So, I had a meeting with my son's school the other day, and his teacher thinks he should skip a grade. I know that he is smart enough to handle 4th grade, but emotionally I think it could seriously do damage. He has mild ADHD and ODD, and is in therapy for behavioural issues. I know most of the trouble at school comes out of sheer boredom, but his impulsive behavoiur makes it hard for him to make freinds and I think taking him away from the few he already has would be a bad idea. Any thought or experiance?
2007-05-02 19:59:55 · 7 answers · asked by binglejells2003 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Hi! I'm a teacher and mom. Personally, I did grades one and two in a year, and though of course it was better for me academically, it was horrid socially, which truly affected me all the way through to high school!
Then, my husband and I had a gifted child! We decided that what was best for him was to stay with his regular grade, but that with our hard work at home to enrich him, as well as with co-operation from the school, it would be fine and we could do enough to challenge him.
Different school systems handle this in varied ways - find out if your schools have an enrichment program, or at least that the classroom teacher is willing to do things within the regular classroom that will challenge him. As parents, you need to ensure you are enriching him at home, etc. with working on his passions (cars, space, whatever it may be).
In your son's case with the behavioural issues, I think it would be too much to ask of him, to take him away from his peer group. And, if a kid goes ahead a grade, you really don't keep in touch as closely with the kids in your former grade - it's just not the same... that's what I experienced myself.
Meet with the teacher, the principal, and the school psychologist, and see if all of you can work something out.
Good luck!
2007-05-03 03:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter skipped Second Grade. I thought it was a good idea at the time but it ended up being really hard for her to make friends, she got bullied alot too. She didn't like being the youngest in the class and because of all the emotional stuff she didnt do that well.
I ended up having her repeat a grade the next year so she could be with her own age group. She did well and is now doing great in school.
I would advise you follow your gut and leave him where he is. You're the mom and you know best. Besides, whats the rush?
2007-05-02 20:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When i was in kinder-garden i went to first and second grade classes for reading and math. If your child gets bored and you don't met the challenges for him then he will suffer for it later (i had one teacher that refused to put me in a higher math ( had me repeat a math i passed with a b) and it went down hill from there. If your don't think he is ready emotionally to skip a grade see if he can attend one or two classes in the above grade or get in touch with Sullivan's (the tutoring school, they also have advance work if your child isn't challenged at school)
2007-05-02 20:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by jalopina98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one in each of my nephews has continuously been in worry in college because he's disruptive. After years of shifting into strife, he had a sparkling instructor who did not comprehend him. the instructor as we communicate suggested that he develop into bored and targeted slightly attempt on him. He got here first in that classification (it really is intense college), and under no circumstances merely first yet through miles! the instructor counseled he bypass a grade and get with senior youngsters who were gaining knowledge of added stepped ahead issues, as this may project him. the college, besides the indisputable fact that, did not have the ability to allow him to attempt this for the time of a unmarried classification and under no circumstances others. My sister suggested their suggestion and for this reason her son is now planning to leave college early because he hates it a lot, is continually bored, keeps shifting into worry, etc. For the 12 months he had the hot instructor, he more advantageous in his behaviour and his different grades also more advantageous. If the college is supportive and recommending that your son bypass ahead, they ought to judge that he's smart adequate to '%. up' the training he needs. not everyone learns in a linear way, gathering incrteasingly complicated training as they bypass ahead. some human beings study through doing extra complicated stuff, and going back and filling contained in the info leter. Your son might want to be someone like that. i might want to say, provide him a probability, yet computer screen it and examine with him about it frequently, If he reviews an over volume of rigidity or feels 'left in the back of', you may want to re-examine at that element. discover out from the college if he can 'bypass back' if issues do not workout consultation. solid success to you both :-)
2016-12-05 06:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by menut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your son about it. My son was the same, and he begged to be put in classes that were more challenging, but the community I live in does not do that. Your son may be so bored that he would be willing to be moved up a grade. He may even make better friends because he will find children that he can better communicate with .
2007-05-02 20:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is in kindergarten and was advanced enough to go to first, but they did not recommend it due to her lack of emotional maturity. I have kept her in K. but they give her extra homework. Friends are really important. I think you should get his input. Maybe you can get the teacher to give him harder or extra work.
2007-05-02 20:11:09 · answer #6 · answered by mom2nandn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not let him choose? Also remind him that once he makes the decision there is no turning back.
2007-05-02 20:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋