What to do?

Question

I have an eating disorder and my parents know and they won't to thearpy with me i'm trying my best to be better and they don't seem to want to know what happend in group or what i do to help me not barf again my cousin always has to take me and my parents are all like "You did this not us so deal with it" i get so stressed because my parents are so not supportive about this HELP!

by the way I have bulimia and i used to barf 3-5 times a day and they don't seem to care I they make me want to start barfing again

Answer 1

i think that deep inside your parents really do care about you. i had the same situation, although i had bipolar and not an eating disorder the scenario is the same. it's not until something horrible happens that they seem to take interest as bad as it sounds. take about this in detail with your therapist, and try your hardest to get a family session set up. by law they are required to take care of you and if they ignore this its a form of neglect. please try your hardest. if all else fails just know that you have faith in yourself and that your strength will get you through this tough time in your life. things will get better. good luck and best wishes.

Answer 2

Its a pity some parents get so busy in their lives that they forget their responsibilities towards their kins! anyway, you cannot and need not change them, they'll come around in their own time!
Meanwhile, the best way is to take help of your close friends or cousins or immidiate people in the family. I am sure you'll find someone supportive enough to hear you out and help you overcome your disorder (which may be more due to stress than any other thing!)

Answer 3

Sounds like your parents are confused and probably in denial and don't know how to deal with what your going through. They may need more time to come to grips with your illness. Have you tried leaving some brochures regarding eating disorders around the house. Meanwhile you should try to get involved with a peer group and get some support, it helps to know your not alone.
Good luck

Answer 4

you need all the supprt you can get --- but if your parents will not ; or cannot --- for whatever reason --- you need to call in the troops aka your friends .
this is not an easy time for you and you should not be subjected to what im would call ' cruel minded ' comments --- but you hang in there missy --- there are places of sanctuary for anyone with any problem --- and you need to look no further than your phone book --- whether it be lifeline or whoever --- do that before anything else . but don't feel alone and rejected --- like i say try to talk to someone --- anyone who is real; and on this planet !! --- i won't get personal ( about your folks ) you keep your chin up and good luck --- there will be light at the end of the tunnel --- trust me .

Answer 5

sweetie i know it hurts but the reason why they arent reacting to it is because they dont know how to.It seems like your the oldest in the bunch and had to do eveything. I know you are going through some stress right now, but you need to understand that some parents feel the need to be hard on you, so you can have a good life. If they try to talk this out with you, they will probally burst out in tears! and its probally not usual for them to do that. so they wont. just try to talk to a counselor. hope you feel better!

Answer 6

WOW.. I am really sorry to hear about your struggle. Congrats on being strong enough to face this on your own. Your parents should be ashamed of themselves for not supporting you in a time where you obviously need it. Reach out to those people in your life who are there for you, like your cousin and your friends or even your grandparents if available. Its situations like this that let us know who we can really count on in life. Maybe even seek out a counselor, priest, pastor, or support group for yourself. The link below has an on-line community. GOOD LUCK- I'll keep you in my thoughts.

Answer 7

Your parents are selfish and horrible! Most of all, they simply don't understand. Your school most likely has a counselor that will be able to help. Even a hot line to call. Do whatever it takes to get well. Good luck.

Answer 8

See http://familydoctor.org/common.xml and I suggest practising one of the 5 relaxation techniques at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 2, and noting the tips at the mental-health-abc & conquering stress websites. If you don't accept responsibility for your actions, you will severely restrict the chances of improvement: we all have the power within us to change, but it takes work, and is not quick or easy, so persevere.

Answer 9

Well... you have options depending on the state that you live in.

In PA, if I remember correctly, anyone over 14 years old has the right to seek therapy for themselves regardless of what their parents want. Your state probably has similar laws.

You can also consider calling Child Protective Services either on the state agency level through the Attorney Generals Office, or your county's office. Eating disorders like yours are life threatening, and would be of interest to Child Protective Services for several reasons including:
- risk to a child's life,
- the lack of proper effort of the parents in providing needed care,
- as well as the likelihood that your eating disorder, and lack of parent effort to provide care are strong indicators of a pattern of parental child abuse.

In Pennsylvania as of May 1, 2007, *any* adult professional. that has care or supervision of children, is required by law to report child abuse even if they have never met or seen the child or the abuse..... Your therapy providers would be mandated by law and punishable as a felony to not report abuse in PA.

Answer 10

It is sad but sometimes mental health professionals have to work with kids to be okay even if their parents are not supportive. I am sorry they won't help you with this but you can get through this without them if you have to.