I really like a guy who is 24 yrs older than me. if i decided to be with him, it would be socially unacceptable. Why?
P.S. I'm almost 19
2007-05-03 04:14:04 · 19 answers · asked by Little Girl 2 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most 19-year-olds don't know how to carry a responsible, nurturing relationship. It's not your fault, because you don't know what you haven't experienced yet. If this guy is old enough to be your father, chances are he doesn't have the best intentions. I know there may be exceptions to every rule, but 99% of the time, in situations like yours, LOVE is not the reason a 19 and a 42-year-old get together. In the grand scheme of things, you are still a little girl, no matter how old you think you may act.
2007-05-03 04:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by oh really 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, the only reason it is socialy unacceptable is because a 43 year old just looks dumb with a 19 year old, i mean think of it this way, a 43 year old woman would look retarded with a 19 year old... i know looks aren't everything, but when you see a 43 year old and a 19 year old in public kissing or groping on each other, I just laugh generally, i mean i think its stupid to believe that you would have any other connection than a strong sexual appitite.... I mean on what level other than that can you connect on? Your Matureity levels arent on the same page, although they may seem that way, Your day to day living is TOTALLY different i'm willing to bet. You can't really have THAT much in common with this guy, and he feels a need to re-live his youth, which is cool and all but go buy a porche or something
I mean you have so much left to do with your life while he is "stuck" so to speak right in the middle of life, looking for a way out of his boring, miserable, exsistance.
Go for it if you want to... i guess i'm just telling you straight up weather you wanna hear it or not.
2007-05-03 11:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by Deformation Age 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's entirely up to you whether or not you want to pursue anything with this man. But, because you're such a young girl, people have to wonder whether you're looking for a sugar daddy or whether he has a history of seeking out younger women.
Where I don't know the full story between the two of you, I can only give a vague point of view here. But you're only 18, do you really want to be tied down to someone who is 42 and probably has some baggage since he is that much older and more experienced than you?
I hate to concentrate on your age, but since you're young you should focus on being young, and that includes dating in your age group.
2007-05-03 11:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Tibby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Often men in their 40s go for girls in their late teens and early 20s because they're reliving their youth. They're afraid of getting old and need reinforcement of their virility. I'm not saying this is the case with your guy but that happens a lot.
If you decide to be with this man, do it with your eyes wide open. Don't expect it to be more than it is. Be sure he's not married. If he treats you with respect and you feel good being with him, go for it and enjoy yourself. Relationships of this nature have been known to work out but again, keep your expectations in check. Be honest with him about your feelings and ask him to be completely honest with you about where he wants the relationship to go.
As for social standards and acceptablilty, not one other person can live your life for you. Don't ever let another person, through word or attitude, dictate what you do. Do what's best for you. And enjoy yourself.
2007-05-03 11:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really think the problem most people would have with it is that why would a man in his 40's want to date someone who si 18. I mean he could be your father and I think that is why society as a whole has a problem with it. Personally I wouldn't date him if I were you. I hope this helps.
2007-05-03 11:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by Dee S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's old enough to be your dad (ugh!!!) Also, it's make you look all Anna Nichole & people may view you as a gold digger, because there isn't much a 19 & 43 yr old have in common. You grew up in two VERY diffrent eras. Also , with you being so much younger than him, later in life he may not respect you as an adult.
2007-05-03 11:26:10 · answer #6 · answered by atlchick1983 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that it's completely socially unacceptable. Some people would think it was strange, but others wouldn't care. Love is love.
2007-05-03 11:43:05 · answer #7 · answered by dragonfly_soup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the simple fact that older males, especially that much older are at a different maturity level then someone who is 18. they know what an 18 year old girl is looking for (an older man who doesn't want to play games and has alot going for himself) and can tell her all the things she needs and wants to hear, simply for the fact that they have been 18 before.
Also, it looks bad to date someone who is old enough to be your father... makes you think about where that man's head is at and why he is looking at women that young.
2007-05-03 11:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by knbizz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
becuase he's old and crusty LOL. JJ it's because people in society believe that older men only date younger women when they have an affair with one and their wife leaves them. Or that he only got the younger girl because she's a golddigger and he has money.
2007-05-03 11:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is not nessisarily imoral, but it is wrong, First of all This guy could be your father, so the question is why would you want to be with someone who could be your father, and second why would he want to be with someone who could be his daughter? SICK, think about it He was 24 the day you were born EWWW
2007-05-03 11:19:46 · answer #10 · answered by Hootie J 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋