Why is it so hard for a cute guy like myself to get a girlfriend?

Question

I don't understand this. I'm 22, I know without a doubt that I'm very attractive, theres nothing wrong with me, and personality-wise, I'm like genuine boyfriend material here when it comes to relationships. Girls never approach me or notice me in person and when I try places online like localhookupz and myspace, I could go through 30-50 girls, probably get like 5 responses that go nowhere. And I dont say anything disrespectful to them, I do my best to play the cards right. I have met girls from these online places before and I know how the process works but they never follow through with me.

Heck, even when I'm tired of chasing relationships due to no results, I figure well I could at least get my rocks off in the meantime (ain't nothing wrong with that, a man has his needs right?), I can't even get a one night stand. My dad is like I'm telling ya, you're real good looking, you can have any girl you want. YEAH RIGHT. It's the GIRL's choice, NEVER mine.

Is something wrong with me?

While I do appreciate the insight I've recieved by many of u, I must say, a lot of u are making assumptions about me and thats okay because you don't know me too well and theres not enough space on Yahoo Answers for me 2 go into detail about myself but I'll try my best.

Im in NYC, I'm not full of myself I'm just smart enough to realize theres nothing wrong with me (from my POV, at least), I have a couple of friends who are girls and they think I'm a great guy, they've got boyfriends tho. I'm not a virgin, I've had G/Fs before but it felt like I had to pull teeth to get one, like I had to go through SOOO MANY rejections to find them, u know? I'm goal orientated and I write movies, act, also want to produce and direct. I'm working my way into the film biz. I'm a good listener and I don't talk about myself all the time with girls. Im just saying that I realize I'm a great guy but feel like Im not getting a fair enough chance in love, u know? If any1 wants pix, email me [e-mail]

Answer 1

Maybe because you're full of yourself.

Answer 2

Apparently there is something wrong with your personality.

1. You seem to be overconfident to the point you are arrogant. "I know without a doubt that I'm very attractive, theres nothing wrong with me, and personality-wise, I'm like genuine boyfriend material here when it comes to relationships."

2. You feel entitled.

3. "I figure well I could at least get my rocks off in the meantime..." More arrogance/entitlement.

If doesn't matter if you are good looking if you don't have a personality. In fact, if you ARE good looking it means you need MORE personality because people are inclined to assume that you are shallow. Life isn't fair.

Consider asking one of your friends that is a girl out. If you don't have any girl friends, then I am inclined to believe that is why you can't keep a girl around long enough to date.

-RNG

Answer 3

I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you!! I know this is a crappy answer, but it's so hard to find a girlfriend when you're out looking for one. It's one of those things that happens at the most random of times, you know? Plus you're only 22 (I'm 23) so it's not like you're old and alone. It's just about going out and meeting people - both guys and girls (networking!!) Go out and join clubs, take classes that interest you, play co-ed sports, do anything! If nothing else, you'll have fun and you'll get a bigger group of friends with the same types of interests as you, and perhaps they have single girl friends. :)

Answer 4

The problem: You're too cocky. You say: "I know without a doubt that I'm very attractive." No girl wants a guy that thinks he's all that and a bag of chips--humility is a wonderful thing. If you're going to persue a girl, do it in person. It's creepy that you're sitting there at your computer looking for a gf. You asked what was wrong with you, so don't be mad at the answers.

Answer 5

Maybe physically there is nothing wrong with you. Maybe you are so desperate for someone that it shows. Do you think you are so attractive that are scaring girls away. No offense, but do you look heterosexual? I hear from some girls or other people that if a guy is so attractive it could be gay. (note to all: I am not discriminating anyone). Do you get to know the girls in this online places, maybe they are afraid. I personally wouldn't want to date a guy that is too attractive.

Answer 6

Perhaps you should try modesty. However, ignoring the self-indulgent part, a lot of females are anxious around attractive men and, if we're not size 00 and Nicole Kidman, we figure you've got other fish out in that dating sea.

It's hard not to blame oneself when you seem to be the only consistent, inconsistent...savvy? When you're the only variable that remains constant about not getting into a relationship. Trust me, I know allllll about that. You sit there and think, "Ok, I'm supportive, nice, funny, blah, blah, blah...so what's the problem?" When you figure that out, Neitzche may rise from his grave and shake your hand, sir. Until then, don't look for love. It will fall onto you like a hammer when you least expect it.

Answer 7

I'm going to go out on a limp here and say you seem a little to cocky for your own good...Stop walking around with a mirror in your hand and actually look at some one else for a moment...There is nothing wrong with thinking highly of one own self, but to over do its another thing...And stop putting too much energy into finding someone. The right person will find you.

Answer 8

Okay, you may be a cute guy, but don't let your ego get the better of yourself! Even if you know you're good looking, try not to strut around announcing it (like you just did in your question). A girl will come around, but don't look for love too hard. Love sought is good, but love unsought and given is better (Finding love is good, but finding love when you least expect it is better). There's always someone out there for everyone. And don't look for one night stands or local hook ups, because those kind of girls are only temporary.

Answer 9

Well, maybe instead of trying to meet people online like some loser, go out clubbing with some friends.
Yeah, it IS the girls' choice.
Actually, I don't think there's anything wrong with you. Unless you're actually ugly and just trying to be a pretty boy.
Girls do care about apparel. So try some new clothes maybe?
Just kick back and girls WILL come to you.
(: goodluck.

and no i'm not interested. hahahaha. sorry.

Answer 10

Don't go looking for them. Get involved and enjoy things. I never got anywhere by looking for relationships. I just got very involved in different things, like church, school, work, different activities, whatever. Relationships sneak up on you. Don't worry about sex. Wait until you are married for that. There are reasons for that. Court a girl the old fashioned way. Meet her family. Get along great with her dad, if she has one. I was 29(1 month shy of 30) and my husband 39 when we got married. I was 28 when we met. Girls who talk to you like at school, work, whatever about things other than school assignments or work are probably interested. And when the time comes, ask her dad for permission to marry his daughter. Girls love old fashioned courting.

Answer 11

Let's see: you state that there is nothing wrong with you personality-wise in the same two paragraphs in which you state that you are good-looking (you know because your Daddy tells you so) and that you need a girlfriend to get your rocks off....
I personally can't see what's wrong with this picture, except maybe that you are a narcissistic chauvinist and I advise any girl to run, not walk, when you come her way.
To answer your question: yeah, there is definitely something wrong with you.