My husband has become addicted to a new writing website. Everyday he is on it for hours at a time. It's one of the first things he does when he gets home from work. It's the last thing he does before bed, and it's the first thing he does in the morning. I understand he needs something to help wind down after a long day, but does he have to be on it for more hours than he spends with his family? I've talked to him about it many times, and he'll try to do better, but that doesn't last long. I need help. I've become jealous of this website.
2007-05-03 05:28:07 · 18 answers · asked by Hopper52 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why don't you try to get involved? Try to talk to him about it. If you don't know anything about it, read up to know. Try to be part of his team. This is important. It may help you in your marriage.
2007-05-03 05:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by StandTall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should out right disconnect, for this isn't always possible for today's working families.
~ I DO on the otherhand think that you should set your computer up so that there is an access code needed for logging on.
~ I know this might sound kind of childish.......but maybe you work out some kind of reward. For instance......He spends 1hr talking, watching a movie, going to dinner, ect. Then he is able to sit at the computer for 30mins and so on.
Anything you can think of to get that connection between you both back again. Some people don't realize that the computer can actually become an addition, many people will say its their way of relaxing when its really their way of feeling high. And with any addiction...............you have to be able to get the person to see that there is absolutely a problem.
"They say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself."
Anne Frank:
I truly hope that this helps! Good Luck :o)
2007-05-07 11:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by Kristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he has an addiction to the Internet. It actually is a very common thing...check out this website:
http://www.counseling.txstate.edu/bro/internet.htm
Here you can find what an Internet addiction is and what do do to help correct the behavior. It is usually something that can be handled between partners in a marriage, but there are lots of counselors out there that specialize in this. You may not have to go this route after your husband hears that he does have a problem. Let him read about it, too. And be patient. Good luck.
2007-05-03 12:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by justdanknee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i would cancel the internet connection, second when he sees the internet is not working and he will most likely be mad i would tell him we need to talk. and have a long talk about your feelings. or give him times you dont mind if he is on. like from 6-8 or whatever and tell him you want the rest of his time. if all else fails , i would get a job or join something or find a friend and go out every single night he gets on that computer i would say ok honey well i see your busy so i am going out k see ya later. become so busy he starts to worry about what you are doing. even if you dont go out per say just have something else to do, so your not home and look really good when you go. eventually i suspect he will want to know what you are doing and then you can tell him, i am serious about this internet thing, it has to stop.
2007-05-03 14:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by jaada2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You REALLY need to lay it on the line, tell him thoroughly about your concern, before it gets worse (if possible). This is not right. I've heard about this but mostly with online game obsession.
Get up your nerve and tell him exactly what you told us. Say "I've become jealous of this website". Are you sure it's just a 'writing' website and not something MORE (sexual?)
I'd be very concerned.
Try to get you 2 out of the house as well...get his mind off of it!
Good luck!!!!! :)
2007-05-03 12:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by green27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cancel the cable or DSL.
Then....on the day it quits working, have a nice dinner reservation scheduled. Tell your husband to get dressed and get ready to go to dinner. Do not take no for an answer. If he won't go, then call and attorney and get the paperwork started. He needs to know you are really UNHAPPY.....!!!!
Take your husband out to dinner and have a brutally honest conversation with him about YOUR NEEDS. Tell him that you expect him to be as brutally honest with you about his needs.
Agree that in the future unless you both enthusiastically agree about something that NOTHING will happen.
Things will change quickly is suspect......
2007-05-03 12:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he comes home, be waiting for him naked. LOL. Or, you could unplug the computer and hide the cord to plug it back in. Besides talking to him, I wouldn't know what to do either. Maybe try cooperating with him so that he can be online, but give him a limit (an hour, maybe?) that both of you come up with. Maybe you can have lunch with him and discuss it then.
2007-05-03 12:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by tinythesp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay a little more attention to him. Ask him to go out for dinner, walks or even to watch your favorite tv show with you. The more you do this, the more attention he will give you. But remember, it's also important for both of you to have seperate interests and hobbies as much as it is important for you to have things in common. Good luck!
2007-05-03 12:33:54 · answer #8 · answered by Tibby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's very immature. How old is he? Even my dad (very old dad) plays video games too, but it's the last thing he does after he pays the bills, exercises and watches TV to relax. Then sometimes he got out to do errands after work, and brings my mom along.
2007-05-03 12:44:45 · answer #9 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shut off the computer and give him a lap dance. Seriously, add some spice to your bedroom. Try new things. Maybe a little kink? :)
2007-05-03 12:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋