wat do u do when ur living with ur boifrend and his mom hates you?

Question

yeah so um i've been with my boifrend for about 7months now and im having some family issues and i moved in with his family. me and him have been fighting alot lately because he trys to control wat im doing where im going and who im with..im scared to do anything cause i dont want to get kicked out . his mom heard me talkin to my friend on the fone the other night and she got all mad cause i was talkin about him and she pretty much yelled at me and told me one day i was going to piss off the wrong person and get the **** kikd out of me..im sick of it but i dont really have much to do. i adore my boyfriend and have alot of respect for his mother as well, what do i do to set things straight?

Answer 1

You know what - - YOU are living in the HOME of HIS PARENTS -- and that is NOT RIGHT at this time.

YES, they DO have a right to be IRRITATED and ANGRY when you have taken advantage of them .. and I am sure that they are ALSO VERY UPSET about him bringing you into the home at this time as well.

I am also Positive (from having to survive my own children's teenage years -- and the nasty, abusive, hormonal raging idiocy that comes with that state of being) that this is NOT the whole story -- and that you have taken advantage of them as well -- in fact, I could definitely state (as a Long Term Single Mom) that teenagers THINK that they are 'owed' a living (quite a bit of times actually) -- and that the parent is the servant, slave, and yes, should bow down and take the abuse teens heap on them.

I know how it is to be a parent and FED UP with the nastiness of a teenage child (or young adult), I know what it is like to work all the time, bring home the ONLY income in the home, and to be treated with Disrespect, contempt, and yes, have MY HOME and MY Property stolen, abused, damaged, etc.

Did you ask permission to use the phone? Did you thank them and help out in any way you can for the "privilege" of their care by taking you in at this time? Did you realize or even think about how much ABUSE that they are going through from YOUR parents and society in general by SHELTERING you and allowing you to 'shack up' with their Son in THEIR HOME at this time?

Do you even understand how much the food costs that you eat, how much of the utilities are increasing in cost because you are in their home, how they have to be very CAREFUL because .. god forbid, that your parents SHOULD SUE THEM in case something happens to you? Do you understand that putting a roof over your head is COSTING them -- space that they could use to have a SMALL RETREAT in the HOME That they WORK HARD FOR -- which you are selfishly using (instead of repairing your relationship with your parents), and that you are exposing them to the REAL possibility of having to RAISE ANOTHER Generation after you and this irresponsible son go out and have a baby????

THINK!!!!!! Yes, HIS parents are correct -- and I am SURE are SEETHING inside -- and that is for sure.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

It sounds like you need to try to figure out if you can your bf can come to terms with his concerns about your social life first.

Don't just stay with him because you are worried about getting kicked out - that is no way to maintain a healthy relationship.

His mom probably needs to mind her own f'ing business, but at the same time - you might want to see if you can do something to let her know that you care about her son. It doesn't have to be anything major - maybe just write her a letter or something.

Answer 4

Only solution is to move out. Not much you can do if ur under her roof...she makes the rules. Best to move out together and let your relationship have some breathing room.

Answer 5

You seem young. (I am not that old either) It sounds like you need to go home to your parents unless it is a life and death situation that you are dealing with there. If you are older then, you need to grow up and move out on your own. Either way it is his mom's house and you must respect her.

Answer 6

I dont know how old you are but If i were you I would try to find a place of my own.

Answer 7

move out