Why are condoms still being pushed as the "answer" if no one likes them?

Question

Public Education talks like condoms are the cure for all our kids' sexual dangers, but I've only heard negative things about using them. No one seems to want to use them as they apparently kill off the pleasure of sex.

I personally see no need for condoms as I am an believer in abstinence til marriage and faithfulness thereafter. If you're not ready to have a baby, don't have sex. It's as simple as that. If we could all maintain that philosophy, there would be a drastic decline in these problems. Why can't we push that?

Answer 1

'Pushing' the idea of abstinence until marriage doesn't work because you are pushing it onto teenagers with raging hormones and parents who didn't bother to teach them morality or self-restraint.

So, if you give up trying to make the kids behave responsibly, then you have to do whatever else you can to protect them (and the babies) from unwanted pregnancies.

Condoms DO work. Although some boys will try to tell you that condoms diminish their pleasure, well, tough. The girls should be firm and say "It's either wear a condom or get nothing at all."

I applaud you for your mature stance on having sex. I sure hope you can stand by it when you finally fall in love... Good luck!

Answer 2

On Condoms:
Condoms aren't pushed so much as "the" answer, as "an" answer. Condoms are recommended because not only can they serve as birth control, but they can also protect against disease. The protection isn't absolute, but it is reasonably effective. Unfortunately, it is difficult to get the same feeling with a condom as that with unprotected sex. It would be like kissing someone through a rubber balloon. That's why many people don't like them.

It is incorrect to believe, as you stated, that no one wants to use them. LOTS of people use them. If they didn't, there wouldn't be a market for them, and you'd have a hard time finding them. As it is, you can find them in almost anywhere: stores, pharmacies, gas stations, etc.

On abstinence:
It's respectable that you have decided to abstain. Abstinence is an acceptable solution for some people, for both religious and health reasons, and is the only way to assure you won't get pregnant or catch certain diseases. The problem with abstinence is that most people WANT to have sex, and (unfortunately) that includes some young people (i.e., minors).

The reason we don't push abstinence as "the" solution is that preaching abstinence didn't solve this problem in the past, and it isn't going to solve it now. Even before condoms, when abstinence was the only option, babies were born out of wedlock. That’s where the term "bastard" comes from You are as likely to solve the premarital sex problem by saying "Just don't have sex," as you are of solving the speeding problem (on our highways) by saying "Just drive the speed limit". The reason we have birth control is to try and limit the number of unwanted births that might result from what people always have, and always will, do.

A better way to handle things is to give the options to people, so that they can make their own decisions about what to do. This should include discussions on the realities of various birth control methods, their risks and the results of their failures, as well as the solution of abstinence, with its limitations.

In the end, people are going to make their own decisions, as is their right, in this "free" society.

Good luck in your path, and God Bless.

Answer 3

I worked in a porn store for four years through school. some condoms it should be known can actually make sex better for both partners.
Also living free of disease is important. Your view is quite noble but I am 34 unmarried and never want to get married. I don´t want a baby. I like condoms.
You can´t push that because not everyone can accept that right winged theory. People just need more education. You should always make educated decisions and be ready for sex.

Answer 4

Basically, pushing abstinence doesn't seem to work. Abstinence is the best prevention in theory, but really not when it comes to getting large numbres of people to practice it, and therefore its effectiveness is truly limited. Rates of sexual activity have recently been shown to be very similar between groups of students who claimed to follow that philosophy as the ones who don't.

Personally, I have never found that condoms stifled the pleasure, unless I got a size too small or something. In fact, they can be an advantage for sexually active people because it grants more control over one's level of excitement, allowing one to last longer.

Also, it's really Not as simple as that. We're talking about one of the most basic, primal, essential and powerful of human urges, and preaching "just don't do it" to kids - people who (1) don't always have a lot of maturity, and (2) people who are experiencing a rush of new, confusing, exciting hormones in their systems, is going to fall by the wayside if teens find what they are looking for. They're going to have sex. But they don't have to wreck all of their plans for their lives, because they Can (and are very willing to!) for the most part plan for when they will become parents.

I believe in faithfulness after marriage, too. But I also believe that the two ideals of prevention and exploration/discovery can also be married successfully.

Answer 5

sadly because the world is about sex. think about it its everywhere in almost every movie u see there at least one sex joke or it implies there haveing sex and look at the rateing the ones without them are usally less. its relaly a sad world we live in today. on the whole condums then answer to that is simple. no matter what god wants us to or how many good there is in the world peopel will have sex and they want to feel safe doing it. so the companys tell them that condums are safe they can have all the sex they want they tell u its 99.9 percent safe and peopel hear that figare and most think no farther. what they dont see is thou ture only like one in a hundred fail sex is not jsut aphysical thing or at least it wasnt meant to be. sex is surposed to be an act of love and peopel who use condums or teens that have it is usally a quick thing hideing it. i to belaeave in waiting till marrage because face it it will always be better when u get married if neather of u have had sex and u dont have to worry abotu aids or stds and if u dont have to use condums and can feel it the way it was indedaed to be...ill stop ranting now

Answer 6

I fully agree with the abstinence method! Condoms don't kill the pleasure of sex - giving it away to someone you aren't 100% committed to spending the rest of your life with does.

But... since too many kids don't listen and think it's cool to throw away their virginity to whoever will take it, the condom is the only BC method that stands a chance of limiting the spread of STDs.

Answer 7

You can push abstinence all you want, but you can't make people do it. So, better to give people options. Condoms are often suggested because they're inexpensive, have no side effects like birth control pills can, they don't involve surgery like tubal ligation and vasectomy, and you don't need a prescription to buy them. Additionally, they're a barrier to protect against sexually transmitted disease.