My daughter Willow has a friend I do not like, and her mom just keeps droping her off w/me, what do I do?

Question

The little girl just comes into my house and destros stuff. she sleeps over on school nights, and eats all the food in the house! She talks back to my husband and I and picks on my son Preston. She teaches my daughter bad stuff, and pulls the dogs' tails. What in the heck do I do to get this little brat to stay out of my home? My house isn't even a home anymore, it's a pig pen because of this little brat. She stole from me yesterday, and then cried because I wouldn't buy her something at the store. I tried calling the mom and discussing matters with her and it hasn't improved. I tried being sivilized, and now I'm bursting with anger. Her mother even had the right to yell at me for telling my daughter to stay away from her kid. If I lock the doors, the kid yells at my door step 'till I let her in! She's like a stray dog or something. I'm six months pregnate and it's tirefull to chase my own kids, let alone a extra one. Oh, and I told my son that if he belived in santa there was one.

Answer 1

Tell the mother flat out that the child is not welcomed in your home. Tell the mother that if she continues to just drop the child off at your house, you will call CPS and tell them that she is abandoning the child.

Tell her that her child is a complete and total brat and until she can acti civilized she is not welcome anywhere near your family.

Personally, I'd do all this and threaten to press charges against the child for theft.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Unfortunately I have to say you are an "enabler" you let this kid sleep over on school nights, you let her eat your food, you need to discuss this calmly & rationally with the mom (get hubby to be there too) I do feel for you, you have enough on your plate with your kids & being 6 months pregnant.
the child "yells at your doorstep till you let her in" She stole from you then cried when you wouldn't buy her something at the store?
Attention seeking behaviour... she wants in, you eventually let her in.
Go to the mother's house and tell her that her child is not welcome in your home anymore, plain and simple. I guess worst case scenario if you've exhausted all other options, call the police or child protection - or any other assistance like that in your area.

By the way - how old is this kid?

Answer 3

EEEEEEK!!!! Sounds like you need to makes plans a few days in a row for when this child normally shows up. Perhaps if you can ever get her visits down to a manageable number, maybe, just maybe, she would be a little bit more tolerable? As far as the stealing goes, I'm with you, NO WAY! And the sleeping over on school nights? Put your foot down. Tell your daughter not to invite her over, if that is the case. I always told my kids if they invited someone over and asked in front of the friend, the answer would always be "NO". Even better, get your daughter involved in a play group and make new friends! P.S. Make sure you meet at their house! lol :)

Answer 4

Easy. Tell the parent to stop, or you'll call the cops. If she doesn't, kick the girl out of the house, and call the cops if she doesn't leave your property, and especially if she steals something. She is trespassing. She is a thief. It doesn't matter if she is a kid, especially if you have warned her. You even could call the cops on the parents for abandoning her if they dump her off at your place. She is not your responsibility. Get the authorities involved, and I guarantee you they'll stop sending her over. It seems extreme, but isn't what the kid is doing pretty extreme? I think so.

Answer 5

Simple answer... you have to take control of the situation. It is your house and her mother is not paying your bills. Don't not subjct yourself to that. Otherwise you are setting a bad example to your kids. You don't want your kids to be in uncomfortable situations so why are you putting your whole family in one. I would firmly tell the mother that her child is untamed.
As a mother who loves kids... I watch a lot of my daughter's friends for numerous reasons. It seems to make my life easier because she has entertainment and Ican know what she is doing. However, most of their parents do not take the time to discipline them in one area or another. They maybe spoiled, pushy, lacking patients or just damn right bratty. However, I normally anaylize their personality and go from there. I give them speeches before we go in stores, and talk to them calmly butfirm. And I must say that even the most difficult one I watch it works. Their parents are amazed that they are so good with me and little hellians at home. But I do not play... I can not have disrespectful kids around me.

God bless & Good luck but get that little girl away from your family.

Answer 6

Well if u are a grown adult woman with 2 children & a husband & u still dont know how to stand up for yourself & tell that woman & her daughter to keep their butts away from your house, u probably deserve what they are doing to u.
But of course u want the mother's so very important friendship so I guess u will just tolerate it.

Answer 7

You don't have to let the little maniac in your house. If she stands on your doorstep screaming, call the police and have her mother cited for disturbing the peace. Put up a no trespassing sign in your yard and tell her to stay out. If she comes on your property again, you can have her mother arrested for trespassing. Eventually, they will get the clue.

Answer 8

if you can't tell the parent let her read this post.. You should stop this right now..It has already started to affect your home life.. Put down rules and stand by them.. If the "friend" can't abide by the rules she can't come over. As for your daughter screaming through the door..Send her to her room to calm down or scream.. Do Not give in. She will learn (like the "friend") to walk over you. Be FIRM ! Good Luck !

Answer 9

Sounds like to me that the mother of this girl has found herself a built in babysitter. I would call Children services and tell them what is going on, especailly since you cannot get her mother to take care of the situation or her own child!!!

Answer 10

well first off i would treat her like my own if shes always over there.. shoot its ur house and u set the rules... and second if u dont wanna do that talk with her mom. I wouldnt take that from a lil girl. Thats ur home and ur family and if the mom dont like it then oh well. Haha give her the old.. beat of the belt!!!! Good luck!!!