of you would consider dating a man with kids? What if you didn't know he had kids but found out deep into the relationship? Would it change your feelings for him, would his kids be a problem?
2007-05-03 09:15:37 · 22 answers · asked by ☼ Latina Loca loves Yayo ☼ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not dating a man with children, for those of you who think it's my situation. I just thought I'd ask!
2007-05-03 09:25:42 · update #1
I wouldn't be mad that he had kids, I'd be mad that he left that detail out during the beginning of the relationship.
2007-05-03 09:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very angry if I found out deep into the relationship. That's the kind of thing I'd like to know about from the beginning. I don't have a problem dating someone with kids. But if I know from the beginning, there's no resentment over never coming first. I would never want the kids to come after me. They're by far more important.
2007-05-03 16:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I could do it all over again, I dont really think that I would date a man with kids. i am with my husband now and he had 3 kids. they were 8,10,12 when we met. we dont really get along like a real family should. They have a lack of respect for me. Now if the kids would've been younger I think maybe it would be a different story, but its not. If me and my husband ever split up I will NOT date another man with kids. I would just stay by myself and raise the three I have (1 from previous &2 from present relationship). now if your the type of person who absolutely loves all children no matter what(which I'm not) then this may not be your case. I dont think that you should have a change in feelings for him though. although he should have told you ahead of time, if he knew.
2007-05-03 16:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would date a man w/ kids if he was upfront about it. I love kids and hate dishonesty. But, if he were recently separated from the mom, I'd REALLY have to think about getting into a relationship; better yet, I just wouldn't.. Sometimes when you're single it's too soon, throw kids into the mix, forget about it... Too many complications. They'd have to have been separated a long time.
If he were to tell me way later into the relationship, yes, I'd be very very upset.
2007-05-03 16:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by Karla Marx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that as soon as you guys started developing an interest in each other, you should have asked him if he has kids, or he should have told you.
Unless you hate kids, then his having a few should not be a problem. It simply means that you must now work at developing a relationship, not only with him, but with them as well.
Girl, I've been there and it was great!
2007-05-03 16:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by LovablyMe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with dating a man that has children as long as he was up front with you about it...we all have a past...some with more baggage than other's. Just be sure you know this man well before you get to involved...cause remember he does have children...good luck to you...i'm sure with the right attitude everything will work out...that would be sort of neat to be a stepmom...
Sea ya
Daytripper
2007-05-03 16:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by Daytripper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, i started going out with a guy who has two kids, were still semi-together, but not until later when they started to come visit did I realize how much i can't stand them!!! So that's a big problem, at least make sure you like the kids. But in your situation if he didn't tell me i would be pissed!!!
2007-05-03 16:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by puzlgrl21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what feelings for him u have. I was dating a girl and found out that i had another child (possibley mine) and that night i went home to tell her. She told me at the same time she may be pregnant. So i was in a small pickle. But we got through it they dont get along but we are married and living life. To answer your question she did have different feelings after i told her but are relationship was solid and we had one on the way. So it is really up to but just be aware what your heart and brain tell u to do doesnt always make the most sense but normally all works out. Good Luck!!
2007-05-03 16:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by cwpanthro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider dating a man with children, if I were single, if I was aware of it, to start with. Anyone who has a strange reason for keeping children a secret, would not be trusted by me, in other areas. That wouldn't work.
2007-05-03 16:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by laurel g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider dating a man with kids if i found out very early in the relationship and i really thought it was worth persuing. however, id NEVER continue to date a guy who was scheming enough to hide his own children from me for an extended period of time. what else is he hiding? how scummy...
2007-05-03 16:21:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly consider dating a man with kids, but if he didn't tell me until we were really involved he'd be a liar and I just don't play that game!
2007-05-03 16:21:06 · answer #11 · answered by BOOBABY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋