Fear of Death?

Question

It is destroying me like a shattered glass.I need some sort of assurance opnions from all voices would be greatly appreciated

Thankyou.

i fear nothingness.

Answer 1

Death comes to us all. We get through the day by realizing that the gift of life is living it as best as we can.

Answer 2

The fact is that death in itself is a scary thing. Nothingness is scary.The warning God gave to Adam was that if he sinned by being disobedient to God, the consequence was death. (Genesis 2:17) The Bible says that wages sin pays is death,(Romans 6:23) we all sin so we all die. That verse goes on to say though, that the gift God gives is everlasting life. This is what we were meant for. God created man to live not die. That is why despite the fact millions have gone before us and it is an every day occurrence, we still do not look forward to it and we all experience some fear when we contemplate the possibility of our own imminent death.
Personally I worry more about the people I will leave behind to grieve than my own demise. When my mother passed I remember thinking, "I never want my children to feel like this" I had lost my maternal grandmother some months earlier. I loved her dearly and grieved her passing. But it was nothing like the grief I felt when my mother passed. I just don't want my loved ones to feel like that.
However what has given me comfort is the fact that my mother and grandmothers are alive in Jehovah's memory and he will re-create them in the flesh so that I can hug and kiss them and enjoy all the things we used to do together again, except their will be no sickness or negative forces to dampen our joy. (John 11:21-27, Revelation 21:1-4, John 5:28, Matthew 22:31-32)

Answer 3

What better motivation to lead the best life you can than the knowledge that one day, it's all going to end.

There's one thing to consider when it comes to death that no one else has mentioned yet...

To be alive requires food, right?

You know that old saying, "you are what you eat?" Actually it couldn't be more true. You are food.

Think of all the animals, the plants, and all the other life you have affected on this planet by the simple act of eating. Even if you are a vegetarian, those fields of wheat are not only alive, but they take away the natural habitat of many animals who would have been alive had the field not been cleared in the first place.

After all of that, in death, humans finally get the chance to give back as we become food for another creature (who is eaten by another creature, etc, etc)...

Welcome to the community of life.

That's hardly nothingness.

Answer 4

We shouldn't fear the inevitable. I think the mere fact that all of us will one day die is ample reason to try our best to shrug the feeling off, unless we're facing immediate danger where fear could help us live another day.

Basically, I'm of the opinion that we shouldn't sulk with depression or quiver in fear of death because that, in itself, can have a damaging effect on your one and only life.

In a way (a very unseemly way), spending your entire life fearing death is kinda like a guy watching a movie who is so absolutely distracted by the dreadful thought that the movie is going to end sooner or later that he hardly even pays attention to the movie, let alone be very entertained by it!

You spend your life well by enjoying it, relishing it. You enrich your life by caring for the lives of others. You waste your life by brooding about it's eventual end.

By no means am I saying that you should "life live like there's no tomorrow". Often that has the negative effect of hastening death's coming.

Additionally, a risk-free life is only slightly better than a life constantly afraid of death. They're almost one in the same. You might live a long life, but you would have little to show for it, not even experience or good memories.

I also don't think we should look for solace in believing that we don't really die, but are immortal and transcend our material bodies after physical death. From what I've seen, there seems to be not just a lack of evidence for such an idea, but contrary evidence. From what we can tell, our consciousness is irreparably tied to our material brains, and the concept of the afterlife doesn't seem to hold water because experiencing life is highly tied to having some type of physicality (eyes, hands, mouths, brains, etc.).

Believing in the afterlife, I think, is just trying to run away from the problem, or pretending that it doesn't exist. I'm fond of quoting the poet Edmund Way Teale: "It is morally as wrong not to care whether something is true or not, so long as it makes you feel good, as it is not to care how you got your money so long as you have got it."

I don't think we need to believe in things without evidence to live moral and meaningful lives, and in some ways I think they're obstacles to true happiness and a prosperous existence.

Answer 5

Well, it is fear of death and oblivion that caused primitive man to invent religion in the first place.

I have been there, we all have. I used to get more terrified thinking of infinity, rather than death itself.

All I know is, we all will die some day, and there is absolutely nothing I can do to stop that. At some point, one just has to accept that. It would be great if there was some sort of after life, it really would. But I don't think there is one. If there is, it is nothing at all like the religiots tell you.

The truth is nobody has a clue. I'm a scientist and an atheist and I will tell you honestly that I don't know. The believers should be that honest with you as well.

good luck, we all go through what you are. One of the curses of being highly evolved is that we are aware of our own mortality.

Answer 6

Been there, done that. I know it sounds weird from an atheist but there really is nothing to it.
Getting Resurrected hurt like a bastard though.

Now the big thing is to have your contacts and paperwork in order so that IF anything does happen your family are protected a bit.
The only thing I fear about dying again is that it might be painful next time.
The last time happened so fast there was no time to think about it.
Bam, then I woke up in hospital with tubes hanging out of me. No time to think about it at all.
It did point out the need to be prepared for the unexpected though.
Even if you are dead your kids still need new shoes.

Answer 7

I had a really bad car wreck in '96 and died twice in surgery then was in a coma for five days. I remember absolutely nothing, nothing good, nothing bad, just nothing. That's not really something to fear. There was no pain or sadness, unlike life. It wasn't like I was all alone in the dark. It was total absence of everything. I just woke up one day and I was in a wheel-chair with a nurse standing on either side of me. I'm much better now though, I think. :-)

Answer 8

Why the fear. Live the day to the fullest. Never delay what you want to or need to do to the next day. Forgive or ask forgiveness today. Tell people you love that you love them. Believe in GOD and put your trust in him . Play hard and work hard.
Usually the fear will appear, as you think there are many things you have not enjoyed and for your family. But live for the simplest pleasures of life and you will find life worthwhile.

Answer 9

You need to speak to the greatest counselor of all, God. Make sure you are right with Him.
My son who is 35 suffers from this also. He's not afraid of where he's going, he is saved. But it's the actual dying and will there be any pain.If this fear interrupts your everyday life then you need professional guidance to help you through this.
Good luck!

Answer 10

You don't have to fear death if you are a born-again Christian. Jesus died on the cross and was raised from the dead. When He was raised from the dead, He was showing that He had victory over sin and death. This opened the way for us to have fellowship with God the Father and ultimately dwell with Him in eternity.
Once you have the assurance of your salvation, no one can take that away from you. I'm not afraid to die because I know where I'm going when I do.
I wasn't like that before I accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior.
As the Apostle Paul said, To live is Christ, to die is gain.

Answer 11

Is it death you fear or the moment of death? Although as a Christian I do not fear what comes after death...in fact I look forward to it...I am afraid of the moment of death. In otherwords, what will it feel like? Will I be struggling to stay alive...to take that breath or to keep my heart beating? Those are the questions I ask.