I'm sorry if this wording upsets anyone, and I don't know if this is even the right category for this, but I'm talking about BDSM, rape, and things like that. I never would want these things to happen to anyone in real life, but I can't help fantasizing about them. Is this wrong, especially since I'm a woman? I can't help but feel guilty about it. Thanks in advance for your answers.
2007-05-03 05:24:24 · 19 answers · asked by Persephone 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's what fantasizing is for ... you should know your own limits and your partners limits ( if you have one ) ... as long as nobody gets hurt, embarrassed or regrets what they are doing ... you'll be just fine ... that's why God gave us an Imagination ... lol ... !
I always feel guilty about my fantasies - just because I'm so demanding & dominating in them ... lol ... it's a side I might have to explore ... so I understand where you're coming from ... !
2007-05-03 05:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
BDSM and rape are two different things. I'd encourage you to learn more about both of these things to be able to distinguish between the two. BDSM is a lifestyle more than anything while rape is a crime. If you are with another consenting adult and you want to roleplay and act out something then that is fine. I do not think it is wrong to fantasize, however if you're having thoughts about doing something that is illegal to someone else maybe you should seek some help.
2007-05-03 05:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are fine and a normal healthy part of life. However if you have violent fantasies like yours on a regular basis it can be a problem for you in your life. You might want to talk to someone about it. A counselor or therapist can help you balance it out by helping you to figure out why you have them in the first place. I would definitely check it out.
2007-05-03 06:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by MissWong 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its no longer unusual. My husband has an identical delusion. Its well-known.. like maximum fantasies. each marriage must be open adequate to share fantasies.. until eventually you're waiting for her to act this out. that may not circulate over properly, a minimum of no longer with me lol.
2016-10-04 08:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD. I asked a question earlier asking about if it was ok if I fantasize about rape...God...I know it's wrong, but I can't help it. I think it's all in a sense of loneliness. I think I want to feel protected and weaker than a man because I have no one to look out for me, and if I did have one to look out for me, that's exactly how I'd want to feel...protected.
2007-05-03 05:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by XoPrincessXo 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The best thing about fantasy in your own mind is that it's yours, nobody can take it away from you and as long as you know your own boundaries nobody will get hurt. BDSM can be safe as long as you find a patient person who will respect your limits. (I'm not into it myself but I dated a girl for a while who was who told me all about it.)
2007-05-03 05:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by darkness_returns 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Naw, people fantasize about a lot of things because in their fantasy, they have control. It's taking them to the next step that is the problem. So, have fun!
2007-05-03 05:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to find an open partner that will fantasize with you and do a little role playing.
Don't suppress your feelings or feel bad abut them!
Have fun with life!
2007-05-03 05:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've done that once. I don't think it is wrong but at the same time I do think it's wrong because you can't help it but if you think about it too much then that's wrong. Well, that just means you're perverted I guess if you do think about it a lot.
2007-05-03 05:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by :) 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's ok to fantasize, you can even do a bit of role play with your partner if he shares the same view...just don't be obsess with it and make it a reality with strangers.
2007-05-03 05:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by myohmymyohmy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋