ADHD Question?

Question

I just read a comment someone made on here to a parent who gives there child medication for ADHD, the person called this parent lazy and that she is just finding an easy way out. I have a child with ADHD and let me tell you its difficult, I tried everything before putting him on medication and basically he was doing so bad in school and his behaivor was crazy. I now have him on Concerta and I give it to him for school and school only when he is home on weekends or on school vacation I do not give it to him. Now he is doing much better in school then before. I guess I am a lazy, finding the easy way out type of parent as some of these judgemental parents may put it but at the same time I want my child to get a good education and be able to concentrate in class. I just want to know what gives some of you not all the right to judge if your not in that situation and your child is suffering in school because of it????

Caretaker, yes my doctor is aware and he said alot of parents do the same thing,

Answer 1

My daughter is 5 years old and my doctor decided to diagnose her after a 10 min checkup. She said that my daughter has ADHD and that there is some really good medication out there for it. We got to go home with a prescription(we did not fill it). With that said, I will not and will never medicate my daughter or any of my 3 daughters for ADD or ADHD.
Here we go, My 5 year old had been on some antibiotics now and then for some things and now she is showing all the signs of CANDIDA (yeast overgrowth) Antibiotics are a huge contributer to it. Some of the symptoms are: Allergies, ADD, ADHD, Eczema, IBS, food allergies, abdominal pain, fatigue, sinus issues, depression, yeast infections, migraines, muscle aches, asthma, ear infections, and alot more.
Well in the last year my daughter has developed allegies, ezcema, abdominal pain, fatigue, and had her first ear infection along with being diagnosed with ADHD.
So I take the simple steps at adjusting her diet, giving her more excersise, and cuting out sugar (that is what keeps the candida going). She is doing great now and she doesn't have the fatigue, abdominal pain and her ezcema is gone for now. She now focuses great in school and her teachers love the turn around, I have not gotten a chance to tell the doctor to shove it and I probably won't since we switched doctors.

I do not think that by medicating your child that your lazy. I do feel that people need to educate themselves and look at the healthiest options out there and try those first.

Answer 2

You are correct when you say people are judgemental but you are wrong if you buy into being a lazy parent.You are trying to go against the "popular" opinion of not medicating children whose life is improved by taking meds.You are making a conscious and thought out decision to help your child reach his fullest potential.If you ever question whether you made the right hoice just look at your son and ask yourself 1. is he a happier child 2 are his days more organized 3 is he doing better at school 4is he doing better in social situations etc.If you can say yes to these questions you need not concern yourself with popular opinion, the only validation you need is that of your son and how he is regaining control of his life and his future. Might I also add that if a child cannot concentrate he cannot learn. I have answered many questions regarding the use of meds for ADD and ADHD andI will repeat that no responsible parent advocates overmedicating a child.There also comes a point in time when a parent must say that that diet, sports and structure are simply not enough. Pat yourself on the back for having the courage to do what is right for your son and apologise to no one.

Answer 3

They don't have the right, they have no idea. I think what happens is a lot of children are misdiagnosed, the parents are told their child has ADHD by a teacher or medical professional. They do some changes in discipline, maybe diet and all is better. So then they think, "huh that wasn't hard, those parents that medicate are crazy." But really what it is, is that their child doesn't really have ADHD or has a very mild case.
My husband and oldest son both have ADD/ADHD, evaluated by a psychiatrist, using the actual forms to correctly diagnose.
We tried different discipline methods, lots of different diets, for YEARS and nothing helped.
They are both on Strattera and doing great. For once my son is able to participate in group activities and concentrate on learning. I do wish that there was a way besides the medication, but I am not going to deny my child the right to succeed in life because of other peoples opinions.

Answer 4

I agree that parents who would say we are lazy because our ADHD child is on medication have no right to judge us. My 16 1/2 year old son is on medication. He takes it every day now because if he did not, he would wreck the car while driving. he gets A's and B's in high school. Before he got his license, I would give him drug holidays...during the summer when he would visit his father. But, he has to be able to focus all the time now in order to drive. he recently started on a new patch which delivers a much steadier dose of the medication. All parents worry when their child learns to drive and takes the car...with out the ADHD medication, I would be on medication myself for the worry. Stand strong in your decision.

Answer 5

mine has adhd and is on concerta too. and we tried everything before we put him on the meds... he went from D`s and F`s to A`s and B`s. it changed his whole outlook on school. he went from thinking he couldnt do it to knowing he can... i gave him meds only on school days. i took him every 3 months to dr to be checked out and every 6 months for blood work. for a lazy parent i sure am on the go alot... just cause ur child has adhd or add dont make u a bad parent... but it does make u a bad person to pass judgement on things u have no ideal about..i cant stand ppl that have no clue but want to put their 2 cents in... best of luck to u and ur child and dont let the idiots get to u.

Answer 6

Thank you - my daughter has ADHD and I had fight uphill to even get her seen and when I did we saw a nice christian psychologist who said we will do everything we can before we put her on medicine. After she was tested he said you can't beat this into her. The medicine helps her focus on her school work. It broke my heart to see her crying over schoolwork. No I don't think you are lazy. I think you are good mother - it is hard having a child with ADHD. There are some support groups online if that helps you any. Good luck.

Answer 7

I AGREE!!!

My nephew has O.D.D. he's 12 yrs old now...He went from "F's" to a B+ even A's. He has Emotional and Abandonment Issues. My mother has full custody of him and his sister (not my kids..but wish they were) It's very tough trying to parent him and give him the extra love and attention that he needs but in the same way show his sister equal love and attention as well.

People that don't have kids with ADD/ADHD or ODD need to research and see that we as parents have normal kids too. It's not fair to judge parents or kids!!!

I'm proud of my nephew! He's tries so hard to do well in and out of school.

His reward...he's going to a Tim Horton's Camp in Kentucky in July, but it's not just kids with ADD/ADHD either it's an opportunity for every child to succeed and be allowed to succeed!

So, if u'r not a parent who has a child with ADD/ADHD research it! It's not the parents nor the childs fault!!!!

THEY ARE HUMAN TOO

Answer 8

My kid is bouncing off the walls 30 seconds after waking up in the morning and has trouble sitting long enough to eat breakfast.
People who don't have an ADHD kid have no right to pass judgement.

Answer 9

i have ADHD,and i was on ritlen and i have and always will hate it,it's chalky,hard to take u have to take it 2 or 3 times a day and it affects ur mood,try dexadrin,that's what i am on and it works AMAZING,i am toatally calm like ny other person,and i just take it 1 in the morning,and it really helps me get motovated,dosen't affect my mood or appitite,and i luv it

Answer 10

i just wanted to applaud you for defending your child and your reasoning for giving him medication.My nephew was put through every test imaginable before my sister decided to give it to him and he is a totally different child.So congratulations to you for also finding something that works for your family!!