i want to tell me friends about my...i dont know what it is...i mean its not like im anorexic or anything but i just...i dont know i just cant stop..anyways. I want to tell them for support, but everytime i start they just dismiss it saying " well if you're fat then im obese" or something like that. But i want them to understand that for once its not about them, that this time I'M the one who needs support. I sit there and listen to " i hate my life, johnny doesnt like me" or " Omg, i have the worst life ever, my mum didnt let me go out last night." and i want to scream out " Help me" but i cant because noone takes it seriously. Noone understands, how can i make them understand and help me?
2007-05-03 07:45:50 · 15 answers · asked by DiamondKiss 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If you just tell them that you really need their suuport and if they could take some time to hear you out, you'd appreciate it. When they make flippant comments to what your saying, they're not trying to be mean or anything, but just trying to let you know they don't see what you're reffering to. But tell them you don't agree, and don't appreciate them not being there and taking you seriously. let them know you need them. their help, their support. They probably don't realize what they're saying bothers you.
2007-05-03 07:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may be at the point of developing an eating disorder. This is an extremely serious problem that needs addressing before it really kicks off. Contact your doctor and tell him/her about what you feel and how you behave, miss nothing out!! Look in the phone book for anorexia, bulimia or eating disorders. All these people will be able to help you get over it.
Also, there is a fantastic book by Anna Paterson, called Anorexic, which tells of her journey through hell. (I'm close to tears just thinking about the book) She has an e-mail address and she will help you. The address is;
Anna@anorectic.fsnet.co.uk
You need help. There are people out there who can give that help. Contact Anna or one of the groups I have suggested.
I hope the web address is still working.
I hope this helps.
2007-05-03 08:20:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Unreal, I know exactly where you are coming from. First of all, I have a ton of friends so I have plenty of experience, LOL. Second of all, I was in exactly the same situation not too long ago.
This past weekend one of my (many) friends had a birthday party/cookout. It was early in the afternoon and his brother cooked up some hamburgers and hotdogs and steaks. Mmmmm it looked delicious. He told me to have a cheeseburger but I was drinking a few beers and didn't want to impede my drinking ability so I didn't eat. So the day/night wore on and I went to get some of the food and it was all gone. WTF! OMG! I missed out.
Well I guess it's not the exactly the same situation, but I should have eaten a cheeseburger when I had the chance and so should you. Because like my great grandpapa always said, "Can't eat a cheeseburger when you're dead"
2007-05-03 08:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mat P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard telling people that havent been there...and only you know how you feel so they cant possibley know...however to get their support i think you should, rather than tell them together, tell the one that you are closest to and then ask them to explain to the others...I found it hard telling my friends and i put it off for so long but once i did it felt like a huge weight off of my shoulders...
Im sure they will be more than supportive and will want to help you...
Good luck...Stay strong...x
(feel free to email me if u want to talk)
2007-05-04 06:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They couldn't help you even if they did listen. You have to help you.
It's a "me" generation.... with too much focus on bling and skinny....so sad. Don't fall into the trap set by marketers...media.
If you want support go to a group that has an experienced counselor trained in your disorder. Help yourself by getting the right help. After you get it, reach out and help those who suffer also...you- be the one who listens
2007-05-03 08:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by suzangm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you sound young and that means your friends are young too. You need to find an adult to talk to. It might not be easy, but you are screaming out for help and you need someone to listen. Even if your friends did listen, they are not in the position to help. You need to talk to your parents or if that's not possible, find another adult -- a teacher, aunt, a friend's mother, school counselor, SOMEONE.
Please be strong enough to get help. Good luck.
2007-05-03 08:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by luvrats 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and talk to some one you trust there is nothing wrong with youy every one thinks thier fat dont worry about it if you feel you really need to talk, talk to your mom or a female influence you trust. I go through the same thing with my stubbourn belly fat and you probably are thinner than me. be proud of your self and don't worry im sure you are stunningly beautiful
-roxxie
2007-05-03 07:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by Roxxie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people will probably not listen to you and even if they did they'd probably dismiss your problems and get back on with their moaning. If you can you need to try and find new friends because this negativity is going to lead to the development of other, possibly more serious problems. You're probably so frustrated with their moaning and groaning that in a way, punishing yourself by not eating is the frustration you're taking out on yourself, which you'd like to take out on them. But you're too nice. There's something stopping you letting your feelings out when you want to. Because your 'friends' moan, whether you know it or not, you are doing this because you feel like you're putting pressure / your problems on their already 'unbearable' lives. It's because you're considerate. Trust me, you need to hang about with more positive people. You're the odd one out in your so-called group of friends because you feel trapped, so you need to get out. It may be hard, but it'll be better for you when you do. I get it all the time and I'm on tablets because of the stress its causing me. Trouble is, it's people in my class (only 3 of us, so it's like a being in a small group of friends but I don't consider them my friends), and I am not with them by choice. You can ditch the people you're with. I'm going to get out when I go to university so I am stuck for a while with people who wish to burden others with their problems. Not everyone is like this - you're just unfortunate (like me) to be with people who have this personality. You deserve better.
2007-05-04 06:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
soz but these don't sound like very good friends to me, i'd find someone who does take you seriously to talk to - these guys don't seem to care much. find someone else to talk to - your gp, a councellor, anybody. talk to people on here - say how you're feeling and ask for help. add me as a contact if you like then if you do ask i will try and answer - i'm on here almost daily. i hope you find someone who'll listen. good luck
2007-05-05 04:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by pullthetrigger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let out the true words tell wot u feel or walk away, i dont no how u can sit there and let dem do dat 2 u. stick up 4 ur self.
oh yeh wot eva dat fing is dat ur worried bout, i hope it gets sorted
2007-05-03 07:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by Hannah [x] 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋