I meet an exciting man 12 ago. He was eengaged and i was nursing a broken heart. Forbidden love was great for a while but I knew it wasnt right. i moved city and jobs for a fresh start with life.
But my x's work took him to the same city. So we had an on off relationship. he wanted to make it a bit more permanent, saying lets talk. But i would not talk and i would not listen. Why? because he had two children and a finace and he lived with them. I told him leave me alone until your sorted and i meant it. But he knew i liked him and always managed to make me give in, well ocassionally especially when i was low. catch 22 he didnt want to leave his comfortable life style and family unless i said yes i would be with him. But i couldnt be with him until he left his family of his own free will with out any influence from me. His family are now teenagers and nothings changed between us. he says he loves me. why has he lived with another woman(all be it on off) for the last 12 years and notme
2007-05-03 01:55:26 · 5 answers · asked by Mam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
because at home he is safe he is worried he will leave them and u go an say no to him wantin u
u been very good in making sure he leaves his family for the right reasons but its been 12 years say yes and have him u sound perfect for each other who cares u only live once grab every chance of happiness u can
2007-05-03 02:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it sounds like he has had his cake and eaten it too. He knew that you would not say yes to being with him as long as he was with his wife and kids so that is the line he used because it was safe. He also knew that you were hung up on him and that he could keep you dangling in there. Sorry but you have wasted 12 years of your life and if you continue with this relationship then you are going to waste even more of your life. Surely you realize by now that he is never going to leave his family for you. How many more years are you going ot waste having an affair with a married man? Wake up and smell the coffee girl...and find a man that is not married!
2007-05-03 02:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wasting your life waiting for this guy. Are you going to wait another 12 years to find yourself in the same situation?
2007-05-03 02:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I FEEL HE IS FULL OF IT. IF HE REALLY WANTED
TO BE WITH YOU THEN HE WOULD HAVE ACTED
ON IT RIGHT THERE AND THEN. AND THEN TO LET
12 YEARS GO BY- WHAT THE HELL??????????
I THINK YOU SHOULD MOVE ON WITH UR LIFE.
WHY SIT AROUND AND BE LONELY, WONDERING
AND WAITING WHILE HE IS OVER THERE WITH
THIS FAMILY LIVING HIS LIFE, RAISING HIS KIDS,
BEING A HUSBAND TO ANOTHER WOMAN. I DO
NOT WANT TO BE RUDE BUT PLZ DO NOT BE SO
NIEVE. WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE,,,,,,,,,,,,,
I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK............
2007-05-03 02:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by Rosemary M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bust. Firstly, he didn't make you do anything. You did it on your own free will. Own up to your mistakes. Stay away from him. He has a wife & kids, you have no right to break-up that home. Whether it is a happy one or not.
2007-05-03 02:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋