Athiest Parents?

Question

How can you look into your children's eyes, and see the best part of them and tell them that they have no purpose in life? How can you tell them that they are only loved conditionally and if they make a mistake they will not ever be able to move on from it?
Do you teach them that there is no hope?
Do you teach them that community is just a bunch of houses?
How do you encourage them to be the best they can be if they have no strong background to place thier faith love and respect?
What do you use as discipline and example? Why would you want to teach them to be so hurtful to others.
I just do understand. It is one thing for you to say, I don't believe in God, but to raise your children without structure, community or fellowship.
Why would you do that to them and still make claims that you love them.
Without God in your life, how long would that love last? Until they hurt you?

Answer 1

WHAT IN THE WORLD??? WHAT the heck you talking about??!!!!?? Who tells their children all this rot?!? My children know that they are the most loved, beautiful, talented, brilliant and thoughtful people in the whole wide world. Their hard work and dedication to their COMMUNITY and studies have earned both my girls scholarships to prestigious private colleges. They have made mistakes , they have LEARNED from them instead of asking some imaginary guy to forgive them of their mistakes. The only forgiveness they need is from the person that they may have hurt. It is hard enough having to worry about offending your neighbors much less having to worry about a God too... NO hope?? no hope for what ??? an afterlife ? my children are even smart enough to know that dead is dead. We place our love and respect with our families and fellow man. Even if there was a God he doesn't want love just worship. My children are not hurtful to others they treat everyone as they wish to be treated ... with honor respect and dignity. Even when I did believe in God my children still came first before everything and they have my undying love...I seriously think you were just wanting to make people mad and start fusses with such a derogatory question--OH WAIT???!! YOU CAME FROM ONE OF THOSE HOMES RIGHT???? the abusive ones? or was it a Christian orphanage?? Sorry for the outburst I suppose I should pity you since you don;'t know any better

Answer 2

To start with the last question: that love will last as long as I will. Even if my children would hurt I would still love them. Maybe if they become real monsters I will stop loving them (I would however still love them the way they were when they were younger).

This and the rest of your questions is just pure nonsense. Being an atheist does not mean that nothing in this world matters (actually for a christian that would be more likely, since the time spent on Earth is just one stage, for us atheist it is everything). Everyone can move on from one mistake.

Etc. etc. I don't know where you begot these very strange opinions about atheists. Maybe you should meet one some day.

Answer 3

My troll sensor is twitching, but....

Please take the time to actually read this.

I am an atheist parent. My children have great purpose in life, and know it.
They are loved unconditionally, and know it.
They are filled with hope.
They are being raised to be value and contribute towards their community.
They have an infinitely strong background to lace their love and faith and respect, and they need no encouragement to be the best they can be, as it is in them.
They are very disciplined (not as much as Id like, but what young children are?) And they know full well not to be hurtful to others.

I have loved and will love my parents my entire life, and have no reason to think my children will be any different (knock on wood).

It is immensly insulting, ignorant, offensive and arrogant to think that structure, community and fellowship are dependant on faith in your fictional being.

You are a horrible, misguided human being.

Answer 4

It is a presumption on your part that atheists don't believe in unconditional love for their children, a belief in working in a community, and trying to be the best they can be. I have raised my son as a fine, law abiding, non-racist person who has a mind of his own to judge what he feels is the best way to live his life. He is studying to be an astro-physicist. I love him, because he is my child, and he knows that my love is unconditional, no matter what he does. I may not like some of the things he may do, but it will never diminish my love for him.
He has a strong background of hope, love and respect from his atheist parents and both sets of atheist grandparents, who are all well educated, respected members of their respective communities. He knows that if he makes a mistake you take responsibility for it, and work towards righting it. I have taught him never to be hurtful to others, not even to be rude to people he does not agree with, but to listen to others ideas and beliefs and judge them on their merits.Obviously that's not how you do it, so do you teach your children to be rude to people of other faiths and beliefs? How Christian of you!

Answer 5

There is no hope, purpose, or love in a childs life without the fairie tale of a god? What a shallow, limited, and controlled life you must live. It is much more loving to teach your children the realities of life than to allow them to be controlled and programmed by a fairie tale.

Answer 6

Good Lord. If that were the case, I wonder how I survived being brought up by MY parents. Obviously, since I'm not the one asking an idiotic question, I can only assume that something is seriously lacking in your upbringing.

You are either extremely stupid or intensely delusional for asking such a question.

And for the record, we're brought up the same way the rest of the non-religious world are. And currently, we still outnumber the religious.

Answer 7

Wow! You're really assuming alot there.
Love is doesn't need a god to be non-conditional, nor do you need one for forgiveness.
Hope has existed for thousands of years regardless of the particular non-existent god(s) people believe in.
It's easy to encourage them to be the best they can be.
Who says I'm raising them to be hurtful, as far as I can tell they're kind, courteous, and very tolerant.

Just because you need a religious reason for these things, doesn't mean that one is actually required.

Answer 8

Nonsense!

How do you account for many wrongs done by religion? How do you look your children in the eyes and tell them that deity told America to go to war and cause untold suffering to the children in Iraq?

How do you smile to your children and whisper in their ears that your God killed Egyptian infants?

How do you tell your children that your God has alternative morality based on which religion one belongs to?

Who told you that community structures are anchored on your God?

You want me to lie to my children that they can only do their best if they belong to a god?

And who said to you that Atheists lack parental discipline?

How many people are getting hurt by Atheist while religious people - especially Christians and Muslims are killing each other as if there's no tomorrow?

Answer 9

I don't need a God in my life to feel like I have purpose or worth. I have self worth and independence.....and that's the example I will set for my children. I will not, however, push my beliefs onto them. If they choose to pursue a certain religion, they have every right, and I will not discourage them. Its pathetic, the close-minded views you have on atheists. Next time, think before you type such ignorant opinions.

Answer 10

like most religious drivel you hear on here, your talking out your a***e, just because parents arent forcing religion down their kids throats, and quite rightly so they should make their own choices,you assume they're being brought up badly. Why does being an athiest mean that you are teaching them to be "hurtful to others" ??? your a classsic example of an ignorant ignorant person, who cant open your mind and see past your own beliefs.