Older Man's Sexual Performance?

Question

My curiosity is getting the best of me. I'm 26 years old and I'm falling for a much much older man. He's going to be 48 in a couple of weeks. We have been conversating alot lately and we both think that we might want to take the next step but... I wondering at what age do man start seeing problems with their sexual performance. We have put this off for awhile to make sure that it is something that we both want and also to see if we could handle to idea that people would have a problem with the age difference. BTW - It's currently a long distance relationship. I know that he is still capable of performing but I think it would be rude for me to come right out and ask him this question. I also have no one else to ask. I know sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship but it does help in building a strong foundation especially in the beginning. Could anyone help me with my question so maybe I can have a heads up so I know what to expect if we continue farther.

Answer 1

As men age, their chances of having ED increase, although a 46 year old guy is by no means "over the hill" sexually. Most of those middle-aged guys should perform just fine, although they may not have the physical stamina to go for long periods or the ability to "get back up" quite as quickly. It's when you get up into the 60s and 70s that that becomes a real issue.

If and when you're ready for sex with this guy, you don't need to ask him about his performance.... just do it. If things don't go perfectly well (do they EVER go perfectly well the first time you're with someone???) just be patient; don't look sad, or depressed, or annoyed (as that may exacerbate the problem), but instead enjoy whatever it is he can do (if that means limited penetration, or oral, or manual, whatever), give him encouragement, and if it becomes a long-term sexual affair, and nothing's happening, ask him to seek help (in the nicest way possible).

Answer 2

So, first of I would like to ask if you have even talked about sexuality. If you are unsure if you can ask him about it, how open is that aspect of the relationship going to be? Sex, just like anything else requires good, open, honest communication. Honestly, you should just talk to him about it. Is it something that you're both ok with and is it something that will happen right away? These are the more pressing questions. Since he's older, he would most likely be experienced in the ways of a woman. Anyhow, there are lots of products and medications available to enhance or preserve sexuality. His fitness would play a role in his abilities as well. Otherwise, things can be biologically working just fine until a much older age. Also intercourse is not the only route to satisfaction, and you may want to know if he is up for other means if he can't sustain an erection.

Answer 3

Good question. As men differ in their physical conditions so do they differ as to the effects of aging the experience. Some are impotent at 35 and some are having kids at 60+. Some things that effect sexual performance can easily be cured some can't. Guess your going to have to ask him the question that's on your mind. Also, keep in mind there are you men with the stamina of a stallion, but can't not satisfy a woman. An older man comes to you with years of experience and a desire to please. If you like him give it a go. At least you can stay friends if it doesn't work out. If it does you will really understand what they say about fine wines.

Answer 4

Many men can perform better and better as they get older. Plus they know how to take their time. Normally a problem in bed is a sign of another health problem and if he does have a problem, then he should see his doctor for a full physical.

The age difference is huge. I’ve been there and love is blind. You just have to ask yourself if when you are 60 and still very active, are you willing to be a care giver for an 82 year old man? If you are, then more power to you. You are an adult and can make your own decisions.

Answer 5

Older men are not younger men. Teenage boys sometimes get erections even when they don't want them, and the stimulus that causes it isn't always sexual. By the time a man is in his 20s, that problem is usually under control, but he still gets easily turned on by the sight of a pretty woman nude or in skimpy clothing.

As men become older, they are less easily turned on by visual stimuli alone and more by touch and by situations. You might say that as men age, their sexual arousal pattern becomes more like those of younger women. The problem with that is that the male role in sex is necessarily the active role. He has to get it up before he can put it in. Whereas younger men can just hop into bed and get busy immediately, an older man might need foreplay or fantasy to get properly motivated.

I don't see a problem with age difference in a couple, as such. It can be an advantage for some people. But you should be aware of the changes that occur to men as they get older, especially if you intend to bypass the sexually rambunctious male youth in your lover.

Answer 6

Speaking from experience (my husband is 10 years older than me and I have been with men older than him, too. And I am 34 now.) I would like to say that the performance is not an issue.
With older men, you do not have the wham bam thank you ma'am issues. They are very giving and willing to do things that will make you feel special and intimate. There is medicine for all physical problems that occur.
Do not hesitate to explore a relationship with this man on just this issue. If anything, you will be able to come out of it with a wonderful experience of being with an older man.
There is stability, patience, and (generally) true appreciation for a woman's inner beauty.

Answer 7

As a 48 yr old man i have no problems with my performance as of yet; but if i were him i would rather be asked since he probably wonders the same. Not that sex is most important but it is a part of most relationships like you are considering.
Besides, if he's a man he won't be offended; if he is offended then he isn't much of a man.

Answer 8

I think you should find someone closer to your age. You have a 22 yr age difference here and he is long going to be pooped out before your even ready to retire.
Sex will not be your problem, changing his diapers and taking him on walks at the nursing home will be.

Answer 9

It is not true that sex is not very important in a relationship.Look in 20 years he is going to be 68 and you will be still young enough.More he,s getting older more difficult it will be for him He will feel unhappy because he can,t satisfy you.And in the end everything will foal apart.I am shearing my personal opinion.

Answer 10

You just said you KNOW he is capable of performing? Anyway, yes...it would be rude and maybe embarrassing for him if you were to ask. At his age, there is probably not a problem but if there is...there is medicine available for that.