Why is HE getting mad at ME?

Question

I love someone who is currently with another girl, who is also currently with someone else, and would dump both of them for someone I think of as a brother if he werent joining the army.

And yet he gets mad at me because I wont go out with him till he dumps her!
Me <3 'Josh'
Josh <3 me, but still with 'Her'
Her <3 josh(bf), mike(fiance!!!! ) and matt(would dump both josh and mike for him)

and yet I'm the only one getting yelled at!

here is my I'm a freaken girl help me question--0 ZOMG LIKE love -tri-hexagonal-angle^9 >.>

my bad, forgot to add, I'm single, and he has been a freind for the last 6 years, and is the one who came after me, i'm not some susie homewrecker

And I didnt say I want him to dump her, I just am not going anywhere near the relationship idea unless he does.

I guess it woulda been a better question if I'd asked should I even be his freind because of all this..

Immortal Beloved-
I dont need to be patronized please. I'm the one who didnt bother with dateing till after high school. I just grasduated last week from a 2 year school on landscaping with 7 levels when only two are required( in fact 2 or 3 is the normal for a student to get done by two years) and a pesticede license. And I'm about to move to another state, ignor his, live with me pleas, to become a locomotive engineer. trust me, I dont fall into peoples drama on a whim, and I do enjoy brodening my horizons. I've loved this boy and sat on that love for years, letting him get through his rough life, and NOW after all this time, he finnaly sees that I care for him, and he falls head over heels. Its been 4 months almost, and he isnt over it, so its not just a, 'hey, I could get some' crush.

Guys, why do you put girls through this?

Answer 1

you lost me; who's mad at who now?!

Answer 2

Oh baby, honey, sweetie, precious, sweetheart! We have soap operas to satisfy such primitive needs for drama, there is no need to become mired in such things in real life!

Honey, get out. Learn something, socialize, get to know new people. Perhaps get a better job or begin saving for a trip to broaden your horizons.

Do not cheapen yourself by behaving as if you are an uncivilized carnivore among a pack in which there exists only one piece of meat!

Oh my dear lord, where is the self esteem here?

Unless you just like this sort of drama...... ~sighs~...but I am certain your efforts would be put to better use in other areas of your life.

Answer 3

Stop associating with these people. I remember a time when people dated (the serious stuff) one at a time. Most people aren't satisfied sharing their loves with two or three others. Since you want him to ditch another girl, I think you're one of them. Go meet other guys who are single. Going after ones that are taken won't end well.

Answer 4

Messy situation indeed...How about dating someone who is just single and not get involved with this mess? Starting anything with a bunch of baggage attached never works out...This is a bad situation and honestly should just be avoided, find a free guy with no luggage...

Answer 5

Hi Jerry Springer here. Call me.

Answer 6

I'm confused. All I can say is be true to yourself. Find someone who isn't entangled in all of this mess and go out with him.

Answer 7

You sound like a soap opera. You have way too much darma in your life. Move on.

Answer 8

It doesn't sound like any one in this "story" is mature enough for a monogomous relationship. I wouldn't waste any more time on this, honey.

Answer 9

Have you seen Big Love?

Try that because you just confused the hell out of me.

Answer 10

ask him y hes askin you out when hes still goin out with another gurl

Answer 11

maybe he wants to be a player and see how it feel to have two women. . . don't know