My boyfriend want me to break up with him, because I am graduating. What should i do?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for over a year! And he want me to break up with him because i am graduating high school and he is only a sophomore. and he doesnt want me to get out there and cheat on him, where he will not get hurt so bad. But i cant break up with him, i love him too much!

The real deal is, we are in complete love with each other! DONT TELL ME WE ARE TOO YOUNG, because you are never too young to fall in love! And also people he doesnt want to get hurt, his mom got hurt, because his dad cheated on his mom. DONT TELL ME ALL THIS BS ABOUT HE IS NOT IN LOVE WITH ME, YOU DONT KNOW HIM, learn to judge who is in the mirror.

Answer 1

Like it or not, you're already broken up. If he wants to break up, you are. He sounds like he's actually being realistic. It's you who are clinging to the past - you need to move on, go off to college and meet people your own age. You'll be maturing fast (I hope) and getting ready to start your own career and life.

Answer 2

It sounds like he has more sense than you do. Both of you are too young to be in serious relationships. You're way too young to know what love is, and you won't know that until you're older and have more life experience under your belt. Over the next 5-7 years, you will be growing and changing a lot. You will meet new and interesting people at college, you will mature, and you'll figure out who you really are and what you want out of life. What you have now isn't real love, it is a childish faximile.

Break up with him, and then focus on clooege and a career. Date, have fun, play the field, and then when you are in your career, you can think about having a serious boyfriend.

Trust me, it will save you both hurt in the long run.

Answer 3

Your boyfriend is manipulating you, maybe not intentionally, but still, he is.

I'm not saying you should break up with him, but you need to step back and control the drama. He's putting the big guilt trip on you, there's no way that'll ever be good in the long term.

When he wants something he'll use it again, if you reward him for it.

Give him attention, talk about things you'd like to do together, but don't cave to the guilt trip. It won't stop in two years when he graduates.

Answer 4

Well, you simply honor his wishes and break up with him. You cant force someone to love you and stay with you. Move on and enjoy life you are young. If the two of you are destined to be..it will work out, even if you break it off now. Everything is a learning experience..learn what you can from this..move on and make him wish that you were still his alone. Best of luck.

Answer 5

Don't put your life on hold just for a guy... If he doesn't want to see you anymore cause your are about to graduate...Then he isn't really worth the hassle in life... Graduate, make something of yourself... Don't base your life around someone else's.... Do what is better for yourself.... Break up with him if that is the way he wants to be about it....im 24 recently divorced after a 7 year marriage... I was scared to be successful for 7 years... Cause I thought my place was to be a full time working wife and housewife.... Let me tell you... ever since I got a divorce, Im not scared anymore,.... I go to college and im bettering myself for my future..... take it from experience.... don't let anyone hold you back from what you want to do.....

Answer 6

Sorry, I have to be synical. From a guy's perspective, I'm going to tell you to take his clue. He's telling you that it's over and that he wants out. But he doesn't want to be the bad guy. Break it off, count your blessings and be grateful. "Freedom" can sometimes be a prison cell, but you'll have to work passed that and realize that he already has his eye set on someone else. You're young, enjoy life and, may it be a long, healthy and prosperous one. Go to college.

Answer 7

He sounds insecure. Maybe he wants to break up because he is interested in someone else probably his own age. If he wants the break up, then why does it matter if you get with someone else?!? Does he not trust that you will be loyal to him?!? He sounds pathetic! You can do better than that. Ditch him and move on. He obviously doesn't know what he wants. Good luck!

Answer 8

tell him that you are wanting to stay with him and refuse to break it off. It's not your fault you're older and are graduating.... that doesn't change the way you feel about him. But, if he's insecure and doesn't trust you then that might cause a lot of fights and y'all will end up breaking up. He needs to decide if he can accept the fact that y'all won't be in school together and trust you and not give you a hard time.

Answer 9

Let him know that you still want to be with him and that you won't cheat on him. If he can't trust you with that, after over a year, then you guys should break up. Tell him to break up with you! Why do you have to break up with him? HA HA HA...strange... Anyway, best of luck to you!

Answer 10

YOUR boyfreind dont want u to studymore because if u will become graduate his male ego would be hurt.
Most of the men dont want there girlfreinds or wives to be more sucessfull then themselves as they r boys and have too much superiority complex.
If his ego is more than your aspirations and he calls it cheating to study at higher level HE DONT LOVE U.
THATS THE BEGINING WHO KNOWS WHAT MORE HE WILL EXPECT FROM U.
ITS UR DECISION.
BUT REMEMBER IF U GOT GRADUATE U WILL GET GOOD JOBS AND WILL HAVE A BETTER LIFE.
INDEPENDENT LIFE..