***MEN*** Do you think that women can be too giving to you in a relationship?

Question

I am very doting when I am in a committed relationship.
I am very expressive of my love in all ways. I am not a clingy one, I do love PDA when they are comfortable...not insecure at all. Just to clarify.

I just want to make my man want to always come home and be grateful I am in his life. Can you help me discern what is good, great, and awesome?

Cards, letters, calls, intimacy on all levels, watching games with him, live events as well, and massages, cooking for him, etc. Is that overdoing it? Is that a dream?

Please try to answer the question in its entirety, as I really would like to know your opinion.

Just assume I have not started dating this guy...he is fictional...

I am a professional chef with my own business, so contributing in that manner is taken care of.

Not married at present

But dating sweetness

Answer 1

It is nice to do for him. Make sure that you spend time with him doing things for you too. A big thing you did not say is that you need to give him time spend with his friends alone every now and then. If he wants to stop after work and get a beer with the boys because it is bill's birthday or just been a couple months he should be able too. But if you or him got other plans you can show up every few times to go do other stuff that is plannned. His friends will respect him for having a wife that great.
I would like my wife to go to friends to watch the fights with me sometimes and to understand that some evenings just a one course snack/meal would be good.
I do not like clingy but confident and a bit out going is very nice.

Answer 2

Great question!

This is coming from firsthand experience (I'm a guy): If a man cares about the woman a lot, he often wishes the woman were more giving and loving, but not clingy. Men LOVE attention from women that they like.
However (this is where my experience comes in), if you don't like the girl very much, just a little, doing stuff like that is perceived as obsessed and annoying.

"Cards, letters, calls, intimacy on all levels, watching games with him, live events as well, and massages, cooking for him, etc. Is that overdoing it? Is that a dream?"
Getting cards, letters, and phone calls are very good ideas. Watching games and live events is great as it shows that you are interested (even if you are not) in things that he enjoys. Massages, cooking, well, that's not required, but it's a great icing on the cake!

I hope I answered your question as thoroughly as you wanted!

Answer 3

The Man who has you is blessed, honored and luckiest i would say. A relationship is like clapping, you need both the partners like 2 hands for an effective clap. A man always dreams of a passionate partner all his life. Someone like you is the realisation of that dream. cards, letters, intimacy on all levels, watching games with him, live events, massages are ok, but Cooking should be together, i feel if a man can work with his wife in the kitchen their relationship grows more passionate.
It is not overdoing as long as you are comfortable with it, giving without expectations of reciprocaions is the second name of love.
But i assure you that if you give so dedicatedly, you will recieve even more pasionately.

Answer 4

too much of anything can drive someone away!
yes you can be to giving.
You may want to stick with letters or cards not both and don't do it 1 time a month do it 3-4 times a year! or that would be over kill!
cooking is great no man will turn that down! but don't expect complements everytime either!
Calls yes call him but don't call unless you have something to say and try to keep it short ! text him instead if you just want to say i love you!
watching games is cool do it up! but make sure you give him his Guy time! where him and the guys watch sports! without you!

most men would love this!
now if you worked too at a 9-5 job that would be even better cuz then you can help out with the bills if you do that they will keep yea!

Answer 5

I wouldn't say too giving, but we as men have a tendency to take things for granted. You say you aren't clingy so you should have nothing to worry about. I would call your relationship a freak of nature. Your man should consider himself extremely lucky. I recommend keeping the lines of communication open feelings can easily be expressed. For now you should enjoy each other and live by the saying "If it ain't broke, don't fix it."

Answer 6

i would think i'd be too giving before even looking at your full details, wow, omg! i love PDA who doesn't even thoug i am a little shy still at age 29. i like to make my women feel comfortable with me cuz i do not like the awkwardness feeling between me and a girl but i need to still take it slow and let it flow. do not want to seem desperate. i just like to see a women's happy face that is all my objective when i am dating a girl is that i want to give her my full attention and my best to make her happy and nothing but the best. i do everything from writing cars of my own, writing love notes and love letters. calling you up just to say i love you or leave a message. take you to concerts and sporting events. i like massages who doesn't. you can cook i can too rarely. you can never overdo it for someone you love there is never enough love you can shower someone with cuz love is unconditional and blind. all this is a dream come true to me in my opinion and so are you. you are like a dream girl to me. you are someone who is perfect only to me in my way cuz i like you for you cuz i know that you would,too. thanx 4 everything and much more. can wait to talk to you later. - p -

Answer 7

My God, its about time someone asked this question. The answer is Yes x 100,000. My current lady calls me all the time, sends me 7 or 8 emails a day, always wants to go out, wants affection, dinner, late night sax on the phone, hugging kissing and affection. Its actually driving me crazy since she is still married and going through a divorce. So there you have it yes, yes, yes in answer to your over doing it in a relationship.

Answer 8

It really all depends on the guy. Personally, from my experiences, I like lots of attention. Cards are a waste of money and I dont need gifts or anything. Phone calls can get annoying and always wanting to cuddle can be a bother. Ok on second thought maybe I dont like alot of attention.

Answer 9

A man's dream is always to relax without any problems and a should man always love his wife what matter what. No there is never over doing it all he wants is to be with you in comfort. You should talk together. Ask him "How's your day" and maybe "What did you do all day".

Answer 10

There is nothing wrong with being loving and that is what your are doing. As long as you are both happy in the relationship and your man gives back.

Good luck.