My 19 yr. old boyfriend is controlled by his parents...?

Question

We have been dating for 1 year, I noticed that something was up when last summer (summer into his fr. yr. of college) he had a curfew of 12am, and when he came home at 3am once, he was grounded for a week. I live on my own, and he cannot stay over at my house because there are no "parental figures". He is going to school for something that he don't want to do b/c his parents told him he should be in business b/c it makes money. His parents hold everything over his head (ie. "we pay your cell phone, you want your cell phone right" or "we pay 30,000 dollars for your school, so we're going to make sure you get good grades, do you want us to pull you out of school?") He called his parents yesterday to see if it was O.K. if he took Philosophy instead of Calculus over the summer, I am so over whelmed, I don't know what to do, I want him to have more freedom, and not to be afraid to stand up to his parents. This is interfering with our relationship! We can't do anything w/o the ok from the Ps

Answer 1

He needs to get a job to pay for things on his own then he will not have to do as they say. As long as he lives with the parents he needs to be home when they say.