I broke up with my bf (3 weeks ago) and we tried to reconcile last night. He never drinks, and he got ripped (crying whiskey). I asked him if he had been with anyone, and it was ok if he had because I had been out with someone, he said no.Telling me that he was sorry for what he had done and loved me. I've never doubted this man or not trusted him. It put a question in my mind and I did the crazy gf thing and looked at his messages in his phone...Yep, there they were. The good morning text, thanks for the pictures, are you home yet, etc.
I know that we were broken up and I came clean but he's still denying it. I can move on from this relationship, I already got the ball rolling 3 weeks ago. Will I always have that trust doubt in the back of my mine.
Thanks...Let me have it....
2007-05-03 09:41:01 · 8 answers · asked by Luvatlanta 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay here you go:
I think you should confront him and say : "listen I have been nothing but honest with you and I KNOw for a fact that you have been with somebody else, I came back into the relationship willing to give it all and I asked you to tell me and I ment it when I said it was okay if we are going to commit again to each other I need more honesty from you as I give it to you""...unquote :o)
If you are willing to give it a shot then you both deserve it...you guys where separated when this happened...but I know at the moment is difficult to trust...but then again there is always that doubt no matter how long or how deep the relationship is... is up to you my dear to either take this and deal with it take it out of your system now or move on to another better pastures.
Think about if those text where really what they where or maybe there is a very but very Good explanation :o)...you never know....let him get creative...and if you decide to stay with this relationship be more on the lookout...like they say in my country "dont let the flies step over you"...
take care good luck!
2007-05-03 09:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by karaya6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, nothing in those texts proves he was cheating on you, or doing anything romantic/sexual with the person who sent them. Good morning, thanks for the pictures, are you home yet, are all questions that a good friend or family could ask... if the messages said "I had fun last night" that might be a bit more suspicious, but still nothing conclusive.
Also, you didn't mention what he was apologizing for....
I think you're looking for a reason to dislike him, a reason to justify breaking up with him. There probably is one, but you haven't shown it to us yet.
2007-05-03 09:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think your going to get slammed for this question, You didn't do anything wrong you was curious and the curiosity was killed, but the both of you we rent together so therefore he didn't do anything wrong. Your taken this whole situation to another level and you want that doubt in your mind as an excuse for not having feeling for him.
2007-05-03 09:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with women.
If you have broken up, he's NOT CHEATING ON YOU.
There's nothing wrong with what he did. So it comes down to the 'why didn't he fess up'. I don't know. You put him in a very difficult situation.
I wouldn't judge whether he'st trustworthy or not based on this. You've known him for a long time, you should know by now.
2007-05-03 09:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you get slaughtered? I have done tax work for years and I follow a simple rule of thumb, "Believe nothing, trust no one". One of my daughters had it printed on a card which I stuck up over my computer; she got it from the X-files. God loves stupid people; look how many of them he created.
2007-05-03 09:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the words of Ross from friends..."you was on a BREAK!!" seriously without trust a relationship is doomed to failure... For both of you it may just be worth cutting your losses and moving on.
2007-05-03 10:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Chelsea Shrimper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breakup with him, you derve alot better , than a cheating loser, respect yourself girl
2007-05-03 09:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive him for what he did but you will never forget.
2007-05-03 09:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by just curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋