next step, part two?

Question

this is a continuation of an earlier question i posted yesterday. please head to my questions to get all the details. however, basically i met a boy on a band trip to chicago and we hit it off and are now talking a lot.

heres the update. i said yesterday that i only get to talk to him for a few seconds every day because passing time inbetween classes is too short, and that it was a major downside to passing time. his exact words were 'a major downside indeed. we should fix that.' then today he saw me coming, smiled and said 'so i think we should hang out sometime so its longer than 2 seconds.' i said 'i agree, we definitely should.' we said bye and that was it.

so, should i suggest something, like the bike ride mentioned in the first part, or wait for him to ask me? since hes made it clear he wants to do something now. i dont know if i should wait it out or ask him. my birthdays saturday... im not having a party though, so i dont know if i should suggest something for saturday.

Answer 1

Think of it like this are your going to kill yourself with these insecurities. Treat him like a friend. Think about if your friend said something like that, you would hopfully be a good friend and make some sujestions, maybe a few jokes, and some serious remarks. Don't get scared now its going some where, just treat him like you know him, get? You've got some good ideas there, plus your birthdays come up, so sujest away, don't get confused by societies expectation about how relationships should go. Its you and his relationship, and part of making that work is coming up with your own unique style of relating to each other. If you don't start now it well get harder later on..... so don't take our advice listen to your brain your on the right track, and Good Luck! Loving is hard;-)