Premarital Sex. Where do you stand?

Question

I am writting a research report, and i need people's opinions, so do you think sex before marriage is okay? Why or why not? please give honest specific answers. thanks

-Stephanie
Los Angeles, California

Answer 1

I can't belive all these people that say that premarital sex is ok.

Think of what you are promoting.

first of all sex in a marriage is not everything
the main things in a marriege is Love (50%), comunication, wealth, trust, family so stop giving that lame excuse saying oh what about if He or she is not good in bed. If the person you married is not good in bed then that is why they have you, so that you can show them, so that you guys learn together and work in a mutual way. There are so many pills, vitamans, books and treatment that can improve any sex life by more thatn 50 % so stop saying you got to test drive it before you buy it. The people that say this statement (you need to try it before you buy it) are 1st mostly guys and two don't realy love that person and they are just with anyone for sex. that is why they don't have a real relationship and are always jumping for here to there.

If a person realy love you and they have been together with you for many years then they are ready to take the next step with you which is marrige and in this case they should have no problem with it. But if the person doesn't want to marrie you even though they have been with you for so long, but they want to have sex then they don't love you or do they? of course not.

premarital sex are for guys that don't love anyone but just want to use other people for sex. that is why there are so many single mothers out there (God bless their souls) and that is why there are AIDS and STDS.

Think about it people.

Answer 2

I believe that many people are entering into sexual relations far too early and that many problems stem from this behavior. Not to sound hypocritical but I began having sex at age 15 and have regretted that decision for many many years. I believed that I would be 'cementing' my relationship by taking such an adult step and in fact did nothing more than cheapen the experience and ultimately the entire relationship. Ironically, I ended up marrying the 3rd guy I slept with after many many many mistakes in between and I cannot help but be aware that he still holds onto a certain amount of bitterness about this topic. I suggest that serious consideration be made when choosing/deciding about sex and that even if you feel you are 'sure', wait a little bit longer, if its the real thing, he'll stick around.

Answer 3

Premarital sex? One night stands? Opinions?

Answer 4

Premarital sex is never ok. There is nothing sacred left for marriage. Premarital sex remains as sex and not love. There is a difference.
For the society to accept premarital sex, it depends which part of the world you are. Asians shun the idea of premarital sex, but it's becoming more common these days. In western countries, it's more acceptable by the society. Too many teenage girls are trapped , as they have babies, and studies are ruined. Babies are given up for adoption. There are too many consequences of pre marital sex to condone the act.

Answer 5

i believe that u should wait till marriage, but that doesnt happen as much anymore, so if ur gonna do it, at least be safe.
also it has responsibility with it, so under age premarital sex is a no no. but again that would be a double standard from my part.

premarital sex is an issue that we all deal wit, but that isnt the main issue, the real issue is consequence of it.

if ur havein safe sex, and wit someone u trust and know that they will be there if things go wrong, then i dont disagree wit it.
but sometimes as an adult we want no ties sex (aka one night stand) that is a choice u will have 2 make 4 ur self.

Answer 6

Sex before marriage is ok just as long as you do it with some one you love and someone you know will most likely last forever. I didn’t wait to marriage, but I did wait until I was 19 and he is now my husband and we have two kids. Goes to prove that if you wait for the right person things work out great.
I don’t think you should wait until you are married because if your significant other can’t function then it’s too late and that may lead to a horrible divorce or just a very unhappy life for the both of you.

Answer 7

I was in no hurry to have sex when I was a teenager, but when my boyfriend and I had been dating for about a year, we got caught up in the moment and both lost our virginity. I didn't feel bad about it, we loved each other and I think that's what counted. No rush, no pressure, very natural and we were ready. We broke up after high school, mutually and still stay in touch.

It's been 6 years and I've been with two other men. One I fell in love with, got engaged to, have a baby with, and we broke up. (Still friends.) The last man I'm with now and I believe I will stay with permenantly. We had sex after 2 weeks of dating and I think that was ok.

I think having sex before marriage is perfectly acceptable, so long as there is love involved and it's not just for fun or pleasure. I think if the two peolpe are consenting adults, and are ready for that kind of a commitment, I see no problem whatsoever.

Answer 8

I believe that if you are in love, and you know that no matter what could happen it is alright, and of course you are ready and willing, I do not see it as a bad thing at all. I was raised Catholic, which has very strict values and rules that sex before marriage is a 'sin', but I personally do not believe that. People will rush into marriage for sex, which is the wrong reason. Hope that helps!!

Answer 9

Sex before marriage is totally necessary, of course that will depend on people age and maturity. It is of the essence that a couple can get to know each other while in the intimacy, since sex is not the most important part in a relationship but highly important in some sense.

Answer 10

i think it is OK as long as you have committed yourself to that person for at least a year. that doesn't mean like a few months and bam! i mean like you've been with them more than a year, and you know that the person has the potential to be the One. everyone these days is talking about hooking up, and although as a teen, i would have agreed, now that I'm older i see the dangers of it and i see how it affects people emotionally as well as physically. sex should not be given freely, nor should it be kept until marriage. there should be a happy medium. to get married without first having sex is like getting a Ferrari without driving lessons. it may be nice, but if you dont know what to do, its really sucky. hope this helps!!