ive been going out with my boyfriend for a year now...and the other day my friend came down and he ruined my day he called every five min...he yelled at me because i didnt wana go to his house ..i wanted to be with my friend more and than when me and my friend went to the mall he came & followed us...like im tired of it!! what do i say to him...?? i told him i was mad...but Later he apologized but now im trying to hang out with other freinds and he freaked out?
2007-05-03 08:23:24 · 16 answers · asked by **PrinCess** 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes he is being too bossy. my boyfriend is kind of like that. and youve tried talking to him about it? just last night, my boyfriend was getting mad at me over the dumbest thing and then when i asked him to talk about it with me, he said no i dont want to and i said why and he said cuz im mad! let him know that for both people in a relationship, you need to have communication. ask him if you can talk to him about it just so u can let him know how u feel. ask him why he feels the way he does. dont over react on him though. j ust play it cool. cuz i know with my boyfriend, if i say something that HE THINKS is overreacting hell get fed up. tell him you love him but in order to stay together you need to communicate.
hope i helped :]
o yeah, and another thing, if you guys have been going out for a year, im assuming you dont want to break up cuz that would be wayyy too hard to do. so iof he just started doing this now and it hasnt been happening the whole time in your relationship, it shouldnt be that big of a deal.
2007-05-03 08:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a really long look at your relationship with this guy. Is this truly what you want in a boyfriend? Is he the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with? By the sounds of it you already know that you don't like the way he's acting. You said he apologized for what he did and then did the same thing a short time after apologizing.
He is not going to change. He wants you to want to be with him and only him and will continue to get mad at you because you don't want to be with him and only him, and you shouldn't you deserve to have friends and you deserve to hang out with them whenever you want.
My advice to you is to break up with the guy you are with now and go find someone who will treat you better.
2007-05-03 15:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by An Aries Male 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay 1st off you need to nip this in the butt b4 this gets way out of hand. If you are afraid of tellin him alone(then you don't need to be with him) tell him around someone like a parent but not in the same room. Let him know that you want and need a life outside of him. No matter how long the 2 of you have been goin out he has no rite to tell you who and wen you can hang out. He needs to get it through his thick head. Yea you r saying things to him but he keeps saying sorry and **** is not changing. So sumthing should. Also he mit be doing dirt or did dirt and is worried you mite do the same. (or some1 did dirt on him)
PS. u could compromise and talk with him and tell him that you will check in with him (once) so he can feel reassured...
good luck :-)
2007-05-03 15:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by AC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are key signs of a controlling person...There is know need for you to tell him he's being "bossy" all he's going to do is apologize and do it again apologize and again apologize and again apologize until one day he believes you might be cheating on him (and you really aren't) and he does something so terrible to you, that your self esteem will be so low that you except what he is doing (hitting, seperating you from your friends and family etc...) to you as him only showing you how much he loves you...My only advice to you is "Get out while you can"...
2007-05-03 15:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Define "freaked out." Did he make a big scene and yell at you, or did he just get kinda pissed and act irritable?
Look, just say, "dude, sometimes, I want to do things with my friends. I doesn't mean I don't care about you."
See how he reacts to that.
2007-05-03 15:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by Bob the Builder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow i think you should dump him. i had the same thing happen to me, and you dun want someone telling you what to do all the time? everywhere you go, who your with, you have to leave early to be with them. yeah hes your boyfreind, but your not his property. you can do whatever you want, whenever you want to. and obviosuly you let him knoe about how its getting you mad, and hes still doing it. the best thing to do is find someone who trusts you and lets you have your space.
good luck!
=]
2007-05-03 15:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by Diana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's too possessive. Apparently the two of you aren't a good match. Move on.
2007-05-03 15:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is way too possessive of you. Is this something you can deal with? People like that usually do not change.
2007-05-03 15:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by Dee S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lets see your bf is a total control freak. what u should do is dump him and get as far away as possible cause he wont ever stop
2007-05-03 15:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by angel of darkness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rather than saying "you are bossy," tell him that you don't like it when he says "..." or you don't like it when he does "..." because it makes you feel "..." - you have to be open and direct on what it is that you don't like, as well as explain clearly why you don't like it.
2007-05-03 15:28:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋