be a pedophile and just want to help you. That being said, if its bothering you that much and you are even thinking of breaking it off because of it, then you need to take a break, not break up, but take a week away from each other and see if you really love him as much you think you do, because you might not, considering you're even considering leaving him. If you do decide that you're feelings just aren't strong enough to take the stares, tell him that and break up. If you do decide that you love him enough to put up with it, then just ignore the stares and whispers, chances are some of those stares/whispers are completely and totally in your head. Also remember that chances are you are not going to marry your high school sweetheart, and that you could cause trouble for him since if you decide to have sex, someone could complain since you're a minor, and he is not. Its unfair, but people that close in age have gotten in trouble. Take into account all the details, and not just your feelings for him, and then follow your heart.

Answer 3

Dude, what you have to understand is that some people believe that homosexuality is wrong. You may not agree, but you should understand and tolerate someone's moral beliefs as long as they aren't threatening you with violence or harassing you. People disagree a lot. I know a lot of people disagree with some things I do. Also, the age difference may make some others think that you are being abused or manipulated or are too young to be in a relationship like that.
That's why.

Advice: Gay, straight, the same age, same race, or not, PDA is gross and annoying. I'm a bitter cynic and I glare at any couple just out of impulse if I see them holding hands, kissing or fondling each other in the mall. Keep it in the bedroom! That's nobody else's business.

Answer 4

Isn't it technically illegal anyway? I'm certainly not judging you, but your boyfriend is legally an adult at 18. So theoretically there are laws against you two dating, or at least getting intimate. Unless your state has an age of consent law.

I'd say you just need to get over it. If you like the guy, who cares what others think or if they stare? And most likely people will stare because you're a gay couple and people tend to stare at gay couples. It's kind of how it is, and probably how it will be until the general population gets used to homosexuality.

Answer 5

Listen, its not your fault, people are just ignorant, and no matter how hard we try to change that it never will. My advice is to bring it up with your boyfriend, if he is worth your time he will understand, and then just shrug it off. I think what i do when i enter a room full of the "popular" people at school. When you feel people looking at you or whispering about you, instead of looking as if it is affecting you and shrugging your shoulders, hold your head up high and put your shoulders back. Because quite frankly, they have nothing on you and if they feel the need to gossip about you its because they have absolutely no substance in their person whatsoever. Also, if you act confident you will think you are confident, so therefor come confident; and this will make people respect you. If you love him, and he loves you, what people say should never make you second guess that. If you are, then maybe you should reexamine just how much you are dearly in love with each other.

Ignore those other people, they, like those who whisper about you, are just ignorant, judgemental, and intolerant

Hope i helped!!

Answer 6

I think you answered your own question.

Some people obviously have issues with the fact that your gay let alone that your black and your bf is white.

As well issues arise when people think that your bf is alot older than you. No matter where you go, there will always be people who will have these issues with the two of you guys together.

Ignore what everyone else thinks, as long as you are both happy right? When you are older, alot more people will accept who you both are, but then again alot of people wont.
Who wouldnt be insecure if they were in a situation like this? No one would be, they would all be worried about it, you just have to accept that most people out there will not like how you are.
but i accept you :) as long as your happy.

Answer 7

if you really love eachother just ignore the glares. You're only 18 months apart even though he looks 20 years older than you so that's no problem. When some people say that's illegal since he's 18 and you're 16 forget them, only an 18 month difference aperfectly normal age range in dating

Answer 8

You shouldn't end it just because of other people. You have explained why people, stare so why are you supprised that they do. People stare at all sorts of people. It's rude and uncomfortable but if it's going to keep happening there isn't much you can do. They will probably get used to seeing you around, though, and stop after a while. And you will probably get used to the staring too. Maybe they are jealous of your bf. he sounds gorgeous :-)

Answer 9

Man, and I thought it was awkward with my husband being a lot older than me. Can you learn to laugh it off? That's what I do when people mistake me for my husband's teenage daughter. We joke about it. Try to remember these people giving you dirty looks don't even know you. They know nothing about your relationship, so try not to take it personally; they're reacting to their assumptions and ideas in their own heads, not to YOU.

Or maybe you can try to change your hair styles and clothes to make him look a little younger and you look a little older. Maybe you could get some advice from friends about that if you don't have any ideas about how to do that.

Answer 10

I say if you are happy with him, who cares what anyone else thinks? sure it may look weird to some people, but you two know the truth and that is all that matters. I wish you two the best of happiness and I hope everything works out :) if you ever need a friend, feel free to email me :)