2007-05-02 18:40:50 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
"hey, how's things going? are you busy? i was wondering if you received my letter...? so are you coming?"
sometimes they might have been so busy they forgotten, sometimes they didn't receive the letter. to be fair, lets play it this way.
ps - im an asian and we dont really ask if they want to rsvp via letter, but by calling or meeting them in person, but i thought it might be good to ask in your case.
2007-05-02 20:11:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd just call every single one of them and tell them you haven't heard from them if they are coming or not and you have to know for reservation and confirmation purposes with the place you're hosting it at. It is rude not to RSVP when it is on an invitation. We had a couple people that didn't RSVP last year with my son's party and as a result I was two swag bags short which annoyed me because I had no extra of anything that we bought for them to just "toss it together". I couldn't send anyone to just go get more either because it had been special ordered. It doesn't take much these days to send a quick email or make a fast call to say "we can make it " or "we can't do it".
2016-05-19 04:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call them, because assuming no-shows is just setting yourself up for trouble!!! Just say something like "I am sure you just didn't come around, but I would like to know if you can attend my event - I am so excited, and I need to have the numbers to finalize the planning" - so you don't sound mad or peeved, but just get the facts straight.
If they are normal, they will feel bad anyway (at least a little) and apologize for not RSVP. Note that you should always include a date - RSVP by the 1st of May - so guests know when you expect an answer, then by the 5-6 of may you can phone.
I would not do an e-mail or a text, because I would not want to send a reminder - but just get a reply, and that is well worth your effort.
2007-05-02 19:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by OneLilithHidesAnother 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they are being rude by not RSVPing before the date on the card, so you have every right to go and call them up to get an answer. If they are not sure they should have talked to you about it before the RSVP date.
2007-05-03 04:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a sit down dinner where you will need an exact count, than yes, you should call them. If it is more of an open house where people will be coming and going, then you shouldn't call them unless it is a large enough number of people to change the amount of food you are preparing.
2007-05-03 00:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by wendy08010 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, call them to ask. It's part and parcel of having a party. There will always be idiots out there.
2007-05-02 19:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. even tho they may devsie some dumb excuse as to whyt hey are not coming, it is important to know how many people you should expect at your party. just make sure to plan for extra becasue its better to have too much for your party than not enough! have a great time tho! byebye!
2007-05-06 03:12:46 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ rachie ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Even though many people don;t know what RSVP means, i would take it to mean they aren;t coming
2007-05-02 18:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just send them all a "generic'' text message, just type up something simple and not personal and forward it to all of them..
If they do not have the courtesy to let you know either way if they can make it or not, they are not worth your time or effort..
and if they show up unexpected, let them know you will try to accomodate them after your other guests...
2007-05-02 18:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope, assume they are not coming. That being said, keep a few open slots just in case some of them do.
2007-05-02 18:43:26 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋