The little girl just comes into my house and destroys stuff. she sleeps over on school nights, and eats all the food in the house! She talks back to my husband and I and picks on my son Preston. She teaches my daughter bad stuff, and pulls the dogs' tails. What in the heck do I do to get this little brat to stay out of my home? My house isn't even a home anymore, it's a pig pen because of this little brat. She stole from me yesterday, and then cried because I wouldn't buy her something at the store. I tried calling the mom and discussing matters with her and it hasn't improved. I tried being sivilized, and now I'm bursting with anger. Her mother even had the right to yell at me for telling my daughter to stay away from her kid. If I lock the doors, the kid yells at my door step 'till I let her in! She's like a stray dog or something. I'm six months pregnate and it's tirefull to chase my own kids, let alone a extra one. Oh, and I told my son that if he belived in santa there was one.
2007-05-03 08:41:32 · 13 answers · asked by aliciatyler 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I agree. Tell the mother if she drops off her kid one more time you will call CPS and say she is abandoning her daughter. If she does drop the kid off again, do just that.
To just dump your kid off where they are not wanted and drive away IS child abandonment. The mother is using you for free day care. Either so she can rest, clean house, or do drugs and party or have sex with a bf or whatever. She is dumping her kid off for free childcare. Do make it clear you don't want the girl there and if she shows up again you will call CPS.
If the kid is walking to your house from her own house that is different. Then you just shouldn't answer the door and she will walk home. But if this kid is being dumped out of a car and abandoned, you need to make it clear that is not acceptable and then report it.
You are a good mom and raising your kids well. Don't let other mothers get away with being bad ones. You might be doing this child a very huge favor to intervene.
2007-05-03 08:53:43 · answer #1 · answered by julliana 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whoa, this little girl is really unruly! I recommend this to you. First, the mom wouldnt discuss things w/you, right? Ok, that's the end of it. She's not allowed over any more, plain and simple. NO MORE. She isnt allowed in your house, she isnt allowed in your yard. It's time to be stern. IF she shows up, set her straight tell her that your daughter is busy and cant play. If she continues to show up, tell her that you dont think it's a good idea that the two of them play anymore. Plain and simple. you are the ruler of your household, and you have the say so as to who can come in and hang out and who cannot. Do not let this little heathen come in and destroy your home that you work hard for. Plus being pregnant you really dont need the stress. If she yells at your step call her mother to come and get her. If her mother refuses, let her know you will be calling the authorities. SERIOUSLY. Kids have no business sleeping over on school nights anyway, you have to put your foot down!!! No more Little Girl!! You can do this, you have to just be the authoritative figure, dont let a kid boss you, the adult around. And if there are problems after this w/the mother, oh damn well. Those people arent the kind you need to be associating with anyway! Good luck to you.
2007-05-03 16:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When things get out of control you have to focus on controlling the things you can. To start with, call the mother and tell her that her daughter may not come for a visit unless you have called her to invite her. This will eliminate the "Well, Willow told my daughter it was OK for me to drop her off." Then, you tell the mother that if the daughter shows up on your door step that you will call the police to come and take her home. Regardless of how long she stays on your front porch and yells, if you let her in, even once, she'll keep doing it. How can she spend the night on a school night without your permission? It is your house and your rules. Let the mother yell at you all she wants. Bottom line, this child is not welcome in your home and you must not let her in. Not sure what the Santa Clause comment has to do with all of this, but you don't say how old your children are, so maybe that info would be helpful. If your daughter is old enough to understand, you may have to have a talk with her about her choice of friends. While her friends are her choice, who you allow in your home is your choice.
2007-05-03 16:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Looks to me like you are the one allowing this to happen. You can arrange to be out when the kid comes by. Let her scream all she wants. You can leave a message on their phone that for the next week you are having company and would appreciate it if she doesn't bring the kid over, you can say your children are being grounded and not allowed friends over, there are lots of things you can do to prevent this parent and child from walking all over you. You need to decide whose child you are protecting yours or hers. Obviously you should be protecting your own from the other kid so do it before your own child acts exactly like the other one and if you don't want to be used as a door mat, then stop laying down!
2007-05-03 15:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by Violet c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the mother to keep her kid at home.... If the kid shows up, call childrens' services and the police... It sounds like the mother has done little to raise her child and now just wants to pawn the little brat off.
2007-05-03 15:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by KaseyT33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! u must be an angel to even out up with it that long. obviously the child has NO conrol or love whatsoever at home. but her mom yelling at your daughter woulda made me blow up BIG time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
you need to call this woman and tell her to keep her child at home and deal with her or do the world and her child a favor and give her up for adoption if she don't want her. from the sounds of it the little girl would probably be better of that way. or tell her that if she comes to your house one more time u will call social services on her for lettin her child stray and lie and steal, then she has the state to deal with. u do not need the stress being pregnant, nor do u need your other children exposed to behavior like that. frankly i would be scarred that that child would hurt the baby once it is born, if it already tortures your pet in your home and the baby will be defenseless. i hope u find a way out of that situation and soon.............gl
2007-05-03 15:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by germanygirl_us 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sucks. First of all, I would have a serious sit down with the little girls mother and clearly tell her that you do not want her to drop her daughter off at your house, say she is not welcome. You have to be firm, you aren't responisble for this child and you don't need the stress, and even if you wern't pregnant, you don't have to put up with it. If the little girl continues to come to your door and scream till you let her in, just let her scream, she'll get the idea eventually.
2007-05-03 15:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound harsh, but the mother is totally thick, and I wouldn't bother with her anymore. the solution is simple - don't let the little girl in your house! Who cares if she yells at your door - hopefully if nothing else it'll get her mother over to get her. But either way, just ignore it, or if you can't, go out to a park, do errands, just get out of the house for a bit.
I have a neighborhood boy that comes over all the time - and I like him, but sometimes just don't want him over! And I will bluntly tell him, you can't come over now, and just shut the door, and thats the end of it. She's just a kid, take charge, and do not let her over anymore, both her and her mother sound like nightmares!!!
2007-05-03 18:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would talk to the mother again and tell her that her daughter can't keep coming to your home if she is going to act that way. If she gets upset then oh well, you have a right to let who you want into your house, and her daughter can't be one of them if she's going to treat all of you this way.
Hope I helped.
2007-05-04 18:55:55 · answer #9 · answered by Lovemykids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is this little brat? holy bad parenting by the way (the other woman, not you.)
Just tell the mother to keep her daughter off your property. If she doesn't call the police.
2007-05-03 15:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by Dziner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋