We've been together for nearly two years desperately in love with each other, until we've had a fight and decided to separate and we tell each other we love each other a lot,but lately we were suppose to see each other, and he didnt pick up on meor talk to me the whole day. I miss him, and i dont know what to do...itseem s like he moved on, but we promised we will work it all out, but what should i do?
2007-05-03 05:31:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be patient he will come around trust me
2007-05-03 05:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Momma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you and understand what you are going through and I have been in a similar situation where you just don't think you will ever be able to move on without him...BUT...you will and here are a few thing to consider...Real LOVE doesn't hurt you ..it builds you up, makes you happy, perfect LOVE casts out all fears (You are at peace and sure of his love.) Get together find out if he wants to work on it or not. If not take the time to heal before you get involved with anyone else. A good time to take some courses in self esteem. Get that book " Its Called A Breakup Because Its Broken" by Greg Behrendt. Be kind to yourself at this time and surround yourself with friends who will tell you how wonderful you are and what he is missing. Wishing you true love and Happiness! It will come when you start loving yourself and know you deserve to be treated like a princess.
2007-05-03 05:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by scarlet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have had a missed opportunity in life you can gain a thousand miles by simply taking a short cut and that's exactly what your going to do here.
Take another path about your situation. Don't look at it from the front, but behind the picture instead.
This is an example. If you wanted to give a baskets of fruits to a friend to say I'm sorry or I am trying to be nice...ect
How about this>Take them to the market where all the fruits are and say "Hey, I won $25.00 dollars on a scratch off ticket today even though, you didn't and that is called a White Lie, but hee are good ones:) and I'm going to treat us on this money. Pick out some fruit girl let's eat.
She has no idea that your trying to imply anything towards her or him for that matter...this is a way what is called reverse psychology. All they need to know is you won money and were going to pick out some fruit and have fun.
Your main objective is to heal wounds and you're doing indirectly wihout having to say I'm sorry.
The heart is one powerful tool when you use it right!!
The end result is "wow, I had a great time".
Mission Accomplished.
SLFN
2007-05-03 05:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes 2 to "work it out" and obviously from what you said, he has had a change of mind.When 2 people love each other "desperately" and they are not compatible then it will never work out because it takes more than love to make a relationship like respect,kindness, understanding, without those things love stands alone like a beautiful rose planted in a bucket of salt.It slowly or quickly dies.
2007-05-03 05:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound quite young but I believe you know in your heart this relationship is over and it is time to move on. I really feel badly that you are hurt but that is all part of growing up; maturing and learning about relationships.
It seems to me the guy you are referring to does not want to hurt your feelings but he is ready to move on. I know it will be hard but I hope you will let him go gracefully and get on with your own life. Every young person, male or female, has faced the dilemma you are now.
If you can learn now to nurture YOURSELF, develop activities that interest you (there really is something except boys), be yourself because you are special and there is only one you. Trying to be anything else is a fake. Be your own lovable self,. be friendly, don't wear your heart on your sleeve.
The quicker you pick yourself and move on with the next chapter in you life the happier you will be and the sooner the guy who dumped you will regret what he lost.
2007-05-03 05:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs time to think on his own. I hate to say that i know what it feels like but it's truth. He needs space and so do you. He is not intentionally hurting you but he thinks that it is best if you two don't really see each other right now to think about what the fight was really about. Give him some time and yourself too. Things will get better. :)
2007-05-03 05:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by Tabatha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes love does hurt alot.
He may be seeing others to figure out his true feelings for you & how strong they really are.
But it doesn't seem he's hurting too bad without you if he's with others.
I say get yourself a date & give him a taste of his own medicine if he is seeing someone else.
If he does love you he will straighten up & come back to claim you.
GOOD LUCK
2007-05-03 05:39:27 · answer #7 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to talk to him alot more.
tell him what your feeling so he knows what to work on. dont let him run over you just because your in love with him, let him know you love him and that he need to start showing more appreciation for you. He probably hasnt moved on, he just is busy, being a guy, i know how it gets when your trying to do alot of things at once, including work, and so on.
2007-05-03 05:36:54 · answer #8 · answered by hatexsociety88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to sit down and have a long talk with each other. If you both love each other that much then perhaps it about time to settle down... that could make you both happy if you do really love each other that much. or maybe you too are through and need to quit... but really you both need to sit down and have a long talk about your relationship.
2007-05-03 05:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by Nice guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one likes clingy. Pick yourself up and look at how amazing you can be without him. Then move on. If he wants you back enough, he will find you. For now, work on making yourself happy. He's doing it for yourself and so should you.
2007-05-03 05:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its only been one day since you talked everything is prob. ok he just may need some breathing room/ spending time with each other is very important /(trust me) but sometimes guys especially need time alone - doesn't mean they don't love or want you anymore be patient he will call GOOD LUCK
2007-05-03 05:39:43 · answer #11 · answered by RED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋