Ok... so i have this long time friend "lauren".. we met back in high school and have always had alot of chemistry between us. We have crossed paths since then several times and each time sparks flew, about 5 years ago we sort of dated but we both have a huge fear of commitment and slowly drifted apart. Thru fate(so i like to think) we met by random chance 5 days ago thru friends again and we are both single. She invited me to the beach last weekend and it was great, it was like no time had passed at all. I havent laid a single hand on her and am trying very hard to slow play the situation. (We have had sex several times in the past). At the end of this month we are going to FLA. to visit her parents in their new house.. should I make a move before then or wait until it has a significant moment.( i know sappy right) but for serious I really like her and have my vibes on her feelings towards me but I'm unsure. Whats the best course of action. I want more than just sex......
2007-05-02 20:53:58 · 8 answers · asked by jonathan b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make a move. She obviously still likes you if she invited you to the beach and now to her parents house. She wants something to happen between you. It seems like the kind of relationship that you two have is the only dating o.ne- you cant just be friends, it has to be something more. So go for it, im sure it will go right
2007-05-02 20:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, Jonathan, you sound like such a nice guy. In one of those moments when you're having deep discussions, find a way to explain this to her. Sooner rather than later. Age changes a person, so you both may no longer have the fear of commitment you once had. There are other forms of commitment, too. You two can build whatever kind of relationship that will work for you. Relationships change over time and people change, too. It would be nice if you could change together.
2007-05-02 21:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 22:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well wait until the perfect time in Florida to emerge. I would say like at the beach in a romantic setting. whats the hurry, you've liked each other for this long. make her feel special and I guarantee you'll have more than just sex.
2007-05-02 21:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by surfingbeanpole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, cute. Well start by flirting and see what happens. if that works then tell her how you feel and add in the more then just sex thing. If she's meant to be then she will be into trying it again. Over time fears have a way of dissipating.
2007-05-02 20:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until it has a signifant moment like after marraige. YOu do not want her to feel used, not in the slightest bit. YOu have a second chance, don't blow it!
2007-05-02 21:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by L L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely wait until a significant moment unless she makes the move on you first - then go for it
2007-05-02 20:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want more than sex. don't rush things.
Intimacy will come when it is the right time.
2007-05-02 21:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋