I met this guy a bout a month ago and we've been getting to know each other, he seemed lovely, always complimenting me etc. The other day he stayed over at mine and we had sex, he didnt leave til the morning, phoned me ad text me during the day and asked if he could come around yesterday. I said yes and he said about 8 ish...He didn't show and now i dont know what to think.
2007-05-02 20:09:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try to find out what happened. If he avoids you when you ask him, then, yeah, you're better off without him. You never know, though; people can have unexpected trips to the hospital or something.
He'd better have a good reason, though!
Good luck
2007-05-02 20:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the chances are that now he's got what he wanted from you he's happy and that was the last that you will see of him. However hopefully that isn't the case. Send him one text and try phoning him once just to see how he is, don't be clingy or demanding or anything like that just see how the dust lies. Then depending on he reaction or non-reaction you will know. If he's sorry for not turning up and he says that the two of you should meet up and he sets a firm date then that is a good thing. However if he's vague and non-committal then you have your answer. (However if he reacts in the latter way try not to let it upset you too much because he's just not worth it. Move on and find someone true)
2007-05-03 03:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything - if he has a genuine reason for not showing, he will contact you full of apologies - and SOON. If he doesn't and isn't dead/in a coma/experiencing amnesia, then he's treated you appallingly and you should put it down to experience and move on. If he comes back apologising after a few days and trying to talk you into bed, don't let him - you know what the score is now - and tell him that no apologies necessary, because you wanted him to come round so you could tell him kindly that it just wasn't working for you. Leave him wondering what he did so badly that you don't want any more, and it'll serve him right.
2007-05-03 03:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no phone call or text to apologise? I think you know what the answer is. He's had his fun and is moving on. Shame that he rang you that made a date and didn't bother to turn up, that's bad manners at the very least.
Some guys just enjoy the chase and leave after they've 'caught' you ..... there's no more game for hm now.
Move on with your life, find someone better with manners!
2007-05-03 05:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a genuine reason that he didnt turn up but if he didnt contact you to tell you he couldnt make it then it looks like he may have just used you, but asked to meet up with you again knowing he wouldnt turn up just to make you think that he was interested!
If this was the case then you are definitely better off without him, find someone who genuinely cares about you and loves you for who you are not just for sex!
Good luck and take care x
2007-05-03 03:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by missthong2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect you have been used. If he'd be serious, at least he could have called and offered an explanation.
I, in your place, would not put up with it and look silly. I would call him and tell him that his behaviour is unacceptable and that you demand respect and not to be stood up.
This is something you own your self-respect.
Listen to what he has to say and take it from there. Do not just put up with it by ignoring it. This will only signal to him that he is getting away with his behaviour.
2007-05-03 03:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by Eugene 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well part of me is thinking your well rid if hes gonna treat u that way sounds likes hes just after one thing....but then again i was stood up once by my bf and i was fuming he never called the next day he came over all apologetic he was at the hospital all night his dad had a stroke...what i'm saying is thats it is just possible theres a good reason for him not showing up as well
2007-05-03 03:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by tracyw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps there was a good reason why he didn't show up. Contact him again to find out what happened. From the way he answers, you may realise his intentions and know if he intends to see you again.
2007-05-03 03:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by Beanbag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe something came up? and like all us men we tend to forget what we said were going to do then upset the person we were meant to be seeing initially? or there could be other reasons and he just isnt man enough to say!!
sit back and let him call 1st dont chase it was him at fault ok
2007-05-03 04:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by Phil B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave in too easy . He stoood you up, which means you aren't important to him. Make sure you are in a relatioship before you sleep with a guy
2007-05-03 03:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋