over a year ago I fell for him when he held me till i slept because i was still upset about catching my x of a few years cheating(they r mutual friends)he at one point after that night told me i was'killing him'.I have heard his name throughout the year(we have mutual freinds)i finally called him and told him he was'eating me alive'he said it was mutual and he had no idea but he started seeing someone.so i told him to tell me to let it go and he said he cant,i ran into him a couple weeks after and we were like magnets and ended up kissing uncontrolably(we both had been drinking)i stopped him when i remembered his girlfriend,he continued to tell me how he wished he had known and brought up that night a year ago and how he had gained feelings from it,he said im the cutest girl alive.it has been over a month and no sign from him since.Can I do anything about me still liking him?Do i ever have a chance?
2007-05-03 06:26:17 · 9 answers · asked by kelly k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not saying that it can't work if the timing was ever right, especially since you left out how he came to be holding you til you slept, but with what you've said....
It just doesn't sound like it has a very healthy start. You were very vulnerable at the time, and he helped comfort you. Like the classic knight in shining armor and maiden in distress scerio, he 'rescued' you so now you have feelings for him, and vice versa.
The next time you came together, you both had the alcohol fuzzying things up a bit.
There is nothing in what you've said that points towards the kind of emotional connection that would make a relationship last or any other kind of healthy foundation.
He moved on with his life, got a girlfriend, because he didn't know you had feelings for him. I strongly suggest you also move on. If nothing else, practice having 'real' and healthy relationships. Then if, at one point, you are both avaiable, and are willing to go on some dates, talk, and see if there really can be anything there, then great. Otherwise, you've still moved on and haven't spent who knows how many years pining over some imaginary relationship that will never be.
2007-05-03 06:41:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ally J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's in a relationship...until such a time as that ends, you need to cool your heels with respect to him. Would you REALLY want a guy who'd cheat, or dump one girl to be with another, anyway?
Move on with your life...if down the road a time comes when you are both single, then you can each evaluate if you want to try something as a couple.
2007-05-03 13:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all accounts, it seems he doesnt really treasure you. If he is, then he would have definitely tried to get close to you, which is not difficult to do. Instead he got another girl friend which clearly shows that he is trying to use you whenever he meets you. Good thing that you stopped his advances. When you expressed your desire to get together, any sane man would have tried to be honest and tell you what you mean to him. which he obviously didnt. So, as an outsider thinking rationally, i feel that this man is not for you. He doesnt deserve you at all. Please try to focus yourself away from him and am sure that you will be happy for it oneday.
2007-05-03 13:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by soliloquy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A chance to crush his girlfriend? Probably. A chance at roping this guy for keeps? Doubtful. Cheaters are cheaters any which way you look at it. It takes a real life changing experience to invoke a change in their mindset. Generally, that never happens.
2007-05-03 13:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have a chance, but you need to let him deal with his life now. I wouldn't wait around, go hang out with your friends. Sometimes people just truly need time.
2007-05-03 13:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a girlfriend right? You probally can't do any thing about liking him but your chances are slim and none if he still has a girlfriend.
2007-05-03 13:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by Dvet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he goes after you when he has a gf and you still respect him? If he is willing to go behind her back, id bet my life savings that he would go behind yours
2007-05-03 13:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him go for it. Find him again and start again. If not then go back to normal life.
2007-05-03 13:30:33 · answer #8 · answered by sikis1312 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow so complicated...>.<"
if you guys havent talked ever since maybe something happened since...?maybe he let it go and i think you should move on too since he already got a girl
2007-05-03 13:31:25 · answer #9 · answered by MiMi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋