Do people on Welfare make you mad? Why do they get so much free stuff?

Question

Let me start off by first saying I am not well off. I make less than $30,000 and I still struggle to make ends meet. I am single (unmarried & no kids).
Recently I started college, which I have to pay for myself and go part time cause that's all I can afford and could not get any grants cause I "make too much $".
At college I started takling to woman who is 30. She getting a full grant to go to college cause she is a single mother. Well get this her 15 daughter gets knocked up. The gov. gives them money to add extra rooms to the house for the new baby. Then once the baby is born, the 15 years gets a free computer to do her school work from home and gets the rest of the school year off. She also gets food stamps, WIC, a welfare check, medical card, and of course once she gets out of high scholl will get a free ride to college.
All of this really makes me mad. As sad as it is, I am begining to think if I had to do it all over again I should have got knocked up really young...........

It makes no sense to me that people get rewarded for having kids. I just don't get it. I know some people fall on hard times and need help and I understand that, but why do people get all of this free stuff?
Also, I used to work a grocery store a few years and a girl I went to school with came in and I rang her up and she had over $900 worth of food stamps! The worst part is she has never worked and has 6 kids!! Since I went to school with her we are about the same age and I was 23 at time!

errrrrrr. I get so mad over this!!!!!!

I don't think half of the people that responded to my question read the part where I wrote "know some people fall on hard times and need help and I understand that,but why do people get all of this free stuff?
I know some people need help from time and I'm not saying that anyone should stay in an abusive relationship to avoid getting assistance. I just think it's BS that people live off the system and keep having kids. The governmaent should be passing out condoms instead of welfare checks to half the people that get aid, but instead they keep rewarding these deadbeats and giving them more and more. Also for those of you that think by me grossing less than $30,000 is alot of money, it's not. And for the person who said I'm jealous, Hell yes I am!! If we are all created equal why should I bust my *** so others can sit on theirs and collect??????

Answer 1

As you pointed out, there is a difference between "professional" welfare users and people in need. People in need have worked and paid into the system, and need help when they have fallen into difficult times. They should be able to get the help from the system that they have helped support. But people who make this a way of life upset me greatly, but in this world there will always be givers and takers, and users that have no sense of morals or fairness.

Answer 2

you sound more than jealous, you sound very hypocritical. Welfare is not a free ride. It's a very hard ride. The TANF checks are not enough to pay anything with unless you have a lot of kids. And you lose it after only 3 months, if you don't find work, unless you are disabled. I don't know how this girl got money to add a room or for a computer, you might wanna get your facts on that. Welfare doesn't give out free computers. Financial aid is a means for people with low income to go to college so they can work for a better future so they won't have to live on welfare and struggle. WIC only provides certain cereals,milk, eggs, and cheese. And medicaid is very particular about what they will cover. You act like people have everything handed to them on a silver platter, having to live on welfare is hell not a piece of cake.

Answer 3

The welfare system is badly abused and misused. I think someone should not be allowed any longer than a year (and to me a year is too long) to be on welfare. Unless there is a medical problem...even the most uneducated person CAN work...at something. I think 80% of people on it abuse it. Now, I know they are still poor...and really don't have anything, but I can't imagine not having to drive to better myself. It may take a lot of work and struggle-but worth it. I came from a poor welfare family but my parents were hard working and changed that. I'd say my family is now upper middle class....and they came from a low low class. :)

Answer 4

Well... I am on foodstamps, and have a friend who abuses the system. Difference - I really need the help. She just wants it her pocket. Some people actually like living off welfare - I personally am going to school online (my bf brought the pc lol) so I can get off. I never got anything for free, but I know some who have. And when welfare gives away something free (money or whatever), they usually put you on a welfare-to-work program, and when you make money, they make up their minds on whether or not they will take some of their stuff back. Oh and ask them where they extra money to add rooms because me and my bf are currently stuggling with him making $9.25/hr, and paying $500/month in rent, have a $1200 gas bill (F-ed up landlords), and I jacked up my credit when I got kicked out of my house with ni money and 3 credit card offers. Not complaining, but would love a little help to get back on my feet, and do all I've wanted to do for my son and myself.

Answer 5

I fully agree with you. You brought up a key point. That is that you have a job and your taxes are paying into the system. I appears that the other respondents are also American citizens who either have or had jobs or parents who paid taxes into the system too. What about those illegals and other foreigners who never worked here and therefore never paid a penny of taxes. They are sucking off of us to the tune of billions of dollars a year. I am convinced that every baby born to an illegal Mexican mother comes out with a welfare application in the hand. I am a pharmacist and over 35 years have filled in the tens of thousands of medicaid prescriptions. I don't know about you, but I hope all of the other tax payers are tired of paying for a $500 ER visit so baby Jose can get a $3 bottle of Tylenol drops on medicaid. I am tired of filling a prescription for prenatal vitamins for someone who has 8 kids each having a different last name on her medicaid card.

I applaud you who have worked hard and still struggle but are convinced you will make it without outside help. I feel no sympathy or sense of responsibility to help out those who have made bad or stupid choices such as getting pregnant at 15, had a loser partner or become hooked on drugs. Those are decisions you made and have to live with. I do feel compassion for handicap children and elderly Americans who need help.

Answer 6

I understand how you might think that people are ONLY abusing the system, however, that's not always the case.
What about the woman who finally got herself and her kids away from her abusive husbands angry fist? She needs somewhere to go and something to get started out with.
When I was a single mother, I got food stamps and medical care for my kids, but I also worked 2 jobs. Not everyone getting help is lazy and worthless.
Sometimes it's just really hard for women to get on their feet with kids in tow and it's best for the kids to have some help along the way.
You can't put all people on welfare in one group and think they have it easy.
I got away from my abusive husband with my 3 boys and worked 2 jobs with NO CAR yet I still needed a bit of help. It was not glamorus and I wouldn't want to go back to those days, but it's alot better than facing an angry drunk with guns at home.

Answer 7

OK.. let me put my thoughts in now. I think it sounds like you are jealous that people recieve free stuff and you don`t. Everyone has differant needs, you make 30,000 a year... thats about 2500 a month.... thats more then enough to survive... there are people that have a hard time finding a job because they are pregnant, or their child has a medical illness... I live in one of the most expensive cities in the US... MIAMI. My rent is $1,150, car insurance here is rediculous... if have PIP for 250 a month. Along with all my other utilities... I`d have about 40 dollars a week without any assistance... I thought I would have help but my childs father ended up in jail 2 days ago... and will be there for a while... my child is due in december..... So don`t be mad... If we did not have Welfare and DCF there would be very hungry children... kinda like in south americaand africa....

Answer 8

I can relate to your frustration. It seems like you did everything "right" and now you have to struggle to get through school and end up with a ton of loans in the end. As a single mom, I get a help from the county in my state of NJ. However, I was lucky to be able to make it so far without Welfare. The situation with that 15 year old girl you spoke of sounds a little exaggerated to me, but then again I don't know the guidelines from state to state. I haven't been with the father of my children in 6 years and I JUST got approved for food stamps a month ago...I've always been told up until now that I make "too much money" as well!! I have 3 children and I only get $250 a month in food stamps...which is nothing once summer camp starts and the girls all need a bag lunch everyday! I get rental assistance and free medical, which again was just approved last month. I got a lot of grants for school, but I still have over $6,000 in loans to pay back...and that was just for 2 semesters!! Like I said, I get frustrated as well, but only with those woman who abuse the system. I am trying my hardest to get off of all the assistance I get because I want to feel independant and I want to do for myself. I'm just grateful that I have the help now so I can better my kids lives for the future. Had thier father stuck around I would obviously not be needing the help, but sometimes you have to swallow your pride and take it. I'm just happy knowing that I'm not one of those woman who milk the system and live off of unemployment and Welfare. I'm proud of myself even though I need the help right now.

And for the woman who pretty much lashed out at you above...it's probably more productive to explain your oen personal situation on a question than to insult people. She has a right to her opinion and I'm not speaking for her, but I'm sure she didn't mean woman who REALLY need to b/c of abuse or rape. She's simply stating her frustration on woman who really do abuse the system...just an observation...

Answer 9

I do agree that there are MANY things wrong with the system in our country, but that doesn't mean that everyone is using and abusing it. I have to say that if there was one thing I would totally change it would be that everyone has an equal opportunity at an education...college included not just k-12 and that there would be better health care in the U.S. for everyone. If you really feel that strongly about the "abusers" of the system, which isn't everyone, maybe do some lobbying. Email your states senators, etc. Instead of being mad, do something about it.

Answer 10

Some people do fall on hard times, and I am glad that it is there for them. However there is this lady that I know who was married. She could not get assistance because between her husband and herself they made toomuch. So she not only quit her job, they also got legally separated so they could get assistance. They each have a brand new car now. They both live at their own apartments rent free, and they never have to pay electric, or water or anything. Free food, and get SSI. Yes people like that piss me off too. I will never hold it against someone who does there best though.